Who's more dominant in your relationship? - Page 3

Naoko · (#21 (**permalink**))

I think we're pretty equal - though I am a helluva lot more stubborn than he is. On the same note, we've been together long enough that he knows how to flip the switch on that pretty quickly. We balance each other out, so neither is more or less dominant than the other imo.

TheHazardous1 · (#22 (**permalink**))

That depends on what you mean by dominance.

alanX · (#23 (**permalink**))

My hand.

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Koir · (#24 (**permalink**))

Still energetically digging yourself a hole, aren't you?

TalnSG · (#25 (**permalink**))

Take a guess? The name is Taln - as in talons.

Though the relationship may not start with me as the dominate partner, if it lasts I will take the lead. Its always been the case, whether I planned it that way or not. And for years my relationships crumbled because I kept trying to be the submissive, socially expected, female partner.

But that does not mean my partner can be weak. He has to have the strength to take the lead when I don't (usually in public), and to be able to sublimate his will to mine without losing his own identity or self-esteem. I have no desire to be in a relationship that is one-sided, autonomic, or otherwise completely controlling of the other person.

bELyVIS · (#26 (**permalink**))

Since my wife is Japanese she was taught that the man is dominate, so she tries to be more submissive to me. But I am trying to teach her that we are equal and she has come a long way.
I guess a lot of men would like to think they are in charge, but in the end women know how to push the right buttons.

Yuusuke · (#27 (**permalink**))

I kinda feel my gf is alittle more dominant.
I just think I'm lazy about most things.
but yea, i don't really have any complaints (=

JoBo · (#28 (**permalink**))

I was talking about this to my partner the other day.

It's strange because every other couple i know has a dominant one of the two. But for me and Sean it's pretty much equal. If one of us feels really strongly about something then the other will back down and accept it, but we generally take it in turns and compramise with each other.

But i don't know any other couples (in person) like it.

I think it's awesome though

alanX · (#29 (**permalink**))

Quote:

Originally Posted by TalnSG

Take a guess? The name is Taln - as in talons.

Take a guess....no one cares - as in no one.

Suki · (#30 (**permalink**))

I'd say it's mostly me cause all the guys I've been with were the laid-back type and would just let me decide upon "important" matters. This doesn't mean however that things are always done the way I want, which is a shame really.