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Originally Posted by Nyororin
I think what is trying to be said is that you shouldn`t expect a deep relationship when you are going out with someone just because of their race/nationality - and they are going out with you because of yours. Once the novelty wears off chances are there won`t be anything left to hold the relationship together.
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If that's what is trying to be said, then I have misread and I apologize.
But it doesn't seem like that with comments like "Japanese often date for the sake of it" and the "it's not going to work out" vibe people are giving off.
I understand that there are people with "yellow fever." And I agree 100%. It will more than likely end in failure.
Nyororin, you are a perfect example. You were interested in Japan and her culture at a very early age, moved to Japan, and married your Japanese husband because it's what you wanted. (I'm assuming.)
And as far as I know (and hope), things are going very well, have a beautiful son if I'm not mistaken?
Which is my advise to the OP, this is the ideal course of action to take.
BUT if it's an impossibility (job-wise) then start with the internet. I've met dozens of extremely close friends in Japan through the internet, all of which I correspond with daily. Boys and girls. (Maybe they are my friends for the sake of have friends, though
) And a few of them, have met in person.
Please don't listen to people saying "you're an idiot for going for a girl based on race" and "it'll never work" ect... Let them realize how sad they are down the road.
As for the meantime, God bless you and best of luck.