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Originally Posted by dogsbody70
the thing is ROBIN that many fathers are desperate to have contact with their children-- all too often mothers will not allow them much if any contact.
My ex son in law was involved in DADS UK-- that was for men who were bringing children up on their own.
But Many fathers have a really tough time because all too often the Mother is preferred. thats why "fathers for justice"keen to get attention for fathers-- I personally believe that no child should become a pawn between their parents as happens too often.
later in life as the child grows they often wish to learn more about their dads-- dads are important-- not only in childhood but later on as well.
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I'm not denying any of this, however I am saying that a lot of fathers
choose to have nothing to do with their children. There are some fathers who fight for their rights, who seek custody or visitation, I've met them and they exist, however there are a lot - if not more - who simply just give up or choose not to. It's not a matter of the mother preventing them, or that the law is unjust, it's simply that these men choose not to.
No child should be used as a pawn, and if the mother prevents contact then this is wrong too, and bad for the child. That said the laws in the UK - although somewhat bias to the mother - are very good, fair and just. We have more rights here than in many countries, and fathers have more rights than in other countries, sure it could be better but - in most cases - if the father pushes for visitation he'll get it. I don't know about custody, but I've rarely heard of a court denying a father access and visitation. Even when the father has a criminal record he's still allowed access, albeit supervised.
I'd debate the importance of 'dads being important', solely because I don't think that they necessarily are. If a child had good and solid role-models in its life then a father isn't necessarily going to make much of a difference, same-sex couples for example can have phenomenally well-adjusted children, without a father.