 |
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
Opinions About My Long-Term Relationship? -
05-12-2008, 01:12 AM
I was wondering about some of your opinions about my situation.
Okay. I joined a forum last year and I fell in love with a boy on that forum who's from Australia. I live in America, so we're really REALLY far away from each other. In about 7 months after joining that forum, we became boyfriend and girlfriend. Then we gave each other pictures of ourselves, and we also talk on Skype. Our age difference is about a 4 year difference. (I'm 13 and he's 16) I think he's more in love with me than with him, and he's becoming determined to marry me someday; even though he's never met me physically. Then we had a conflict about my religion and he almost killed himself because he thought he couldn't be with me. We're back together again, and he's going to try to become a Christian now, because he wants to marry me someday. My mother said that he's starting to live in a fantasy future and that he needs to realize what he's in for, but my boyfriend's parents seem fine about it all. We've been dating online for 4 months now. ^_^ --- So, what do you think? Is it impossible to meet? To marry? Or do you think that it is possible? I was just wondering, because so far I only have a few people's opinions about it. I'm merely curious. This is my first boyfriend. ^_^; 
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 01:23 AM
Well, my advice is to be careful. Because you never know how people you never met really are. I have a friend who didd this and they broke up after a while. But you could always set up a way to meet one summer or something....I'm not really sure. I haven't had a bf before so I can't really say.
Gaia Online:: soccer_kitty73 All Poetry :: kiki-bunny23 Story Write :: kiki-bunny23 find me ^_~ The Most Amusing Website Ever LEEKSPIN
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 01:27 AM
be very careful... my cousin did this online dating thing and it did nothing good for her... she got raped when she met the guy...just be careful... i'm in an online relationship but i have met the guy adn everything... his parents and mine have been friends forever we see each other every summer... but just be careful thats all i'm saying
i have smiled, to the tears of angels, laughed, at a dying white dove, i have caused pain, and reveled in darkness, i have found consolation, in a wilting rose,i have found music, in sounds of misery, all because i loved someone, who couldnt love me **MEMBER OF THE VAMPIRE CLAN** BEST FRIENDS R ALL I NEED IN LIFE!!!!
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 01:29 AM
yeah i agree. you have to really be careful with these kind of things. i should know, there was once a time when i met this guy in Italy, and we were really good freinds then started going out and then i moved. we tryed to keep in touch, but it just didnt seem to work out with the time differnence.
and you also have to into consideration as to what YOU FEEL!!!! you have to know, or else you ccould end up hurting, not only yourself, but him too.  THE SHINIGAMI CLAN! pm me if ya wanna be in it XrachelleX(miyuki)--the death master
emiluvsjmusic(emi)--the humanity taker SHELKE17(tears of blood)--the tearing heart auran(Hiugchi)--the cheer taker NejimaCrazy(Matser X)-sanity destroyer shinigami13(nemo)-memory hoader zachart(domogoto killa)-destroyer of light jene(angel without wings)-blue eyes dragon court jester of (_) Boring club (_)
|
1 860 869 6402 
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 03:35 AM
You are 13? You are no where near ready to be in this kind of relationship. Realistically, people shouldn't even begin to think about marriage until they are about 25. The success rates of marriage before 25 is much lower than after.
The word marriage shouldn't even be in your vocabulary.
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 04:15 AM
Aside from your Mother's assessment of his creating a fantasy being correct, there are other major obstacles: age, distance, cultures and religion.
Age is the biggest right now. I won't go into whether you are old enough to be considering marriage, but the gap between most 16 and 13 years olds is considerable. Most teens, especially girls, change drastically from about your age through the rest of their teens. You should wait till you are at least out of high school and your perspective on the world has broadened. If he can wait till he is 21, he will be better off too. My guess is that what is really binding you to each other is shared feelings of loneliness and not seeing other options for a caring relationship, more than real love. That is not a good basis for marriage. Stay close friends for the next few years and see how things evolve. That will give you time to make practical polans for overcoming the other obstacles, if you still want to by then.  Only an open mind and open heart can be filled with life. ********************* Find your voice; silence will not protect you.
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 06:39 AM
What everyone else said...
I'd also add that his behaviour doesn't seem to be normal. I mean he almost killed himself!!!? I don't know about your situation but from what you've said it sounds like he is mentally unstable... though I suppose he might just be 16 and angsty/emo
|
|
|
||||
|
||||
|
05-12-2008, 06:43 AM
I am not trying to be mean here, but you should really be careful. People that usually say they want to kill themselves over an online relationship are usually just looking for attention. :/
うたかた
Beauty & Stupid... Ah-ha-ha! CLAIMED: Isshi (Kagrra) Anza (Head Phones President) Daishi (Psycho le Cemu) Aya (Psycho le Cemu)  Shattered Kingdom - A BSSM RPG
|
 |
«
Previous Thread
|
Next Thread
»
| Thread Tools | |
| Display Modes | |
Linear Mode
|
|
Copyright 2003-2006 Virtual Japan.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.0.0 RC6
