Am I engaged or not?

[chapatsujin]

Hello everyone!

In short I am living with my boyfriend(???) who is Japanese. We are discussing marriage and thinking about 2 years from now getting married but he says we are not engaged yet. Also I am a white American girl. But apparently his parents are accepting of me and that makes me happy. But why do you think he wants to marry me but says we are still just boyfriend and girlfriend?

[Keaton421]

A) You're a spammer

B) Is there a ring on your finger? Did he propose to you? If you answered no, you're not engaged. Thinking about marriage is different from an actual engagement.

Plenty of people intend to marry, but don't have the means to do so at the time. I'm in one of those situations - marriage to my girlfriend is inevitable but I wouldn't dare marry her until she's almost done with college and I still have a steady job.

[MMM]

If you have to ask..........

[Bureda]

Originally Posted by chapatsujin

Hello everyone!

In short I am living with my boyfriend(???) who is Japanese. We are discussing marriage and thinking about 2 years from now getting married but he says we are not engaged yet. Also I am a white American girl. But apparently his parents are accepting of me and that makes me happy. But why do you think he wants to marry me but says we are still just boyfriend and girlfriend?

An engagement is a promise to marry, and also refers to the time between proposal and marriage. During this period, a couple is said to be affianced, engaged to be married, or simply engaged.

[RoninDistance]

As MMM said, if you have to ask if you are engaged, you are not, I repeat, you are not engaged. Good luck.

[Slykaz1]

Originally Posted by Keaton421

B) Is there a ring on your finger? Did he propose to you? If you answered no, you're not engaged. Thinking about marriage is different from an actual engagement.

I didn't know you had to have a ring for that! Damn I should have asked for the ring.

Originally Posted by chapatsujin

I am living with my boyfriend(???)

You just answered yourself.
You are not engagaed.
You'll get married without the engagement.
See it's cheaper for him to skip the engagement.
And besides it's a commitment issue that he has, tiz why he doesn't propose.
You really shouldn't worry about it.
Because you'll end up fighting over something stupid as a mid-way of nothing other than status.
Skipping this process is so now.
Relax and enjoy the freedom of being an unowned individual.
Cuz once you slap on that last name.....
You'll be Mrs. And what's fun in being called that?
Then you'll have to go thru the process of changing your last name,
on your passport (if you have one)
on your driver's liscence/ID (if you have one)
on your bank account.....

How come a guy can't change his last name to suit a girl's need...

[Nyororin]

This is a question you should be asking HIM, not people who don`t even know you or your boyfriend.

If he says that you`re not engaged, then I`d say it`s a pretty good indication that you aren`t. If you were, he`d have no reason to deny it - especially to you. If he were denying it to family and saying that he was engaged to you in private that would be one thing, but that doesn`t seem to be what is happening in your case.

My husband and I decided that we were going to get married - announced it to his family, I made the trip to announce it to my family... And then we filed the papers. I don`t believe there was any real "engagement" as there was never a "proposal" - we discussed it together, and decided together.

[Bureda]

If the user is 'Banned' then why the funk is this thread alive? =]

[belovedangelofmicah85]

i have a japanese boyfriend he moved to canada when he was 3 with his dad and mom. his mom is from japan i greatly love him and trying to understand him and his background we are engaged right now and have been for over a year now i know love when i see it and i will be marrying him in the next few years