Marriage
 

Im getting married in 1 month or two.
How i meet my boyfriend:
I usued a website named badoo.com just for chat and then i found my bf in the site, i didnt do nothing just looked his profile. He could se that i looked on his website so he started chatting with me.
:rheart: :rheart: :rheart: :rheart: :rheart: :rheart:
Then after been on tunisia trip i went down to Antwerp in Belgium to meet him.
He propoced to me wen we where at the lake, it was really a beautiful place. And we spent many dayes walking diffrent places in town and see nice things.
Then later we went together back to Sweden. Hes a student in bleklinge högskola in southern Sweden. i desided to move from my town where i lived all my life just for him.

Today im leaving to his town in Sweden. And we got apartment together.

We love each other alot so we desided to get married. private Wedding first then with family. Seens we cant afford big wedding yet seens we bouth are studing we desided to do smal private wedding. Oh we cant afford even golden rings yet so we desided to buy silver rings and put name on it.

anyone els wanna tell me about there love story?

You are students and can't even afford rings? Are you sure you are ready financially to be getting married?

In Sweden wedding doesnt cost any money. its up to u if u wanna spend alot to make big wedding or not. most money goes now to have dubbel rents becouse of law of it takes 3 months to get rid the apartment u rent.

I wasn't really thinking about the wedding, but starting a life together without financial security. I don't know about Sweden and how things are there, but in the US that can a tough place to start. People here are waiting longer and longer to get married...waiting until they are financially secure, because if they don't the rate of divorce goes way up.

I know this sounds very negative, and I don't want to put a dark cloud over your exciting news... it's a forum and I thought I would ask.

Yeah i know what u mean. but i get money from elswhere (govermental) and i dont count as student so i can get normal apartments and stuff like that. My boyfriend is gonna start working a bit to. so we have things thought and discussed. =) if u split rents and stuff like that things doesnt go so expensive.

Sounds like Sweden is pretty supportive of new families.

Im going soon on 4.5h trip to Karlskrona and i need to change 3 times (2 trains, 1 buss) to get there. I havent sleep at all this night so i need to be awake hehe. Cheers Ito

I wish you well in your new life and hope it turns out okay for you.

Probably tough times ahead-- but lets hope you will both surmount the difficulties and be happy together. marriage is always a gamble--but Good LUck to you. Be happy.

thank u alot. :D

Uhm I agree with MMM, Financial security is high on my list if I were to be married. I'd want me and my boyfriend (Hypothetically) to have a stable income, to have lived together for year and earned enough for a house deposit before i consider getting married.

Have you thought this through, How long have you known this guy? How do you know whether he's just trying to get a visa, if he's not originally from your country.

Europe in general or atleast the EU.

http://www.familyandparenting.org/Fi...efactsheet.pdf

But that doesn't mean you will have a life full of luxury & comfort.

Wishing you both lots of happiness!:rheart:

Financial ability is important. But IIRC, Sweden is a semi-socialist country. High in bureaucracy and the taxes are insane, but they DO pay for lots of social programs, like education and apparently marriage.

Good luck and congrats

In Sweden wedding doesnt cost any money. its up to u if u wanna spend alot to make big wedding or not. most money goes now to have dubbel rents becouse of law of it takes 3 months to get rid the apartment u rent.

yes, thats all well and good but is that just the ceremony though?
Money has to go out somewhere, like the wedding dress, the grooms clothes, catering, flowers, the cake. They all cost money.

They do, but I think what the person is saying is that 'weddings' cost money, but 'marraiges' don't. What I mean is that - in the UK for example - it's about a hundred pounds to marry, you simply turn up with witnesses and that's it, you're married. It only costs money if you have the dress, the guests, the cake etc. like you named. If this person is simply looking to get married, without the huge ceremony and celebrations, then they probably could do it pretty cheap, or for next to nothing :)

It'll probably be better that way too. If cost of living is as expensive in Sweden as the posters have indicated, then it makes sense to save money and use it for an apartment or education etc., rather than on one day that means little in the scheme of things, not when the goal is to simply unite with the person you wish to spend your life with.

I think if you're really committed to him then get married. It's your life and only you can lead it.

I have a similar story to you albeit with a bit more distance. I met my boyfriend online and after years of planning moved from Australia to England to be with him. We aren't getting married for at least another two years though. I'd rather settle down, live with him and get things sorted before that.

But congratulations :)

hi. yeah we gonna make it real small for only 2 of us and few of his friends in this small town. and just do court marriage. Dress i fixed from my sister is a nice white dress with red flowers and shoes i had from my sisters wedding in tunisia this year. you can alwayes make big parties later like in the summer.
And cilla thanks :) . And im happy for u to Cilla just do it as it fits your bouth, moving from australia to uk must be huge thing to. My boyfriend he studies in Sweden so i just moved to his town. thanks to Dayanx and LillyFields <3.
And xYinniex, my boyfriend can stay in sweden during his studies so we arent corrently appling at all for him to get swedish naturnality yet, now we have 3 weeks waiting to know if we can get married but i think things will work out fine. I have thought things through and im really happy.
And the question of education is free in sweden.. even university studies.
Hugs Ito

Exactly how long have you known him? It sounds like most of your relationship was internet based, which isn't the greatest place to start a stable marriage if you haven't spent much time with him offline.

i live with him now? and i been with him in belgium for vacation. now we have apartment together.

That really didn't answer my question.

its not your business.
it's my life and im not a child and its my choice.
I Tell what i want to tell.........

If you didn't want it to be anyone's business, then you shouldn't have posted it on a public forum for other people to comment on.

You may not be a child, but the way you responded was very childish. If you don't want anyone to ask questions, then either 1. Don't post, or 2. Respectfully decline questions, rather than resorting to "it's not your business!".

I actually disagree on this one. There's no reason why you can't get to know someone very well online. and she has obviously spent a lot of real time...time with the guy after that.

All the best Ito,I wish you a happy marriage.

You may have a point, but with that said it is very easy to lie online. I could tell you anything about myself right now, for example, and how easy would it be for you to verify it? I'm not saying that her fiance is a liar or anything like that, but even if someone was to be extremely truthful and honest an internet relationship is not an indication of personality or person. If you argue online you can turn off the computer, come back later, and respond with a cool head. . . if you're with a person face to face then you can't typically just walk away, especially not if you're living with them.

I think Pocky's question was very valid. She (Ito) says she lives with him (her fiance) and has vacationed with him, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's spent a lot of time with him in real life, for all we know she may have moved in just last month. Time spent with someone in real life is very important in determining whether a relationship has a chance, especially marraige.

In the US it is even cheaper (depending on the state).

Did I say that it's impossible to get to know someone well online? No.

I have a few online friends now that I've had since I was barely a teenager (oh, the days). Do I know them well? Yes. But the offline communication, face to face interaction, is still completely missing. There's a LARGE sense of personality that only comes with real human interaction. Online, you know facts about a person and maybe hints of their personality, but it's impossible to subsitute that with day to day interaction. Imagine if you only knew your parents (or something similar) through texts and the occassional phone call.

Reading her first post, I actually got the opposite feel of what you're saying. I felt that she hadn't spent a lot of time with him. Normal vacations don't last that long, and moving in doesn't take but a few hands and a pretty day (persuasion to move in probably would take too long either).

There is so much to learn once couples actually live together.

We all have habits-- good and bad that can irritate the other like crazy.

I don't think we would ever know someone merely from online or letters etc.

That might give thoughts-- but nothing about the real person.

is who divorced?

people has still rights of not ansering if they dont want to. and i didnt think people would act this negativly. and i got offended by beeing questioned and i dont think u want anyone to question u about your own life?. its still my life and not yours. and u dont have to ask many times to get reply if u not getting any, simpler is that...

And marriage can be diffrent in diffrent relationships and also diffrent cultures. like in sweden u can get married if u are gay. u can get married without rings. u can get married without any religious meaning.

And shanebond2221, thats intresting to know about traditions. i like wen people discuss things about weddings and marriage from other countries. planing to go to japan later on with my husband. he just have over 1 year left with with his masters so then i wish to save for big trips around the world.
i wish to hear about peoples love stories to =). i cant live without romantic dramas and same goes with my husband. We have been watching alot of bollywood movies and Devdas is so sad love story. Indian movies has nice love stories.

And offcourse in relationship u learn about his likes and dislikes, each other good and bad sides. i have been in many relationships so i know.
wish all a great new year and luck in life. And im happy married to my husband. cheers ito

Awwwwww.. you guys sound so cute! ;)
 

Pics or it didn't happen!

....Nah just kidding =D

I wish you and your hubby the best of luck for the future! Don't think too deep about what people are saying online. They are just jealous ;)

I don't have a love story myself that started over the internet, but I know a few people that did. So I can imagine what it sort of must have been like for you guys.

Devdaaaaaaaaaas! Whata great movie.. i was like :''''''''''-( while i was watching it (but ssssshhhhhhhh! don't tell anyone!)... So i guess he is your Devdas and you are his little Paro then :rheart:

Sounds to me like you guys are trying your best to get things sorted but remember if you guys lovey dovey each other, than there is no rush!!! (well... maybe there is lol) Some valid points were made by the others in this thread, especially the ones that seem a little bit negative but I think as long as you guys are together - even if you guys end up on the street, even if you only have nothing but a slice of bread to share between the two of you, no matter what happens - it's going to be alright.

Go-kekkon omedetou gozaimasu. Suenagaku osiawaseni!!! Banzaaiii!!!!

(@shanebond22221: LOL)