If you had annoying classmates...

[Excessum]

Originally Posted by lulu

So, WHAT CAN I DO????? Please, I need some advice...

Well... you are a girl, use it to your advantage. There are numerous ways how to solve this situation. 1st thing that comes in-to my mind is to devastate their attempts of insulting you with complimenting them on something e.g. tell one of them that he has a cool shirt or something... that should leave them with their jaws opened for a second and may turn the events in-to your advantage.
The other way would be violence. Just track one of them down after the school and attack him from behind, preferably in a spot where there are no witnesses... as soon as your fist/foot/knee meets his face, you have already won the situation... 1st- kids who bully others usually have low self-esteem and are easy to overcome in 1 to 1 situations. 2nd after you have kicked his ass, remind him that if he does not leave you alone, you are going to tell everyone that he got beaten by a girl... he most probably won't tell this to his buddies at school anyways, since he won't want to be laughed at either. In the case he beats you, you can always lie and say that it was him who attacked you in the 1st place. Who are they going to believe? A prick who has been seen harassing you at the school, or a innocent girl with puppy eyes?
Or you can just try to hit on one of them when he is alone... the combination of above mentioned low self-esteem and his raging hormones would easy put you in the control of the situation and make him reevaluate you and his own actions... then just use him, manipulate him and humiliate him afterwards...
Meh, there are a lot of ways

[Nemhy]

QUESTION! what if ignoring them doesnt change ANYTHING?

[Hyakushi]

Did anyone read the persons post? she said not paying any mind to them doesn't work .

Heh heh I was always the bully in high school <.< . . . I would just beat them up all it will get you is a form of punishment (so they call it) by suspending you about 3 days. Or just make fun of them too, its pretty fun, you start to turn into a smart ass with a quick mouth XD.

[llama]

Awww...poor thing! I got bullied a lot when I was in middle school, so I know how it feels.

So is this actually going on DURING class? Where is the teacher in the middle of all of this? If it's serious enough, You should probably talk to the teacher or another adult about it. Because I know some kids can be REALLY cruel, and it gets to be more than just childish name-calling. So again, if it's really serious, you should get some extra help.

It's a bit difficult if ignoring doesn't work. But you don't want to give them the reaction they want, either. Often people tease because they want to see someone else become upset. So whatever you do, don't show that you're irritated. Just be casual about it. Just keep reminding yourself that their actions are childish. How old are they? Maybe you can tell them how stupid they will feel a few years down the road when they look back and remember how they behaved. :P

If you can be smarter than them, that might help, too. Someone else suggested being witty. So brush up on your wits!

If nothing helps, the only thing I can suggest is just be strong and wait it out. Show the maturity that they lack. They'll grow tired of it eventually, and you'll look the better person. Good luck! I hope things will get better for you. Bullies are no fun.

[MMM]

You need to involve adults. There is no other recourse. Middle-school level bullies are quickly thwarted after one trip to the Principal's office. Talk to your parents, talk to your teacher, collect evidence of their hazing (if they leave notes, damage things, write things on your locker, keep all that stuff.)

Keep a diary, and every time they do something, write it down. These kinds of documents are actually acceptable in court.

"Wednesday, April 9, 10:15 AM. OOO called be a "fat loser" in the hallway in front of room 101."

Hard evidence like this helps the authorities 1) beleive you and 2) feel comfortable in doling out an approriate punishment.

Think of the LAST think these bullies would want you to do. Generally, it's get them in trouble, so they do everything they can do to make sure you DON'T do just that. That's usually just tough talk. Without adult intervention, you are powerless, which is exactly what they get off on. Start talking, and let everyone know what's going on. No one likes a bully, and once they are exposed for the cowards they really are, it should all go away.

[chaseme]

i would provoke them on doing something physical against you
that way if you kick their balls you have a reason
or if they gang up on you, you might get hurt a bit but youll probably have the teachers and your classmates on you.
i prefer the kicking their balls though, and just back off a little usually your classmates would be near enough to stop them
if your not willing to get hurt or in trouble to uphold your pride, then dont.
You are bullied for a reason and thats because you let yourself to be bullied
***IMPORTANT DO THIS IN FRONT OF A CROWD

[NanteNa]

If I were you I'd ignore them. -_-''

Bullies give up when people do nothing and just ignore their existence.


Also you can always give them the "God I feel so sorry for your kind"-look. ^^ That helps everytime for me. AND you can look at them all "I know something you wish I didn't know...*smirk*".
It helps! Trust me..
... and if it doesn't
~ You're obviously not doing it right. : P

What do they do to you? O_o'' like.. call you stupid things or are they actually physical?

Nemphy@ If that's the case they're up to something. And I would definitely involve adults. O_O People who never give up ALWAYS got something up their sleeve.

[zubakusugar]

Remember to not act weak, or show that you're getting upset when they say things to provocate you. Most bullies are waiting for a special reaction, they want you to start cry, shout back or leave the classroom. And don't try to be "outstanding" on purpose because it mostly ends up with they've got a new thing to bully you for. (and you've to be "popular" from the start to be respected by everyone)
If you feel that you can't solve the problem by yourself or if it's getting outta control you've to contact an adult. And if you choose to talk to your teacher make sure it's a teacher who really understands the problem and don't make it worse with weak punishments or some "small talk". That'll only provocate the bullies to go on.
And Ignoring them is not a good way to solve it, because it will only make them find out more ways to tease you.
Are you alone in class or got some friends to sit with? If you're alone it's much easier for them to be mean, than if you've friends who can defend you. Or bring a friend to your class one day who you've told about the problem. Ask your teacher if it's allright, and take seat with him/her behind or beside the bullies. Bullies enjoy to sit behind their victim, 'cause it's easier to throw things at you and so on. They'll get more uncomfortable if you sit behind them.

If we're talking about real nasty bullies and not just teasers you've to talk to an adult immediately, because then they'll not stop unless you break down.

[lulu]

Thank you guys! I'll try everything!

Some people told me to ignore them. This is what I'm doing... They keep bullying...

Excessum: I wish they were boys... I know this may be the 1st time you hear that but THEY'RE GIRLS!!! And stubborn like mules...

Some people asked me if this happens durying class too. Yeah, they don't stop! Today, for exemple, we had Ancient Greek (I'm from Greece). The teacher asked me to conjugate a verb. I made a minor mistake and I heard one of them saying: "Wrooooong!!! You're irrelevant to the subject!!! HAHA!!!" I didn't pay atternion... But it's the... 47th time they do this to me I think... I've lost count!

[Jaydelart]

Stand up for yourself.
I say this lightly... But don't take it lightly.
Every action comes with a reaction, and you must be prepared to deal with whatever they'll do afterwards.

Bullying can be more complicated than most people would like to think... But it can be fixed by anyone.
Just remember that they're the one's doing wrong; not you.

Today, for exemple, we had Ancient Greek (I'm from Greece). The teacher asked me to conjugate a verb. I made a minor mistake and I heard one of them saying: "Wrooooong!!! You're irrelevant to the subject!!! HAHA!!!" I didn't pay atternion... But it's the... 47th time they do this to me I think... I've lost count!

I wouldn't recommend this... Because bullying can be different for everyone. However, I would have responded by telling them to "Grow up" (said loudly, for everyone to hear) or simply... Ignored them whilst not showing much sign of caring... Which, I probably really wouldn't have cared eitherway.

Don't misunderstand, I personally choose to ignore people like that... But it's not always the best thing to do.
If you're desperate for a change, you must take some kind of action.


*Also, take note: Even the little things can make a big difference. Think about it.


Give them hell... but don't lose yourself.
Good luck.