possibly pregnant, and needs help

[Akoni]

True, the guy is a disgrace to the male species and drunk or not, its rape. On the other side, a 15 year old should be safe at home and not put ones self in such a vulnerable position to begin with. Peer preassure isnt an excuse. We have free will over our own actions. At any rate, let this be a life lesson that shouldnt be repeated.

[Powermad147]

Sigh...I think maybe we're giving the wrong advice. IU'm not quite sure how to put what I mean in words...As close as I can get would be to say, "Yuri came here for answers and instead we are scolding her for something she did of her own free will." We should not be talking about HOW this happened, but what to do now. We started out doing that, be we seem to have shifted. I wish I was better at explaining myself...that wasn't exactly what I meant, but...-_-"

[MMM]

Originally Posted by Powermad147

Sigh...I think maybe we're giving the wrong advice. IU'm not quite sure how to put what I mean in words...As close as I can get would be to say, "Yuri came here for answers and instead we are scolding her for something she did of her own free will." We should not be talking about HOW this happened, but what to do now. We started out doing that, be we seem to have shifted. I wish I was better at explaining myself...that wasn't exactly what I meant, but...-_-"

I think you phrased that perfectly, and I agree 100%.

[Yuri]

heh, yes, in some ways i feel like im being scolded..[[puppy pout]] i understand what i did was wrong, but i need help on what to do, not help on how to prevent what i did

[YukiHohoemi23]

My sister was only 14 when she got pregnant by a marine too lol (darn another one ^_^ jk), it didn't stop her from going to school and getting a good education. Even now she has a good paying job and her baby girl is 3 years old, she's also expecting another one by the same daddy. She's 16 now and her boyfriend is 19 (there not married yet cause he's always away for his job but plan to in a year or so when he's done with the military). They were both drunk and were never really good people but now they have changed dramaticly. I always asked my sister why she never got an abortion or if she ever thought it was a mistake, at first she cried cause she was scared then as she started caring for her baby it just seemed worth it. She became what she wanted to be or well I should say she's on her way too becoming what she wants to be and thats a doctor.
I'm not my sister so I can't really give you advice on this stuff but don't think your limited when you have a family of your own ^_^.

[hypekstatic]

Originally Posted by Ronin4hire

Don't panic. You can have an abortion.

You might need counselling aswell to make sure this never happens again and to help you through the abortion as it can be a tough time for some women.

I'm sorry, not to sound controversial or anything (well, yeah i do.) but
in my OPINION, a guy should NEVER tell a woman to get an abortion.
You know when you get an abortion you still have to push the fetus out right?
Imagine that.... it's like a miscarriage.

Yuri, does anyone know FOR SURE that you had intercourse? I mean... thoroughly. Second, before you speculate things in the open, you need and I mean
GIRL, you HAVE to go to a doctors office and check it out. First of all you are
very young, and at a young age even if you decide to keep the baby, alot of
things can go wrong. If your period is regular, make sure to see if it has or
will skip. If you KNOW you are pregnant, then seek counseling, but really....
don't NOT do anything about it.

[NickVelvet]

First things first. The morning after pill is available up to 72 hours. I would go to a local pharmacy to confirm. You said this happened Saturday, so I would not waste any time. Hopefully the pharmacy will have them.

If that is not possible, of course the next step is a pregnancy test. I belive you need to wait about a week. Again check with a pharmacist. Of course you will buy two of them, or I think they come in packs of two nowadays as a way to confirm the first test. If both say positive you will still need to get a blood test to confirm. I would go to a Planned parenthood as someone else mentioned. Regardless I would pay a visit there anyway. You may want to think about getting tested for any std's.

If the blood test is positve I would talk to someone at Planned parenthood regarding your options. I hope it comes out negative. Then chalk it up to lesson learned.

Planned Parenthood Federation of America, Inc.

Good luck

[Akoni]

Alright, there has been some scolding. None of it was meant to be mean (at least not from me) but this is something potentialy serious and to be honest, drunk at 15 and potentialy raped- then worrying about being preg? If you went willingly and drank on your own, you DO deserve to be scolded at. Its called taking responsibility. Now for some gentle words because I hope you realize how serious it really is. Scared or not, talk to your mom or get a friend to take you to see a doctor. Please dont think it is ok because of the 14yo example. A young teen should not be pregnant period. For every good story, there is a bad one. There was a girl I had a huge crush on a long time ago, her name was Anna. Long story short, she got preg at 16 and all her dreams went out the window. She got fat and started to work at DQ, She got preg yet again and had twins. Currently she is in jail for child neglect. One action can change your entire life. Im going to step out of this thread now. I said what I came to say. The others should be able to help you more. Please take care of yourself and dont become another single mother that is struggling to survive. Baby or not, you should quit drinking. It's for the best 'cause it's never to late to change.

[kunitokotachi]

My question is what in the world are these Marines doing sleeping with 15 year olds and under. I remember an old say, "15 will get you 20." If those guys ever get investigated they might as well kiss their ass goodbye. That is a long long time in incarceration and having to worry about keeping the inmate community from trying to play "hide and go get it" with them.

[Ronin4hire]

Originally Posted by hypekstatic

[color="black"]I'm sorry, not to sound controversial or anything (well, yeah i do.) but
in my OPINION, a guy should NEVER tell a woman to get an abortion.
You know when you get an abortion you still have to push the fetus out right?
Imagine that.... it's like a miscarriage.

What? So because I'm not a girl I can't give advice about pregnancy and such? And I wasn't really telling her, just putting options out there.