Mixed race children.

[Sinestra]

Originally Posted by Nyororin

I`d like to think that I don`t belong in the same group as the majority of those people - as lifestyles and attitudes usually do not overlap. It seems a big chunk of the fly-into-a-frenzy if they`re called gaijin, or if someone says half in front of them is of the "nothing in Japan is good enough" crowd, homeschooling their kids lest they be tainted, etc.

Throwing a fit over the "half" term seems like such a waste of time and effort, seeking out something to cry discrimination and racism over... While forgetting that you say pretty much the same thing in English.
I have absolutely no issues with the term and think that trying to force "double" or the like on others is pretty close to folly. "Half" has made itself a short and convenient Japanese word to refer to mixed race children. Double is NOT a Japanese word, so trying to stick it in there to replace simply doesn`t work. It comes off meaning twice as much, twice as good - which isn`t right.

But, of course, everyone loves to whine about being discriminated against in every capacity in Japan.

Does that pretty much go hand and hand with what you commented earlier with people saying "cute" when refering to mixed child?

Its weird to see so many differnt perspectives on the matter. I never thought of myself or my sister as any different it felt natural to just say im mixed. But you are right you could go to any country and here people find something to link to discrimnation.

Thank you for imput I think it obvious why i asked for your input on the artice. oh i didnt mean group you with all the people in article it was more of the fact that you are raising a mixed child as these people are.

[Nyororin]

Originally Posted by Sinestra

Does that pretty much go hand and hand with what you commented earlier with people saying "cute" when refering to mixed child?

Its weird to see so many differnt perspectives on the matter. I never thought of myself or my sister as any different it felt natural to just say im mixed. But you are right you could go to any country and here people find something to link to discrimnation.

Thank you for imput I think it obvious why i asked for your input on the artice. oh i didnt mean group you with all the people in article it was more of the fact that you are raising a mixed child as these people are.

Don`t worry, I understand that you weren`t grouping me with them - and the negativity wasn`t in your direction at all.

The cute thing, well... Really it`s more just a pet peeve than having anything deeply linked to discrimination, etc. Under normal circumstances I think it would be great to have someone comment that your kid is cute... But when that becomes an automatic response because of their racial background, it starts to get annoying. But I do suppose it`s much better than a negative reaction. It`s just hard to filter out the real compliments from the "Half? Must be cute then!" ones.

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Half, swirl, mongrel, runt... whatever you want to call me..
My dad is Aussie, mum Japanese

[Jaydelart]

Originally Posted by Tenchu

And where did I call you "runt"?

I didn't think she was trying to accuse you of anything. (?)

[Nyororin]

This thread has now been split into two - Race discussion has been moved to a currently closed thread in general discussion.
Race Discussion

[UsagiSarah]

Originally Posted by Nyororin

Cuteness is subjective, and not something I can really comment on.

His name is Motoki.

And yes, we live in Japan.

I hate to sound cold, but your post sounds like you want something cute - not a child. Have a baby because you want to have and raise a child, not because you think it would be so cute... Babies are babies and children are children - whether you think they`re cute or not. Be very careful, as I think you`ll find even more cold responses from other parents of mixed race children in Japan as it is REALLY irritating to have no one look at your child as a person - instead seeing them as a display of cuteness and that alone.

uuhm...ok? haha that had nothing to do with it.

[UsagiSarah]

Originally Posted by Nyororin

Because she is basing the "cuteness" factor on race. Everyone wants cute children, but not everyone goes around talking about how very cute kids must be because they`re of a specific racial background.

Chances are, if you don`t live in Japan, you won`t get the sheer exasperation behind this. In Japan, "half" equals "cute". Which is fine to an extent, I guess, until it starts getting in the way of normal life. ie. People forgive ANYTHING your child does instead of properly responding and scolding because "Aww, they`re so cute! I wish I had a half child!" (Of course, all the while scolding the other kids.) Or... Instead of praising something your kids does, they just respond with "That`s so CUTE!!" and never actually look at anything else...
Or when you go out somewhere, having people stop in their tracks and point while giggling "Look! It`s so cute!!!" and taking pictures without asking you, etc.

Imagine that on a daily basis. My son is no cuter than other children. It`s a RACIAL thing - based only on the fact that he is half something other than Japanese, which is why it bothers me.

excuse me but what i said to you had nothing to do about race, i think all children are cute, and my son or daughter will be half japanese as well, i'm just saying your baby must be a cute baby, i didn't say "your baby must be cute because he is half japanese" i didn't even say anything offensive. I came here looking for people to share their stories as a mixed race couple, not to be snapped at for something so completely opposite for what i was saying.

[UsagiSarah]

I am requesting this thread to be shut down since everyone has taken things out of context. I did not think i would be treated so rudely here.

[ozkai]

Originally Posted by UsagiSarah

I was wondering if anybody on here are a mixed race couple with children or babies on the way, or are children of mixed races in Japan.

I am a Caucasian woman marrying a Japanese man. We are very excited to start our family soon after marrying. I would like to get to know others who have married other races maybe share some photos of children!

I always enjoy seeing mixed race families where i work it makes me excited about my future family!

Hi Usagi.

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