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Zed, dude, you need to really calm down. You just asked her to go shopping with you for some presents, and she's just a bit busy at the moment. Not the end of the world, nor any reason to have a heart attack. Trust me, trust me, if you make it awkward for yourself in the moment, then the moment's awkward as hell. Look at it from a third person's perspective: you're just asking if she'd help you find a present for someone, and if she's help you in person rather than just referring you places because you don't know where to go.

If this idea doesn't work, look at your options? Do you have many friends at the office? Do you know her very well? If no to both, ask her to coffee, drinks, or whathaveyou that you're comfortable with. Get to know more about her that you don't get to know at the office. She's got a cute smile, cute personality, and that's about all we know. I'm assuming that's all you know too; no reason to make it seem like the day's going to end when you're left hanging for only a few. I shudder to think what'd happen if she says she'll give you a call and waits a while before getting around to it.

Take. It. Easy. Don't make a big deal out of all this, you're just being friendly and trying to get to know her better. Are you this awkward when making friends in general? 'Cause that's what you're doing here, nothing more. At least at first.

Baby steps.

you got me. im panicking. well not panicking. im nervous as hell.
you can see nervous written all over my face. my knees are weak, my palms are sweaty, im breathing slower than usual, etc.

im nervous cause what if she goes home instantly today..? how will i brought it up tomorrow, if she will accompany me or not?

another problem is i cant read her. i dont know what shes thinking. i cant tell if she thinks im doing this for the reason i stated, or if shes already noticing me making a move.
i cant read her mate.

im not going paranoid or anythign (i think)
but why need i be left hanging here.....? geeeeez..

update
 

she went home already.. didnt say anything to me..

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i..dont know what to think.

just sad.

i guess i just dont want to accept it a while ago. but its over.

this proves it.

i bet tomorrow the topic wont even resurface, as if i didnt ask her.

and im not being paranoid. this is me thinking clear, facing the facts.

guess this is it.

thanks for the advices though everyone.

Calm down, hoss. As far as I can tell, it doesn't mean anything. Unless she says something to you every day before she leaves, don't feel so crushed.

SO you're the guy who's been harassing my girlfriend! :mad:









But seriously... the first mistake you're doing is to over-analyze the actions of a girl. This will get you nowhere and it only gets worse when she's Japanese. Combine this with the fact that she's taken and you've got a disaster which is just waiting to happen.

There are literally millions of Japanese girls out there. Don't waste your precious time going after someone who may or may not want to go shopping with you... let alone dump her boyfriend for you.

I hate to be blunt but I'm speaking from experience. I know it's the time of year where it's nice to have a girl latching onto our arms in front of an illuminated Xmas tree but we have to maintain our own dignity as well right? :vsign:

Sometimes when you are obsessed with a girl, you think there is no one else like her. It's true you really like her, and it probably won't stop until you suddenly meet another girl of your interest. It might look like there aren't others around, but there actually are and maybe better than this one.

IT's a matter of time, you'll find another girl I'm sure.

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im not obsessed mate. thanks for your opinion. i dont think i am though..

but your right with the over analyzing of things.
i have that bad habit u see. i am a computer programmer after all..
i always try to find the reason for such actions and reactions and sometimes cant stop till i find out why, or till ive solved the problem ill go nuts.

anyways,
ill wait for today and see if we go out together. do u think i should refresh her memory or wait for her to tell me if shell go with me today?

Oh well, sorry if I assumed the obsession thing. I had a similar thing, and well I was obsessed xD so I was talking from experience. And I program as well.

Don't wait for her to do the first move, if she won't you'll be crying all over why you didn't ask her in the first place. If you ask her, you won't regret anything.

i know that, but i dont want to cross the line, i mean i dont want her to think im annoying or pressuring her by asking her again. i dont want her to go with me jst because she felt oblidged to help me, get my point?
if i re ask her theres this chance that this might happen and i dont want it.

but i dont want to let this day pass and then not get a word from her regarding the matter too....

so im back to my normal confused state.