Advice!!!!

[gn1225]

Originally Posted by Suki

You shouldn't have told him so straightforwardly! That must have scared him off, even if he hasn't been acting any differently since you told him, he surely has a different opinion of you now =/

I would have second thoughts about spending a lot of time with a friend if that happened.

Anyway, why do his parents not want you around him? And why do yours? o.Ò I mean, ok, they think you're stalking their son, but if they do it's because you must have given them reason to believe so... yet you say you're not a stalker.

I think you should try to see and befriend more people, you can't just obsess over someone and expect them to be cool with it, and also you can't let yourself depend on one person; do something to overcome your shyness and be open to meeting new people

im gonna spend more time w/ my old friends
and his parents think im a stalker because at the very beggining of the year i used to follow him a lot (being friendly, i didnt even know wat i stalker was back then). see the thing was that @ middle school i didnt have many friends, especially american since i came @ the beginning of six grade and i didnt know english. so in high school he was one of the very first american male friends i was making. i felt happy that i was making friends so i followed him a lot >>with my best intentions, no bad things on my mind like his parents think.

[Gackt21]

Originally Posted by gn1225

haha how am i supposed to take care of my self and him?? like what do you mean?

I am saying take care of yourself first and let him find his way back to you.
If he is a true friend like you say he is he will make contact with you.
I am worried that you might actually get hurt when you find out that he does not want to be your friend anymore. That has happened to me.

[gn1225]

Originally Posted by Gackt21

I am saying take care of yourself first and let him find his way back to you.
If he is a true friend like you say he is he will make contact with you.
I am worried that you might actually get hurt when you find out that he does not want to be your friend anymore. That has happened to me.

haha thats what i fear, so i prefere not to leave him.
it has hapenned to me b4 w/ other people and i dont want to experience it again.
but yes i'll try to stop talking to him for a while to catch up w/ my old friends. if he doesnt come back to me like you say...then i guess..
haha i dont know what would happen, but it would be sad.

[Gackt21]

Originally Posted by gn1225

haha thats what i fear, so i prefere not to leave him.
it has hapenned to me b4 w/ other people and i dont want to experience it again.
but yes i'll try to stop talking to him for a while to catch up w/ my old friends. if he doesnt come back to me like you say...then i guess..
haha i dont know what would happen, but it would be sad.

We all do but their is a time and place for that.
If someone does not talk to you anymore it is time to move on and it is the hardest thing to do but it is what you must do if he does not want the friendship anymore. It is nothing you did. He is responsible for his actions. I am just telling you what might happen to ready you for that so you can deal with it.

[gn1225]

Originally Posted by Gackt21

We all do but their is a time and place for that.
If someone does not talk to you anymore it is time to move on and it is the hardest thing to do but it is what you must do if he does not want the friendship anymore. It is nothing you did. He is responsible for his actions. I am just telling you what might happen to ready you for that so you can deal with it.

:O
thank you very much ^_^

[Suki]

Originally Posted by gn1225

his parents think im a stalker because at the very beggining of the year i used to follow him a lot (being friendly, i didnt even know wat i stalker was back then). see the thing was that @ middle school i didnt have many friends, especially american since i came @ the beginning of six grade and i didnt know english. so in high school he was one of the very first american male friends i was making. i felt happy that i was making friends so i followed him a lot >>with my best intentions, no bad things on my mind like his parents think.

Following them around isn't quite the best way to show appreciation towards someone you care so much for. But I can understand you wanting to keep him close if he was the first friend you made in a totally new environment.

It's good that you have set out to make more friends. They do make life more bearable

[gn1225]

Originally Posted by Suki

Following them around isn't quite the best way to show appreciation towards someone you care so much for. But I can understand you wanting to keep him close if he was the first friend you made in a totally new environment.

It's good that you have set out to make more friends. They do make life more bearable

haha, i know following wasnt the best...but what could i have done isntead?
i really would like to know other ways to be friendly..cuz i dont want others to think im a stalker

anyways, I'm making friends w/ his friends, well most of them. They are really cool, i mean i was friends w/ them before but never really talked much but now we are
im also really good friends w/ his best friend..so thats really cool