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10-13-2010, 01:44 PM
Hello once again- this time from Japan! It's been about a month since I have arrived in Japan and it's been a blast (although I live in an inaka
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10-13-2010, 02:19 PM
I don't think this situation is a cultural one.
This just depends on the person who gave it to you. If they are understanding and friendly then I don't see what the problem would be. But surely you can control your studying? I don't know.. it seems like this is a situation that just requires some self-control on your part.
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10-13-2010, 02:25 PM
The person is really nice...which is contributing a lot to the problem. I want to keep the cat on her behalf, but I just don't seem to have the discipline to take care of this kitten. One of the other main problems is that I want to visit other places during my stay in Japan. However with a kitten, the places I can go and how long I can stay away is severely limited because I would have to take care of the kitten. The amount I should be studying for the nikyuu is ridiculous. I am not studying as much as I should be and the kitten is just adding to that problem. Oh god, this kitten is really cute- it's literally breaking my heart and I really wish I never got this kitten.
EDIT: I forgot to add, I really do have horrible self-control, seeing how that is one of the reasons I got a kitten in the first place.
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10-13-2010, 03:18 PM
[quote=Misericordias;832750]The person is really nice...which is contributing a lot to the problem. I want to keep the cat on her behalf, but I just don't seem to have the discipline to take care of this kitten. One of the other main problems is that I want to visit other places during my stay in Japan. However with a kitten, the places I can go and how long I can stay away is severely limited because I would have to take care of the kitten. The amount I should be studying for the nikyuu is ridiculous. I am not studying as much as I should be and the kitten is just adding to that problem. Oh god, this kitten is really cute- it's literally breaking my heart and I really wish I never got this kitten.
sorry if I sound harsh BUT! Its a pity you did not think more carefully before deciding to take this kitten in. I hope you find a decent home for the poor little thing too many people have pets on impulse then who is it that gets Pushed out? In future please consider carefully before ever taking in a pet. I have no sympathy for you-- although its clear that you are genuinely concerned. Pets are for Life-- Not just to fulfill impulses or for presents or for christmas. My puppy has taken a lot of my time-- but I was prepared. Animals Are a TIE so best not to commit to any animal until you are in a position to care for it properly. I would have thought the kitten would be a way to relax for a while. However in your circumstance-- please find a better home-- Not just any home-- or it will end up on the streets. sometimes our hearts take over our sense of what is right. good luck with your studies.
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10-13-2010, 03:22 PM
Thank you dogsbody, the problem is though, how will I know the person I give this precious kitten away to will actually love and care for it much more than I can provide? The only person I know for sure is the previous owner, but it seems really bad to return this kitten to her, you know?
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10-13-2010, 04:00 PM
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10-13-2010, 04:12 PM
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Hello again, well I do hope that the previous owner will be understanding. If you explain hopefully he/she will help. I am not sure if there is a cat rescue scheme in Japan. I do hope so. I wish you well. Its a shame you cannot keep the kitten but it seems impossible in your sitution. I do know how we get sentimental over young animals. Maybe someone at your college will know somebody who could help?
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10-13-2010, 04:24 PM
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surely its exaggerating to say it will give all gaijins a bad name. Just because Miseri made a mistake when he/she fell in love with the kitten. Asking the previous owner to help or take the kitten back yes it seems difficult-- but if that person is a decent caring person-- surely they will try to help out. Better that-- than just discarding the poor little thing-- which can easily happen. If it happened here in UK any decent person would take the kittern back or try to find a suitable home for it. Not everyone is decent. too many cats get chucked out------------- some people don't care-- but genuine animal lovers would try to help. If necessary take the cat to a sanctuary. Why blame all Gaiijins for the mistake of one person who took the kitten because they wanted to care for it. If the previous owner had asked questions as to the suitability of the new owner, they should have realised it was not a good idea. I have bred dogs for many years and always make sure the potential buyers are suitable owners. One always has to be careful surely where animals are concerned. I hope the Japanese do not automatically blame everyone from another country-- for one mistake-- that would seem unthinking surely.
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10-13-2010, 04:27 PM
I agree that the problem isn`t a cultural one.
It is bad manners - but worse than bad manners, it`s extremely irresponsible. There are countless reasons you should not have agreed to caring for the kitten - you`re the one at fault and no matter what happens, you will be (and SHOULD be) thought of badly for it. Cats can live for 20+ years. Even if you`d not been busy with studying and wanting to travel - you`re still pretty unlikely to be able to stay in Japan for 20 years straight from now. What did you plan to do with the cat when you left Japan? Toss it? Cats aren`t all that easy to find homes for, especially once they`ve grown past the cute kitten stage. If you didn`t bother to think past "Aww, cute!" and have a little responsibility, you fully deserve to have everyone think you`re an awful person.
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