Homestaying concern
Hi all. I've arranged to do a homestay while I'm in Tokyo for 2 months from July. I contacted this person through the homestayweb website.
It's probably silly but I wasn't actually sure which gender the person was so I googled their name and a site said that the name is male, even though the picture on their profile is of a woman. There's nothing else particularly suspicious, they haven't given me their address yet just the general area, perhaps that's reasonable. Their relatives will meet me at the local station. Any thoughts? |
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The name is toshinori. I know just 'toshi' can be a girl's name, but yeah. |
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I remember one RaceQueen about 10 years ago was named Toko. She used that instead of her full name, Toshiko. Perhaps that's the female version of the name, with the ko part making it a girl's name, if there is such a thing in Japan.
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I have never heard of a woman with -nori ending in her first name. |
Thanks for the ideas and info guys. I'll come up with some inoffensive way to ask about the person's name. I just wanna make sure I can trust them before I have to go next month.
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does this woman look like she could be famous, like is the picture really well done and is she quite beautiful? Just thinking that maybe he is a fan of her or something.
anyhow it is probably just a privacy thing.. not wanting to post one's real face online. |
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Is it possible that she is married and is listing head of household for the address? That would be something quite normal...
A daughter inviting someone for a homestay also would NOT be something all that odd, really, if the parents approved. I don`t see any reason for there to be deception going on - Why list a male name if they were trying to trick someone into thinking they were female. Even if the person you`ve spoken to all along is a man, it`s probably more likely just a picture of a family member in front of the house rather than any active attempt at deception. |
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It says on the site: "Q. Are the host families listed here interviewed or screened? No, HomestayWeb's purpose is to create a place where Homestay guests and hosts can find their own matches. HomestayWeb is not responsible for nor does it endorse any of the information placed by hosts in their profile pages on this website. Please judge wisely in choosing your Homestay family." |
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You say the picture is tiny and you can`t really tell whether it`s a man or woman - what makes you feel it is a woman? Why not just ask about family living in the home? That should give you a good indication of who the picture could be of. |
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I asked her about all that, she has students living there, and her parents leave nearby. I checked back through the emails and she just said 'my mum and dad' (in Japanese). |
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Kind of on the topic, I'm looking to teach English and be taught Japanese on an ad hoc basis while in Tokyo, also just to make lots of friends and connections (cause I wanna be an English teacher for Japanese people eventually, not necessarily in Japan). Any ideas on the best way of doing this in Tokyo? I've already made some connections with people just through word of mouth, but places to go to meet people? Community centres round the center of Tokyo? Thanks <3 |
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Hmm.. I emailed them asking for a picture and an address (my mum wanted the latter cause she was worried) and they replied just giving me the general area with 丁目 and not mentioning a picture. I thought it was a bit strange but I'm not sure if I've just become paranoid now.
I asked about the full toshinori name, see what they say. Hopefully that will confirm it. I'm thinking it is a guy now. They have a website under the email address which has pictures of a small helicopter and a guy in it, and they said they can fly small planes. If you guys say I'm over thinking things then I'll be ok, but on my own I'm worried right now. Halp D: |
I can`t really comment on whether it is strange - they also may be worried about just giving out personal information... But it is worrying you. If it is causing that much worry, why risk it? Try to find another option that doesn`t cause so much concern.
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Again though, I would be perfectly straight with them. Tell them that without more detailed information you or your family does not feel comfortable with you staying there. If they are offering a homestay, they should expect this and not be offended in the least. There would be nothing awkward about cancelling it if they refuse to provide more information, and if they do then your concerns may be laid to rest. |
Thanks again for everyone's help. I decided to cancel with this guy and go with someone else even though they can only have me for a month. They're kindly arranging a hostel for me the rest of the time. :)
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