That time of the year has come when all you can think about is... Christmas presents.
So, we're approaching December and with it comes the craziness that is having to think of what to get everyone for Christmas. I don't know about you guys, but every year I find myself struggling to come up with something good to buy, like, I spend HOURS trying to figure it out. Is it the same for you guys? Cause I don't know if it's just me, but this whole thing gets on my nerves. Especially when a friend tells you how happy she is cause she came up with a great idea for a present, then she asks if you've thought of something and GAAAAAAAH I have a sudden mood swing. That bad. And it is wrong cause buying stuff for your loved ones is supposed to be a happy thing, something you do out of joy, but I get all stressed up and end up just getting whatever just to get it over with. Cause honestly... parents? I mean, what is one supposed to get for their parents? Like they don't have everything they need already! So really, I could use some help. Words of inspiration. Fresh ideas. Anything.
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One of the many things I love about being in Japan is being 1000's of km away from any family. Being so far away means I don't have to worry at all about getting any gifts for them all. We have a video skype chat on Christmas Day with family and that's about it. There's only my wife and child I need to get gifts for and we normally have some friends over for Christmas dinner. To be honest my wife and I rarely get each other anything but now with a kid Christmas takes on a bit more meaning again.
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Screw presents, Christmas break is always gift enough for me. lol
But, seriously, I don't think you're the only one that stresses over what to buy. Personally, I don't care whether I get no gift or the "wrong" gift, it's a bit corny to say, but I just appreciate hanging out with the family. I'd be grateful to receive anything at all. I don't know you or your family. But you do. You should have some idea of what they enjoy doing or what might interest them. An expensive gift is fine and all, but a meaningful gift can stay with a person for a lifetime. |
I like this pagan festival.
Off-topic edit: Yo suki 4-0. |
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our children never give us anything I don't expect them to. Being a part of the family is the most important and getting stressed over what to buy etc is unnecessary. I have to laugh when you say that your parents have everything already-- Are you sure about that? I should think that something hand made with love is precious. even a simple card telling them how much you love them. I hate this materialism. Christmas was about the birth of Christ-- How many people realise that? It should not be about expensive gifts. |
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And yes, they do have everything they need. My mom, I always get her a necklace or clothes. And it's the same for her birthday. And she likes it and wears it and goes around proudly saying she got it from her thoughtful doughter. But the truth is, I always go for that stuff cause necklaces and clothes, a woman can never get enough of them, not because I think it is something "special" or put much thought into it. Now the boyfriend part is even more complicated. I've never met a guy who owns half as many cothes as my boyfriend does. So the clothes option is out. I know what he'd really like would be a trip somewhere but I can only spend so much... Mind you, his birthday is only a few days away from Christmas, so not only do I have to worry about his Christmas present, but also his birthday present cause the dates are so close together! See? That's the stress I'm talking about x) So anyway, what are you all getting for your partners? |
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On her birthday recently for instance (we couldn't go away as we were both working) I got up early and made her breakfast in bed, let her stay in bed later than usual and got our little girl ready for day care. I had a birthday cake delivered to work (we work at the same company) and when we got home I ran her a bath with some relaxation bath salts I'd got her and she bathed whilst I cooked dinner. Finally gave her a card thanking her for all the great stuff she does in our marriage. Didn't have to worry about going out and trying to find the right gift. Just gave her a great day to remember and she definitely appreciated it. Think beyond just getting material items. Think about giving your mum an experience she'll remember for many years to come. Maybe tickets to a live show or something else she may be interested in or always wanted to do. Experiences you can look back on over the years are worth far more than some trinkets as far as I'm concerned. And never underestimate the value of a heartfelt card expressing thanks and your love for someone. That will work whether you're 5 or 55 or beyond. |
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What I was suggesting was that, whatever you got, they would most likely be grateful for. |
ha ha suki you are probably right about the card LOL.
If you already know wha tyour mum likes then there is no problem. I never expect anything fr0om my family-- lucky if I get a card-- but if we can get together-- thats the best pressie really. We've been married for over 46 years-- and long ago given up exchanging gifts. I always wanted records or CD's usualy chose my own LOL. We tend to give our gr children money especially the older girls.lucky if we even get a thankyou that really does make me mad. \we bought our gr son a helmet and gloves for when he rides his Moped now he is sixteen. a nice bouquet is always appreciated by some or a bottle of wine. I got a puppy for one of the teenage girls sa couple of months. all their family love the dog to bits-- so I think we have done our fair share. |
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As for my boyfriend..., what you did to your wife is truly amazing and you're right, I'm sure that made her day more than any other gift would have. However, everyone expects to get a little something for Christmas. Taking your time to make their day a special one is fine, but also they'd want something they can keep, not a big thing, but just a little something. It's Christmas, there has to be some unwrapping, right? x) Quote:
Dogs, those are all very nice prezzies! No wonder your grandkids loved them! :) My grandad always gives me money. It's easier for him cause he'd go crazy if he had to think of a present for each of his grandchildren (we're only 5, but still, he's not the type to go Christmas shopping), so the fact that you take the time to think of what's best for each of them is very cute. I mean, the money is okay, but I'm sure the appreciate the detail. |
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My sister's suddenly taken an interest in baking and she's moving into a new flat, so i've put together a little baking kit-rolling pin, pastry cutters, bake sheets, mixing bowl etc. My cousin wanted a Gryffindor Harry Potter scarf, but didn't want to buy official merch. because it would be too blatant (she's 22, i can kind of appreciate this) so I'm knitting her one instead that's more muted and subtle. I also disclaim totally that I can knit. I can do one really easy stitch and I'm patient enough to do it a couple of thousand times. That's about as much as it takes to make a scarf. I also club together with people. Like my Bro-in-law is really fond of cheese, so the parents have got him a cheese board and knife, and I'm going to do him a 1/2 dozen jars of chutney to go with it. and yeah, things to do is always good. I got my mum a tea strainer one year for her birthday, but it came with a trip to take tea at the Ritz. My dad got her theatre tickets the same year, and my sister sorted out dinner, so my Mum had a really good day! Another year I took her to the local bird sanctuary because she'd said she'd never seen a kingfisher up close and she'd never been kayaking (you can do both there!). My uncle we mostly just sponsor to do what he loves- fishing and eating things. Actually, one of the BEST presents I ever gave people were Christmas stockings. I made a whole bunch out of cheap red felt when i was about 18, filled them with random bits and pieces and gave them to all my friends; they LOVED them. A couple almost cried, and it was hilarious fun unwrapping it all. Nothing expensive either; copies of the Beano comic, bottles of bubble mixture, lollipops, chocolate coins, mini jars of jam, nuts, a satsuma, those bugs with sticky feet you can throw at a wall and they flop down it, popping candy, candy canes, bottles of nail polish or eyeshadow (£1 shops ftw), potato guns, socks, random confetti and beads, frickin' ROCKS i'd painted. Tinsel halos. comedy glasses. Whoopee cushions. stickers. cookies. party tooters and poppers. Silly hats. Loads of really, really dumb stuff, but the point was, no one had had anything like it since they were kids and it kind of recaptured a bit of magic. I gave them a badly-sewn sock full of tat, they went home all hopped up with Christmas. Doesn't work for everyone, but for a few people it's pretty much perfect. I dunno, I really don't think you need to be an artist to make gifts; all you need is some imagination, a sense of fun, and the willingness to put in some effort. |
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