[R18]love+sex

[Slykaz1]

Originally Posted by Alastor

Oh come on, a man who's willing to sleep around with everyone is desperate, got nothing else going for him and is an easy catch. LOOSE, I say!

Okay I see your point....

[Hyakushi]

Originally Posted by Suki

O.Ô

... nothing to be jealous about? ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING? Dude!! You don't fuck around with other girls if you have a girlfriend! And if you need the sex, you just jack off to some porn but you don't just go looking for someone you can stick your cock up in! And "I get urges" is no freaking excuse! And you even dare say it doesn't change the way you feel about her... If I were her, I'd cut your dick off and make you eat it. No lies. I'm all for loveless sex but NOT when I'm in a relationship! To me there's something more to love than that, jeez.

Please you know what I mean, its not like I do it all the time. We are not in high school anymore, when these things happen we try to settle it with less drama than other people make it. She gets mad yes but that doesn't last forever, she can't be cold all the time cause well thats just not her style. I admit at first she did slap me a couple of times but I know I can say I love her cause that is what I feel. Plus she's pretty and young so she wouldn't have a hard time finding another babys daddy if she wanted too. We have been through alot of hard times together maybe thats the main reason but she's magnanimous not nondescript like girls today. Thats is how I feel Love and Sex are two different things. Even in your own words.

Originally Posted by Suki

~ Being in love with someone else doesn't mean you don't love the person you're officially going out with.

[Hyakushi]

Originally Posted by pumpum

people say "u must not really love a girl to be able to do that" but i disagree i really loved my ex and no matter which other chick i boned, i still loved her exactly the same ! thats why i l now sex and love are two different things !

YES! that is how I feel about it too!.

[MissMisa]

Originally Posted by Hyakushi

YES! that is how I feel about it too!.

Love and sex are two different things, but you just CAN'T be in love with someone and have sex with another person. You must be seriously deluded about what real love is. Love is when you are deeply attatched to a person, and only that person. If your really in love, you'd never even dream of cheating. Some people make mistakes, and regret them, and that's different. You on the other hand, can't even say that it's wrong. Having sex with other people is cheating, so you shouldn't even be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Open relationships are different, where two or more people enjoy each others company and engage in sex, 'no strings attached.' But it seems your actually in a relationship, but I'm sorry I just think that's plain wrong. Cheating should never be condoned no matter how you put it.

[Ronin4hire]

Hyakushi, as much as I believe your relationship and behaviour to be wierd... I will jump to your defence.

Whatever he believes love to be that is what it is to him. It's like any other emotion. Depending on the person or people involved it can manifest itself in different ways.

The only thing which might be of concern to him is the fact that his girlfriend seems to believe in monogamy and simply "tolerates" his promiscuity. I don't believe this is healthy for her. What Hyakushi needs to do is either commit to his girlfriend or break up with her and find someone who shares a similar understanding of love.

[pumpum]

What is love really ?? I mean we just tuned to have feeling and urges by evolution so we will procreate !!

but then along came shakespeare and wrote romeo and juliet and now all of sudden "Love is the greates power" bs etc !! Romance is something Humans made up for themselves - it is not actually hardiwired into us by evolution.

Sometimes i watch my Dog trying to hump a cat and i think man if only it were so simple !!

[Ito]

Originally Posted by Ronin4hire

Hyakushi, as much as I believe your relationship and behaviour to be wierd... I will jump to your defence.

Whatever he believes love to be that is what it is to him. It's like any other emotion. Depending on the person or people involved it can manifest itself in different ways.

The only thing which might be of concern to him is the fact that his girlfriend seems to believe in monogamy and simply "tolerates" his promiscuity. I don't believe this is healthy for her. What Hyakushi needs to do is either commit to his girlfriend or break up with her and find someone who shares a similar understanding of love.

agreed, if hes sleeping around unprotected he can give her diseases or other bacteria that might give her cancer. a man doesnt care about his woman if he sleeps around...

[rachelsweet]

In my opinion?

This may be a LONG one.

I don't often go into relationships. I'm actually in a relationship right now. I've been going out with my best friend for about a month.
We don't really think of sex being that important, at least I don't. Pretty much for most guys all you have to do is...well, let's not get into details here.
But basically, Love and sex are two completely different things. It's like when you buy a car and get add-ons, like sunroofs and stuff. You should add it to a relationship only if you really want it. Which most will do, haha.
But In my own relationship, we have set dates for everything. May 8th is my big day, haha. We only really make out and stuff like that when we cuddle. We're not publicly romantic at all really besides holding hands.
I'm more effected by words than actions. He knows that, and tells me I'm pretty and beautiful everyday. Just little stories make me a little...loving? Like if he wants to do something, I'll do it. 'Cause I love the crap out of him. There are other things besides sex that can make a relationship loving and successful is what I'm saying. Basically.
Like since I know where to kiss (not anywhere you're thinking) and mostly just to show my affection. Sometimes I'll just be walking and I'll look over and think he looks so beautiful, I take is hand, look him in the eye, and gently peck it 3 or 4 times. We don't even really need to speak to get the point across. That's my opinion really.
I'm basically beginning to ramble about my relationship, and It's not really answering your question. Online of all places. Bajeebers, I better go.

[Slykaz1]

Originally Posted by MissMisa

Love and sex are two different things, but you just CAN'T be in love with someone and have sex with another person.

Yes you can. I know, it's hard to understand, but it's possible. You could be with someone for a really long time. And not "love" him or her, compassion for the other, comes to mind. Reasons beyond comprehension as to why he is with one and not the other, will always be beyond you until you have it happen to you.

[rachelsweet]

Originally Posted by kokunin

I HAVE NEVER EVR DONE THAT, not once...you usually have to act as sincere as possible in the most "i at least liek your but-her-head-body..." as possible and they still might giv eit up. GIRLS GIVE IT UP TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL BETTER, liek a guy's gonna stay because you let him get you, big mistake...its funny, girls are always angry because guys leave them, then you ask them, when the girl herself gets attached and there inlies the problem, guys who really liek you will be around for 6 months without it... (not saying they won't jack off or look at porn, but...you know he has to have some kinda thing to hold his nuts (the screws in his head) together). But seriously, abstinence does 2 things, gets rid of the bad asses (in every connotation the word is meant), and it saves yoru ass from STD's and other shit that sex brings along...now here's the kicker though, i think you should be taught BOTH, not one, but both, even docters will say, the best policy for sex is to not do it at all, BUT shit happens so use a condom (it has the highest effectiveness, 97%, but then again if you think about it, if you do it 100 times 3 of those times, was liek doing it without a condom), second being diaphrams...and so on and so on, with the pregnancy thing, second comes this spermicidal gel thats liek 85% but you gotta wait 15 min for it to kick in, so i hope your young and using that mug...lol Okay now love...if the guy LIKES YOU for your personality, not just yoru body, he'll think you're worth the wait...so wait 6 months, but DON'T tell him, seriously, DON'T TELL HIM!!! at all...if he knows the goal, he'll reach it, if he doesn't knwo the goal and you say, maybe in the future, then that puts a "forever virgin" sign on your ass...which then once again drives away the bad asses...bad asses are only good for a fling, that goes for women too. I had a bad ass (i'm only 19 but damn if i didn't try some shit) and she was HOT, but for some reason she was like, "whatever, i know you cheatin' on me..." I'm like, "Why cheat on you, when i got what ANY man would want.." You knwo how you say that shit to females and they think, "okay..." I mean, damn this chick was fine, dominican republi, had a S&M tinge to her (not the mistress example, but some biting and alittle spanking) , damn was she fun, but that bitch was CRAZY than a mother fucker, whoever fucked her over should be pissed on by R Kelly, cuz' damn maaaan...i would'a stayed if i wasn't cheatin' on her too...lol yeah i'ma dog, i know, i sniff it and run to it, simple...

guys who really liek you will be around for 6 months without it... (not saying they won't jack off or look at porn, but...you know he has to have some kinda thing to hold his nuts

That is actually very true. My boyfriend apparently was in love with me for...a year before we started dating. He broke up with his girlfriend for me. xD

He actually tells me when he wants to 'let loose'. He'll be like..."Uh...Can you go in the other room? :D"

I'm comfortable with it. He can't really cheat on me with his dick.