how would you react if......how would you handle it..?

[Crani]

I agree with most of the people in here, tell your parents or in the ultimate situation another family member you feel more comfortable talking to and you are sure they will help you. I know a person who add a child at a very young age, and now a days the person taking care of her child is her mother. And if you're going to talk to your parents bring someone with you, your boyfriend would be the ideal one, but if he can or doesn't have the courage to do so, bring a friend or a bunch of friends, because this way the chances of you getting hurt are very small. But don't depend on your friends too much, because they don't have any obligation on helping or your children and at any moment they can just leave you and they will not be the ones to blame if they do that. And being pregnant is always a big pain in the neck, independently of your age, because the father may fly away the last moment , because they don't have such a strong connection with the child as the mother does and you never know at 100% the person you are dating and people change in the drop of a dime, and you're left alone raising a child on your own, and although I'm not a Christian myself nor do I believe in God, the image of god that's passed down to people is the image of a vengeful god who will punish you if you stray from your path, so this could be a punishment. But the point is, you should talk to your parents. I wish you make the best choice for you and for the baby and live a happy life.

[Shiningmonkey]

I don't believe in abortion and I think you should give the child up for adoption if you don't think you can take care of it.

[Pexster]

Originally Posted by Shiningmonkey

I don't believe in abortion and I think you should give the child up for adoption if you don't think you can take care of it.

agree i don't belive in abortion either. HA i belive i've made my point. Meh work is finished.

[sara666]

im only 13 but depending on your situation....abortion could be an option if you really feel that you couldnt take care of the would be child and dont want to risk getting any further along in the pregnancy. but also you should tell your parents..or someone else you trust who could help you. like my dad made it clear to me that it something like that were to happen to me that he wouldnt get mad at me...well he would still love me. i dont know what your relationship with your parents is so i wont say that they'll still love you no matter what but i think it might help to tell them. also what does the father think? even if it is ultimately your choice you should still know what the father of the would be child would want. i think that women have the right to abortion. ((imma girl 2))

[ThirdSight]

I'd freak out six sides to Sunday.

I have good reason, being a guy.

But since the subjects changed, I'd have to say that I believe in abortion, since it exists and all (it's like saying you don't believe in watches, you may have a slightly loose grip on reality).

[alchemistchild]

^^ I guess i believe in abortion too, though i don't think that it should be practiced.

[Yuri]

Originally Posted by Hyakushi

When my girlfriend got pregnant she didn't want to tell her parents either but I told her it was the right thing to do because I knew her mom wouldn't throw her out but her dad on the other hand back handed me like there was no tomorrow. He was going to beat her but I told him to beat me instead and I didn't fight back, he hit me untill he was out of breath. Later along the line he learned to accept his grandaughter which I was happy about even though he didn't approve of me.
Running away did cross our minds, we were young I was 16 and she was 15 we got halfways across Arizona and she couldn't go anyfurther from her family. When she was pregnant she lived with me because I didn't want to worry about her struggling with things alone and we could have made it. I'm happy with my daughter now even if her mom isn't around anymore she will always be the mother of my child and nothing can change that.

If you feel like you can't handle raising a baby then abortion is the thing to do, even if you don't believe in it. Adoption doesn't work out 80% of the time, I know because I was put up for adoption and never knew my real parents. Some people are evil and will not take good care of a child even though they tell the cops they will.

I'm happy we told her parents though because if we didn't and they didn't support us then I don't know what I would have done when she passed away and I had no one left to help raise the baby. Even with the support of her family I still went kind of crazy after lossing my girlfriend and so her mom and her younger sister took care of our daughter. Now I'm still trying to clean up my act and all of the work I'm doing is for my daughter because she has no one else but me left to look after her.

Thats a bit of my experience and a bit of advice, you can take it or not I don't care.

............Im really sorry about your loss......and it must have been hell for you when her father took a beating to you.....but....I cant tell them right away...but I promise to everyone here, whether they degraded me, stood up for me like a true friend, or just simply wanted to give me advice in hoping it would be taken to heart, I will tell my parents. But now I just need to think of how, and when. I need a plan before I just hack into the forest of more unknowns.