regarding love

[Miyavifan]

I'm unsure why it seems people are basically interchanging love for being in love.

I know for a fact I am not in love. It's too soon for that definitely.

I'm confused. Are you two together now or not?

[Jkun]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

I'm unsure why it seems people are basically interchanging love for being in love.

I guess people might just have different ideas of what loving someone and being in love mean, so that is why these terms are being used in so many different ways.

As for how you are feeling, I remember feeling the same way when I first met my fiance. Everything seemed so easy and natural with her. Just being in her company made me feel content and at peace, and I still feel that way. It's a really special feeling. Well anyways, sorry for going on about it. I wish you all the best. Have fun with your man.

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by Jkun

I guess people might just have different ideas of what loving someone and being in love mean, so that is why these terms are being used in so many different ways.

As for how you are feeling, I remember feeling the same way when I first met my fiance. Everything seemed so easy and natural with her. Just being in her company made me feel content and at peace, and I still feel that way. It's a really special feeling. Well anyways, sorry for going on about it. I wish you all the best. Have fun with your man.

Yeah. That's possible.

That's exactly it. I've never felt that way with someone before.

It's ok. I like to hear about other people's feelings too, about people they're with.

Thank you. You know I will. well, I already have. quite often.
That's another thing that's different. Having fun during sex.

We have fun other times and ways too though.

[NightMikado]

IMO if i were you i'd live with the person for about a month before you decide if you love them or not...based on experience.

[Miyavifan]

That won't be happening. Soon he'll be getting his own place though. And he said I could stay over whenever I want.

We did kinda live together for a few days though, when he was my roommate. Before he went to live with his dad, to save money, as he doesn't have to buy food when he's there, and also to get help with his finances.

If you don't mind me asking, why do you say based on experience?
(oh, and I don't think living together would make a difference. just my opinion)

[hiromixmorita]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

Is it possible to love someone after only about 3 weeks?
Cause I think I do.
and it's not just because of sex.

try loving someone unconditionally for a lifetime. besides, it's lust if you think your'e in love with someone for about three weeks.

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by hiromixmorita

try loving someone unconditionally for a lifetime. besides, it's lust if you think your'e in love with someone for about three weeks.

ok. I am now getting annoyed with people thinking I am talking about being in love. I have said it twice already. I am only talking about loving someone, not being in love!

If I must go so far as to describe how I feel when I think about him, and how it feels when I'm in his arms....?
You act as if I am incapable of loving people unconditionally, as if I am shallow.

[Jkun]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

That's exactly it. I've never felt that way with someone before.

Well I think the fact that you feel that way about him definitely says a lot about how special he is to you and shows that you have a great relationship going.

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

That's another thing that's different. Having fun during sex.

Best way to have it!

Originally Posted by hiromixmorita

try loving someone unconditionally for a lifetime. besides, it's lust if you think your'e in love with someone for about three weeks.

Calling that lust is jumping to conclusions and a little bit insulting I think. Maybe I can see it being debatable if someone is really in love in that short of a time, but to say that their feelings are totally based on sex is going a little far.

I'm not sure I really understand the first part of the comment...

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by Jkun

Well I think the fact that you feel that way about him definitely says a lot about how special he is to you and shows that you have a great relationship going.



Best way to have it!



Calling that lust is jumping to conclusions and a little bit insulting I think. Maybe I can see it being debatable if someone is really in love in that short of a time, but to say that their feelings are totally based on sex is going a little far.

I'm not sure I really understand the first part of the comment...

I think so too. and thank you.

That's true. It's a very new thing for me. I like it.

That's why I was feeling upset. If my feelings were based solely on sex, I wouldn't be happy just thinking about him, seeing his face in my mind.

Is it a first part of my comment that confuses you, or someone else's?
and would it be ok if I pm'd you?

[Jkun]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

Is it a first part of my comment that confuses you, or someone else's?
and would it be ok if I pm'd you?

Oh no sorry, that was about someone else's comment. Sorry for the confusion.

And sure, a pm would be fine.