How well do you deal with rejection?

[missprincess]

if youve ever been rejected by something or someone in your life, how well did you or do you deal with it?

because i recently got turned down for a job and its seriously annoying me! so just wanted to know how other people deal with it.

thanks
peace!

[WingsToDiscovery]

Time spent wasted doting things like rejection only causes for missed opportunities later on down the road. I know that sounds like some kind of fortune cookie but in all honestly that's the way I try to live. If I get rejected from something then I can at least say that I tried, which is more than what most people can say. Then I pick myself up, learn from my mistakes, and try again. It's why I normally get what I want.

[missprincess]

lol true, but it knocks your confidence ALOT well its knocked mine substantially esp when it happens from a few diff sources at once eg, your personal life aswell (its been a lousy year) - i just hate the feeling of not being good enough for something

[dogsbody70]

it depends on the type of rejection.

knowing I was rejected by family-- then newfound cousins who were not prepared to accept me at all.

It must depend on reasons. I do take rejection very badly-- but thats because of my experiences in childhood.

If one is rejected for a good reason then one has maybe to examine oneself and ask why?

I turned my feelings of rejection to positive purposes by helping others who also had been IN CARE-- and basically had been totally rejected or treated badly in their lives-- So in helping others-- That was useful form of being positive rather than moaning and groaning.

[protheus]

I didn't deal with any rejection until now, professionally speaking, I calculated first the odds, and applied only where I sensed I had a chance. Of course, luck has its part in every success.

[Columbine]

Originally Posted by missprincess

if youve ever been rejected by something or someone in your life, how well did you or do you deal with it?

because i recently got turned down for a job and its seriously annoying me! so just wanted to know how other people deal with it.

thanks
peace!

In this job market? As a young person seeking to get on the career ladder? Unless you're a much-needed specialist, suck it up and get used to it, especially if you don't live in a city. I've applied for a number of jobs I'd be perfectly good at and am qualified for and still been turned down. Because say, a mid-career individual with 10 years experience doing the same job also applied. Or because they were actually going with a quick in-house promotion but legal reasons required them to interview. Or tiny mistakes/omissions on my part that tipped a balance somewhere between me and one of the 50 other applicants. Learn from it, don't take it personally, figure out what issues you could have avoided or what you can do to sure-guard against in the future.

[missprincess]

Originally Posted by dogsbody70

it depends on the type of rejection.

knowing I was rejected by family-- then newfound cousins who were not prepared to accept me at all.

It must depend on reasons. I do take rejection very badly-- but thats because of my experiences in childhood.

If one is rejected for a good reason then one has maybe to examine oneself and ask why?

I turned my feelings of rejection to positive purposes by helping others who also had been IN CARE-- and basically had been totally rejected or treated badly in their lives-- So in helping others-- That was useful form of being positive rather than moaning and groaning.

i deal with rejection seriously badly too, and i always end up questioning myself - however i dont think it should be like that - i think a big problem i have is that alot of my self confidence is based soley on my outward appearance etc etc so when i get knocked like most women do i think to myself am i not pretty enough is my personality not nice enough, and ofcourse thats the worse way to think about it, its so unhealthy its stupid

im so sorry to hear about ur experiences dogsbody, my friend, well hes more like a brother, has gone through the care system and i must say i couldnt imagine how it feels not to have a family that supports you, thats another level of strong! (pats back) i must must comend you on that, it takes alot of guts to face the world alone ALOT OF GUTS!

[dogsbody70]

Originally Posted by missprincess

i deal with rejection seriously badly too, and i always end up questioning myself - however i dont think it should be like that - i think a big problem i have is that alot of my self confidence is based soley on my outward appearance etc etc so when i get knocked like most women do i think to myself am i not pretty enough is my personality not nice enough, and ofcourse thats the worse way to think about it, its so unhealthy its stupid

im so sorry to hear about ur experiences dogsbody, my friend, well hes more like a brother, has gone through the care system and i must say i couldnt imagine how it feels not to have a family that supports you, thats another level of strong! (pats back) i must must comend you on that, it takes alot of guts to face the world alone ALOT OF GUTS!

thanks Princess-- guess its the luck of the draw.

You need to have enough self esteem not to worry what anyone else thinks about you. I had such low self esteem and a huge inferiority complex for many years-- but old age has taught me a lot LOL.

Stop worrying too much about your appearance. If you demonstrate self confidence and also take an interest in others-- almost forgetting YOURSELF in the process-- you will be fine. I realise that Peer Pressure can make one feel inadequate-- but its the person you are Inside that matters. self confident but not arrogant.

Having a genuine interest in other people is a good way to have friends.

My gr daughters go clubbing regularly-- they all tend to dress in a similar way--but they also have confidence.

When I was young I was way too self conscious.


Just be strong and also prepared to learn.

[missprincess]

Originally Posted by dogsbody70

Stop worrying too much about your appearance. If you demonstrate self confidence and also take an interest in others-- almost forgetting YOURSELF in the process-- you will be fine.

Having a genuine interest in other people is a good way to have friends.

Just be strong and also prepared to learn.

THANKS thats some great advice! my mum says the same thing, that when u show a genuine interest in others and are humble and kind, than people are drawn to you regardless of what u look like! and i defo believe that

arrogance never got anyone anywhere - and thats something i had to learn the hard way

but i wish u the best in life and im really happy to know you got past ur complex! - i think it is something that comes with age - im alot diff now comp to when i was like 15 - and i guess if someones not that into u because of the way u look then they werent good enuff for you anyway - because they shud love u for u

THANKS
PEACE

[NanteNa]

Dating wise I've never been rejected.. O_O and job wise... I've been rejected plenty of times. The people living nearby here don't like my 'capital city'-dialect. lol.


EDIT: I love how my latest entry completely shut the discussion down. lol