Self Esteem

[drpepper1785]

Threes a few things you can do to boost your self esteem, go to Meetup: World's largest community of local Meetups, clubs and groups! and find a social group in your aria, Its a lot essayer to talk to an attractive person that you like when you have something uncommon.
2ed Subscribed to yogameditation on you tube search under GURU or go to Yoga Meditation Zen Meditation Techniques Mantra + Hand Positions + Mantra System for Miracles hes videos have help me a lot.
best of luck.

[yuko356]

response to first post: I can see what you mean. I have so so self esteem. I like being online becuse It's like a mask, you can be you without foucusing on your apearence.

[terra104]

can you guys do this for me?

take out a piece of paper and write what makes you you...
do this by categorizing it into three things..
what you like about ur self (and not what u thnk ppl like about u!)
what you dislike about your self
and things that doesnt fall in the previous categories.

when you are done..
look at the thngs you dislike about ur self, or ur surrounding, and start an action plan to change them
for example if you have i dont like my hair.. you can put different possibilities and solutions for it, and see what fits the best!

and one more thing, i see that you all are still vrey young, and ypu are still in the 'identity crisis' stage of development...
so my advice to you is be who you really are, and dont limit your selfs by boundries you have drawn by yourself to limit ur self.. these coundries might result of fear, embarresment, shame or even the need to belong..

[Thunda]

Originally Posted by Acidreptile

You are not ugly dude!Really.You just need to make a theraphy and that Low-Self-Esteem problem would go away!

Ma man......
Hes right.

[Blackmariah]

I definitely know how you feel, I have low self esteem too, and it really sucks. I've never been very condfident in my apparence or abilites, even though people are always saying I'm pretty, funny, smart and good at lots of things. I just always feel like they feel obligated to say that so they don't hurt me, but they don't mean it. If I could afford thearpy, I'd go, but I can't, so I'm working on this problem by slowly doing things that I fear, to make myself feel more condfident. It's actually working pretty well, I don't feel so bad about myself anymore.

[Suki]

Hahaha someone once told me that ugly people can always know if the person they're with truly values them for who they really are because obviously they want more than just a pretty face; however, good looking people can never be sure about that.

I've never really had self esteem problems. Worrying about something which has no solution... what's it good for?

[musashi]

not to sound braggy, in case anyone here takes it that way, i am proud to say that i don't have a HUGE self esteem issue. I mean, if i wake up in the morning and i look like crap, then i'll say i look like crap. If i get all dressed up and i look nice, then i will say i think i look nice. Sometimes, if the people around me are bringing my self esteem down, i say things that bring it back up. I don't care who hears me because the more people that hear me say it, the more positive feedback i get from it. If i yell "I AM THE BEST!" The people around me go "Yes you are". It definately helps.

But to be honest, i did have a self esteem/confidence problem. My Dad's family was like, old.....I know that sounds silly, but they were. They came from families were the family wasn't important unless they had a boy to carry on the family name. That was really important to them. Now me, being the oldest and a girl, didn't get much positive attention from not only my dad's parents, but both sets of my mom's parent's as well (she was adopted but knew her real parents). I didn't notice it much then because i was little, but when my brother came around, well, you could guess that he was showered with love and attention. You could imagine how a 5 year old girl would feel when some many gifts were given to her brother and nothing much for her. He always got what he wanted. There were soooooooooo many times in my life where i wished i was a boy so i could get the attention he got.

Long story short would be that when i got older and understood what was going on, i realized that i didn't need other people to make me feel good about myself. Alot of people need to realize that as well. Though this may not apply to you directly, people out there who feel like their life is nothing because nobody likes them need to realize that they only way people will like you is if you like yourself first. You need to think positive thoughts and walk and talk like you care about who you are. When people see that confidence, they learn to respect you. When they respect you, they will say nice things and TA DA! Your all better. it won't happen right away, i know that, but if you try it, it'll work.

Though it may sound corny and conceited (if thats how you spell it....lol), wake up every morning and say something positive to yourself. I say "I am great, therefore today is great because i am living it." I garentee you'll have a good day and you'll feel good too.

"Self esteem is like walking, you won't get anywhere until you take the first step." - Jessica L Coleman

[Daydreamer]

For satartert you guys are not ugly, i really don't have problems of low self esteem but my brother and some friends do so i am always trying to help them get through it.
Oh yeah, don't let what people say about you get to you ok.
And some people just talk bad about people because they are jealous about the person, they just think you have something that they don't and go and start judging you.

[forgotenmemory]

I kinda do too!!!!!

[Daydreamer]

You kind of what?