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06-20-2009, 04:55 AM

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Oh crud, it's the fuzz.

*runs*

Anyways, this thread seems kinda familiar, like an old thread from last year.


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Almost all kids are cute. It is when we become adults that we get ugly.
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06-20-2009, 10:47 AM

I don't think it matters.

When you have your own kids, mixed or not, with or without a disability, if you don't love them, well, something has to be very wrong.

The cuteness is something else. I see some kids which are cute, other's don't look cute, but are cheeky monkeys, other's just have great personalities without a cute look, and vica versa..

Then again, other's think that other's are cute, and other's not.. We all differ in our own opinions..

I get comments about my son being cute all over the place. He is a little show off and a smarty pants, and I get away with murder when shopping because of his cuteness.

Not many can let their 2.2 year olds run rampant in a storage shop using the merchandise as building bricks as happened this weekend!

The female shop assistants were encouraging him which gave mummy and daddy some serious decide shopping time.

By the way, my son is "mixed" Japanese-Australian. It's definitely not on my mind though.. He's a small boy who loves what a 2.2 year old should be loving.

he get's the best of both worlds

The disability thing, well, I was prepared for it mentally, and fully committed just in case. It certainly wouldn't have changed my opinions in regards to my son.

I remember asking the doc at ultrasound time.. "Are all his toes and finger's their" "Two eyes", etc.

It's a scary thought for many but don't let other's phase you..

My best buddy at school had a deaf and dumb brother. ken was by memory ten years older then me..

His bro and me had fun teasing him about his disabilities.. He would always win though, physically! (Thisis Aussie style)

The best part was his dad invented the brail telephone which became famous world wide..

I worked with colleagues next door the Para-olympic section on the Sydney Olympics Organising commitee.. No big deal.. Half the workers were athletes and participants..

It's just not a taboo thing with me.. My mate could have one leg, I don't care and it wouldn't make him any lesser to me..

Disabilities for me just do not qualify for anything special..


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06-20-2009, 11:43 AM

I am really stunned by the level of ignorance and lack of thought.
Really. There is very little that truly makes me shake my head on here - and this has succeeded.

It doesn`t matter whether you think differently of those with disabilities.
That isn`t the point, nor does it even have anything to do with the reason I (and Burkhartdesu) feel shocked.
I really do not think you realize what you have said.

You are making a flippant remark about wishing your own child were disabled, because, you know, that`s so cute and all. Without giving ANY thought to the seriousness - without giving any thought to the future of that child. And without giving any thought to the fact that 99.99999% of parents who have a disabled child, if there were a magic way to turn back time and remove the problems from their child`s future, would kill for that chance.

I doubt you would look at a starving child in a third world country and then turn to their parents and saw "Aww, that`s so cute! I wish my son were malnourished too because he eats too much and is so hard to carry these days!" - but yet you think it`s alright to say you think it`s cute that my son will likely require some level of care for the rest of his life... But of course, you can think that way, as you have no problems flaunting how intelligent and amazing your kid is. You never have to worry about months upon months of hospitalization, years and years of therapy, a lifetime of supervision. Not to mention the nagging fear of what will happen once you`re gone. What happens when you`re not there... How things will end up.

Yep, it`s just all cute and sweet. What a wonderful world you live in!


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06-20-2009, 12:04 PM

One of my closest friend is a mix (Hakka Chinese mother and Northern Indian father) and she really hates it because she can't fit into any groups. And I know plenty of mixed people who really wish they weren't mixed.

People forget that a lot of them tend to have identity crisis and inner cultural conflict when they grow up.

My yet to be born future cousin is half-Italian and half-Korean and my whole family already worries that the kid will have a huge unavoidable quality hardship. Not because of biological appearance but because of direct cultural identity clashes.

This is a very sensitive subject that shouldn't be taken lightly.
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Originally Posted by Nyororin View Post
I am really stunned by the level of ignorance and lack of thought.
Really. There is very little that truly makes me shake my head on here - and this has succeeded.

It doesn`t matter whether you think differently of those with disabilities.
That isn`t the point, nor does it even have anything to do with the reason I (and Burkhartdesu) feel shocked.
I really do not think you realize what you have said.

You are making a flippant remark about wishing your own child were disabled, because, you know, that`s so cute and all. Without giving ANY thought to the seriousness - without giving any thought to the future of that child. And without giving any thought to the fact that 99.99999% of parents who have a disabled child, if there were a magic way to turn back time and remove the problems from their child`s future, would kill for that chance.

I doubt you would look at a starving child in a third world country and then turn to their parents and saw "Aww, that`s so cute! I wish my son were malnourished too because he eats too much and is so hard to carry these days!" - but yet you think it`s alright to say you think it`s cute that my son will likely require some level of care for the rest of his life... But of course, you can think that way, as you have no problems flaunting how intelligent and amazing your kid is. You never have to worry about months upon months of hospitalization, years and years of therapy, a lifetime of supervision. Not to mention the nagging fear of what will happen once you`re gone. What happens when you`re not there... How things will end up.

Yep, it`s just all cute and sweet. What a wonderful world you live in!
...This made me want to cry.

No parent should have to go through this, and yet a lot do...

At my high school, they have a high level of special needs/deaf/blind students, and someone made a similar comment about one student. Glares everywhere....


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I get comments about my son being cute all over the place. He is a little show off and a smarty pants, and I get away with murder when shopping because of his cuteness.

Not many can let their 2.2 year olds run rampant in a storage shop using the merchandise as building bricks as happened this weekend!
Do you have any idea how much people hate kids like what you describe, and shun parents who don't igve a f*ck?

I just had to sit on a plane a couple weeks back for 9 hours with some family behind me that had absolutely no control over there about 2 and a half year old son. Damn it is annoying.

You may think it is cute when he runs around screaming and crying and throws shit everywhere and breaks stuff, but the most people around just frown, even if you don't see it.

Just think, if you cannot control a 2 year old, how much trouble will you have when it gets to 15?


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I am really stunned by the level of ignorance and lack of thought.
Really. There is very little that truly makes me shake my head on here - and this has succeeded.

It doesn`t matter whether you think differently of those with disabilities.
That isn`t the point, nor does it even have anything to do with the reason I (and Burkhartdesu) feel shocked.
I really do not think you realize what you have said.

You are making a flippant remark about wishing your own child were disabled, because, you know, that`s so cute and all. Without giving ANY thought to the seriousness - without giving any thought to the future of that child. And without giving any thought to the fact that 99.99999% of parents who have a disabled child, if there were a magic way to turn back time and remove the problems from their child`s future, would kill for that chance.

I doubt you would look at a starving child in a third world country and then turn to their parents and saw "Aww, that`s so cute! I wish my son were malnourished too because he eats too much and is so hard to carry these days!" - but yet you think it`s alright to say you think it`s cute that my son will likely require some level of care for the rest of his life... But of course, you can think that way, as you have no problems flaunting how intelligent and amazing your kid is. You never have to worry about months upon months of hospitalization, years and years of therapy, a lifetime of supervision. Not to mention the nagging fear of what will happen once you`re gone. What happens when you`re not there... How things will end up.

Yep, it`s just all cute and sweet. What a wonderful world you live in!
I hear you, don't worry. I know it was a poor thing to say. I understand how hard it must be.

I think my Chuekie is pregnant again (after so long trying; first one miscarriaged). We both say we cannot take care of one if it isn't 100%. We wouldn't keep it, so you must be bold.


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