I'm only 18 but I'm already worrying about parenting... Will I be a good mother?

[Henbaka]

Originally Posted by rina26

This thread is just too weird. It's creeping me out.

Hey, I'm not worried about good parenting and I know I'll be a damn great parent 26 more weeks to go!

Hey I'm sorry if that came out wrong, I didn't mean to imply you have to be worried

[rina26]

Originally Posted by Henbaka

Hey I'm sorry if that came out wrong, I didn't mean to imply you have to be worried

Haha no worries, I'm only teasing you

[MissMisa]

To be honest, you are young. You shouldn't be thinking about having children at all, you should be out having fun and living your life. They are not something to worry about or dwell on until the time comes. For now, go and have fun.

Saying that I totally have the inability to emphathise with you as I really do not like children and don't plan on having any.

[Paul11]

Originally Posted by MissMisa

To be honest, you are young. You shouldn't be thinking about having children at all, you should be out having fun and living your life. They are not something to worry about or dwell on until the time comes. For now, go and have fun.

Saying that I totally have the inability to emphathise with you as I really do not like children and don't plan on having any.

Your mind will most likely change, then even if you don't like other children, you will like your own. there are exceptions. but that is the rule.

[rina26]

Originally Posted by Paul11

Your mind will most likely change, then even if you don't like other children, you will like your own. there are exceptions. but that is the rule.

Completely true. Most of the friends I have who are parents hates children except their own. I'll be the same. I can't stand them when they belong to other people.

[MissMisa]

Originally Posted by Paul11

Your mind will most likely change, then even if you don't like other children, you will like your own. there are exceptions. but that is the rule.

That is what people ALWAYS tell me. I have an irrational deteste of babies, and that is something I am certain will not change. I know my own mind, and I know that my career is far more important to me than anything else.

If I was going to have children, I'd adopt older ones. Besides, the world is overpopulated enough without me having anymore.

[rina26]

Originally Posted by MissMisa

That is what people ALWAYS tell me. I have an irrational deteste of babies, and that is something I am certain will not change. I know my own mind, and I know that my career is far more important to me than anything else.

If I was going to have children, I'd adopt older ones. Besides, the world is overpopulated enough without me having anymore.

And when someone in the 18-early 20's range voice their desire to be a parent, people ALWAYS tell them that they're young and still have their whole world ahead of them. They also know their own mind. So I guess everyone will just have to deal with each others comments

[MissMisa]

Originally Posted by rina26

And when someone in the 18-early 20's range voice their desire to be a parent, people ALWAYS tell them that they're young and still have their whole world ahead of them. They also know their own mind. So I guess everyone will just have to deal with each others comments

Actually in this thread, a lot of people haven't. I was sharing my beliefs, I wasn't telling her she was wrong, just that I didn't believe that it was right to be thinking about those things at such a young age.

I also said I could be totally wrong based on the fact I don't like children. That was the significance of my comment.

[Paul11]

Originally Posted by MissMisa

That is what people ALWAYS tell me. I have an irrational deteste of babies, and that is something I am certain will not change. I know my own mind, and I know that my career is far more important to me than anything else.

If I was going to have children, I'd adopt older ones. Besides, the world is overpopulated enough without me having anymore.

Me, my wife and most parents use to say the same thing. Really! OUr minds don't change just because. We don't love our children just because. It's due to biochemical changes in the body and brain. That stuff really can't be controlled.

[MissMisa]

Originally Posted by Paul11

Me, my wife and most parents use to say the same thing. Really! OUr minds don't change just because. We don't love our children just because. It's due to biochemical changes in the body and brain. That stuff really can't be controlled.

Even so, it doesn't mean I will. There are so many reasons I do not want them. In my opinion they are a waste of time, effort, and money.

Again it's the whole, you are 17 so you'll change your mind thing xD