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Originally Posted by Salvanas (Post 558921)

This is rather odd.

- A sixteen year old giving an eighteen year old advice about parenting.
- A sixteen year old and Eighteen year old thinking about marrying the current person they are with and also thinking about parenthood.
- Apparently, children only kill their mothers in Japan.

Here's some of my advice, coming from a seventeen year old boy. Take it how you want to.

1: You both have a long way to grow up before you become parents or get married. You should finish the more important things in life before starting a family. Like fully becoming an adult. It's abit early.

2: A sixteen year old cannot give proper advice on being a mother.

3: Children killing their parents happen everywhere. Not just in Japan.

Now for the advice.

I'm not a father, nor am I a mother. And I don't plan to be one until I'm in my late twenties. But the key to being a good mother or father is this: .

Saw nothing there? That's because there is no special way on how to be a good parent. It's not a strategy game, nor is there some special cheat that'll tell you how to do it.

Being a parent isn't easy. You have to weigh your beliefs against your partner, and come to an agreement between you two. Then you have to be attuned to your childs needs.

IT all depends on you. Your personality. Your appearance. Your beliefs.

Now stop worrying about such things at that age and live your life.

Very mature for a 17 year-old.

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Originally Posted by Eidrib (Post 558930)

. . . I'll have to agree. I know it's difficult, and I know it's way too early to worry about it, but I still can't stop worrying about it. Maybe I'm just mentally ill.

Get some help if you think so.

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Originally Posted by Paul11 (Post 558924)

Very mature for a 17 year-old.

Thank you.

It's not a mental illness. It's normal to worry. But try not to. One thing I can say is try to be yourself. Do what you think is right. If you don't give your child the impression that you know what's right and wrong, then they'll just be confused. Tell them what you think that's right, but give them the room to think for themselves.

Apart from that, there's nothing that's set on how to be a good parent. It all depends on what you think. So just relax :)

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Originally Posted by Salvanas (Post 558921)

/signed :) But damn, late twenties? I don't think I'll be a parent that early :)

Without reading everything I can assume two things. Yes, you will be a good mother, but you're also going to be the type of mother that if one thing goes wrong you'll blame yourself, act like it's the end of the world and proclaim yourself as a horrible mother.

BUT

If you can get past that and realize that bad stuff happens then you'll probably be a great mother.

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Originally Posted by Paul11 (Post 558862)

All parents make mistakes, even when they love thier children more than life itself. It's still about survival. How do you measure success? You put all your eggs in one basket and trust in God.

Silly Paul, In God we trust only that he will send us too hell for disbelieving in him. In BUDDHA, however, we "should" entrust our successes too him. x]

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Originally Posted by Henbaka (Post 559043)

/signed :) But damn, late twenties? I don't think I'll be a parent that early :)

IT might be later, but I want to still be young while growing up with my children really. I don't want to be TOO old.

This thread is just too weird. It's creeping me out.

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Originally Posted by Henbaka (Post 558869)

Look. Basically I believe the "bad" parents wouldn't (didn't) worry about being a good parent so much.

Hey, I'm not worried about good parenting and I know I'll be a damn great parent ;) 26 more weeks to go!