second chances? (long)

[godwine]

Originally Posted by OHayou

No Kayci! *I'M* sorry .. when you just typed "trololol" I thought you were laughing me off and calling me a troll because of my super-laid-back way of answering your question when, in fact, there WAS some seriousness to it.

I think its more like because many of your post express you being a loner who is in need of something really badly....

Though I do agree with 2 things you said, its difficult to just "restart" if the first try fail... and the thhing with turning adulthood, I agree 100%, but that can go both ways, they either see things more clear now that they are more mature and get things working, or completely the opposite..... so it really depends on the individual

Long distance, though, I think can still work, its going to be difficult and way challenging, but i think it can work

[OHayou]

Originally Posted by godwine

I think its more like because many of your post express you being a loner who is in need of something really badly....

lol, tough crowd here!

Anyone can assume anything they want (especially on the Internet) and often our assumptions are based upon our paradigms. Paradigms are like a set of glasses. What works for one person does not necessarily work for another. With paradigms we look out through our own eyes and assume the world is the same for everyone else who views it.

I really hate descriptions without examples so here we go:

For example: Typically your posts come off as confrontational and you have posted some quite aggressive posts that are typically very serious (I think a bit overly serious for a Japanforum.com but I digress). You also engage in put-downs. To one person, these seem to fit the characteristic of an insecure person who has problems accepting self and others. To another, they could be the hallmarks of a person who takes himself seriously and expects others to be as serious.

To answer your statement though...I think she answered with the lol statement BECAUSE....

Originally Posted by Kayci

I honestly was just thinking how funny your post was, and that song came to mind

Originally Posted by Kayci

Well I know it was somewhat truthful, I just love it when people are funny about it.

so don't try to over analyze it! lol

[Kayci]

Originally Posted by OsakaBlue

I think it's great that you two were able to reconnect after highschool. I do believe in second chances but like everyone has stated above, long-distance can be tough. There has to be a point to it basically, meaning one person has to make a sacrifice and move eventually. It seems like a fairy tale now because you're with him right now, but what happens afterwards? Will you be satisfied with seeing each other only twice a year? I was in a long distance relationship once and we saw each other once every few months until I made the decision to move to his state (half way across the US). We stayed together for over four years and were engaged. Then we broke up. I felt resentful that I gave up so much to be with him. I'm still in his state but he actually moved out of the state and I realized how alone I was here because I only hung out with his friends. I had to start all over. But I didn't want to move back to my own state (then again, who would...it's NJ). It took months (still is) for me to find my own group of friends. Luckily I was able to find a good job when I first moved here, but finding a new apartment on my own, being 'independent', etc... it's definitely tough.

True...but thats why i will try anyways...see how things turn out. Take it day by day

[OsakaBlue]

Originally Posted by Kayci

True...but thats why i will try anyways...see how things turn out. Take it day by day

I hope things turn out for the best for the both of you But like you said, take it day by day and play it by ear for now.