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06-21-2009, 04:35 AM
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I just had to sit on a plane a couple weeks back for 9 hours with some family behind me that had absolutely no control over there about 2 and a half year old son. Damn it is annoying. You may think it is cute when he runs around screaming and crying and throws shit everywhere and breaks stuff, but the most people around just frown, even if you don't see it. Just think, if you cannot control a 2 year old, how much trouble will you have when it gets to 15? The eternal Saint is calling, through the ages she has told. The ages have not listened; the will of faith has grown old… For forever she will wander, for forever she withholds; the Demon King is on his way, you’d best not be learned untold… Check out my You Tube channel (it's new and there's not much there yet, but check back every week and you should find a new vid of hardcore fighting): http://www.youtube.com/user/SarahSunwalker 
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06-21-2009, 04:37 AM
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I think my Chuekie is pregnant again (after so long trying; first one miscarriaged). We both say we cannot take care of one if it isn't 100%. We wouldn't keep it, so you must be bold. The eternal Saint is calling, through the ages she has told. The ages have not listened; the will of faith has grown old… For forever she will wander, for forever she withholds; the Demon King is on his way, you’d best not be learned untold… Check out my You Tube channel (it's new and there's not much there yet, but check back every week and you should find a new vid of hardcore fighting): http://www.youtube.com/user/SarahSunwalker
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06-21-2009, 06:00 AM
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I figured the last thing I would want would be to have a disabled kid. Physical disability, yeah, I figured I could handle that - but mental disability? No way. Then stuff happened. I tried to make the choice to let my son die (he was technically a miscarriage, if I were to go into detail - he was about to die inside and be naturally aborted from what I understand) but he was past viability so was extracted and put in the hospital. There was no way to know what would happen, and things were happening quickly enough that there really wasn`t a point where you could say "Wait, I don`t want this kid." All I could do was stand by an incubator and hope that if he was going to have a poor quality of life that he pass away quickly and with little suffering. And then after 5 months when he was released from intensive care we got the news on the brain damage (not a huge surprise) but after all that time it wasn`t as if you could just say no to taking him home. Most of the time you don`t know the kid has a disability until they`ve been around for years and you`ve gotten attached and invested a bunch of time and money into them. And at that point, I think it would be very hard to just call it quits - especially when you really don`t know how bad things will be until the kid is a lot older. Even more so if most everything else is close to perfect. Disability or not, my son is still one of the best behaved kids I know. And that is saying a lot as most parents are fairly attentive in Japan. Behaving like a spoilt brat is never cute. Even with an "excuse" I still wouldn`t tolerate that crap. Run around in a store messing with stuff? We`re leaving, NOW. I cannot stand people who just stand by giggling as their kid breaks every rule of being in public. Sure, it may seem cute at 2, but how about at 4 or 5? You`ve just been supporting their behavior all along so it will really come back and bite you when you decide they`re too old for it. 萱津ヶ原に 名をとどむ もののふどもの 夢のまた夢」
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06-21-2009, 10:42 AM
Nyororin, if my wife can display even half of the mothering qualities you have to my child, I'll be a very fortunate man with a very fortunate child.
I guess I cannot say how I'll go through it (disabilities) until it does happen (if ever). Even if I say I know. So I'll just leave that. The eternal Saint is calling, through the ages she has told. The ages have not listened; the will of faith has grown old… For forever she will wander, for forever she withholds; the Demon King is on his way, you’d best not be learned untold… Check out my You Tube channel (it's new and there's not much there yet, but check back every week and you should find a new vid of hardcore fighting): http://www.youtube.com/user/SarahSunwalker
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06-21-2009, 12:30 PM
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Like I said, I understand the extra work, but at the end of the day, if it happens, live and let live with a smile. I guess we ALL have different personalities. You seem to be trying to over prove something here and I am just not getting it, although I respect your opinion. I am getting the message that you expect people to feel sorry for you of which I do not. I can here your negative thought's on spoilt kids as being brats and thank you for your opinion, however, and I repeat, It does not change my perspective on people with disabilities. Cheers - Oz
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06-21-2009, 01:35 PM
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It`s that you said THIS 引用:
If you cannot see why I am left stunned (along with some others...) then really, there is not much else I can say. I thought the example of saying you wished your kid were malnourished too because he is too big to the parent of a starving child would make it clearer, but I guess not. *sigh* 萱津ヶ原に 名をとどむ もののふどもの 夢のまた夢」
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06-21-2009, 01:43 PM
Nyorin, I'm not sure what I was saying their but of course I do not wish my son was disabled.
Having said that, I am trying to say here that I feel for you, your son and hope all is as happy as can be. I am also saying for me, If my son was disabled, It wouldn't make me think he was less cuter and I am sure of that. I also realize that your son's disability must make things a little more difficult for Mum and Dad, but hey, that's life ne, or is that just me? I am also trying to say that if I knew you personally as a friend, you would understand much clearer. I had a disabled boy in one of my classes in Japan.. Nine students, one boy had a disability.. I'm not sure what exactly was wrong, but it drove me NUTS how his mum would pay special attention and all I wanted to do was treat him the same as all the students and not make him feel "special" which I thought would make him feel comfortable naturally. It worked and he flourished in my class. Things were good.. Cheers - Oz
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06-22-2009, 03:40 AM
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The eternal Saint is calling, through the ages she has told. The ages have not listened; the will of faith has grown old… For forever she will wander, for forever she withholds; the Demon King is on his way, you’d best not be learned untold… Check out my You Tube channel (it's new and there's not much there yet, but check back every week and you should find a new vid of hardcore fighting): http://www.youtube.com/user/SarahSunwalker
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06-22-2009, 04:03 AM
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 Good luck with the marriage and making the kids, that's the fun part, then the labor of love starts and please keep in mind that your kids, no matter if they are mixed or otherwise, should be treasured for who they are and not what their heritage is.
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06-22-2009, 04:18 AM
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If it wants to be treasured then it has to earn that, anyway. The eternal Saint is calling, through the ages she has told. The ages have not listened; the will of faith has grown old… For forever she will wander, for forever she withholds; the Demon King is on his way, you’d best not be learned untold… Check out my You Tube channel (it's new and there's not much there yet, but check back every week and you should find a new vid of hardcore fighting): http://www.youtube.com/user/SarahSunwalker
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