What do you do if you love someone that just so happens to be gay

[HaidosLilFanGurl]

Well, idk what to do in this particular situation but, I told this guy that's been my best friend since we were 7 and 8 (he's 18 now, I'm 17) that I've liked (maybe even loved) him for as long as I can remember, and that even though I knew that he didn't like me in that way, I told him that we could at least try and see where things would take us. But when I told him that, I knew he was bi. That gave me a fighting chance still. But he told me that he no longer wanted girls. I was shocked at first but I got over it. So I told him that I would still be here for him whenever he needed me, and and if he only wanted guys, I wouldn't get in his way. But my feelings for him would be the same. But now I don't really know about that. I don't really know what to do because I don't want to get in his way but everytime he comes to me seeking advice about another guy, I try suck it up and help him, but really I'm completely jealous. And I fear that I'm going to get in his way eventually. What are your thoughts?

[iPhantom]

Get another guy. This one has 0 interest for you. It's worthless going after him.

inb4 heavy disagreements

[Twisted]

I dunno, her feelings for him are very strong. It's hard if that someone can't (or won't) return those feelings to you, it hurts even more if that person gets into a relationship with someone else.

"Getting another guy" may sound simple enough, but dammit, it just doesn't work this way.

The only solution I can think of now is the following:

Talk it over, lay it bare and sort it out. Together. A romance may be inpossible, but this way you can save this friendship an you both can find someone to be happy with.

Yes, you may get hurt. Yes, it will suck like the void itself. But you won't be torturing yourself like you do now. I got a pretty good idea how you feel right now. Trust me. Be honest with him. He was honest with you. If you sort it out together, you'll stay friends. Then again, you may turn him around. Who knows if you don't try?

[Nyororin]

I think that the reasons for him not loving you back are irrelevant. The important part is that he doesn`t feel that way about you and likely never will no matter what you do.

I am going to close this thread before there is much talk about sexual preference as it is against the rules (too many threads going way off track in a very bad way when it is involved in the discussion) - but I suggest you check out the other big thread;

When you love someone who doesn't love you back...