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sailorboy 08-18-2011 05:49 AM

Long lost girl friend/ Help wanted.
 
In January or February of 1967 [ yes 1967] I met a lovely girl in the port of Nihama. [Please excuse my spelling] I was on a timber ship and just 22. We went to see a movie called " Those magnificent men in their flying machines. " Her name was Sato Setomi, or Seto Satomi. She was just 20. What could have become of her? I have never forgotten her and if anyone can help I'd be grateful.

Nyororin 08-18-2011 05:58 AM

Without something more detailed, it is going to be VERY hard to track her down. Most likely, she married and her name is now different. I am willing to say with a fair bit of confidence that it was likely Seto Satomi, as Setomi isn`t a name. (Both Seto and Sato are surnames though.)

There are numerous ways to write Japanese names, so it would be very hard even if she had never moved and never married. If you had an old address, it might be easier.

tokusatsufan 08-18-2011 06:08 PM

I'd continue looking,but don't throw your life away. I'd still see people if I were you.

dxr 08-18-2011 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Nippom (Post 876455)
That's, um, 34 years ago.

44 years ago*

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She was 20?
She'll be 54 now.
64* and he will be 66. I find this pretty amazing :)

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Amazing the effect of a Japanese girl on a non-Nihonjin boy ne.
Don't know why it has to be race specific, but ok....

tokusatsufan 08-18-2011 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Nippom (Post 876455)
Amazing the effect of a Japanese girl on a non-Nihonjin boy ne.

That's quite a patronising thing to say.

dxr 08-19-2011 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Nippom (Post 876500)
^How could it possibly be patronizing?

Haha perhaps it had nothing to do with race and something about the person? The time in his life? Something they shared?

Nah, just boils down to her being Asian. Or perhaps thats how *you* think.

OHayou 08-20-2011 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Nippom (Post 876455)
That's, um, 34 years ago.
She was 20?
She'll be 54 now.
Amazing the effect of a Japanese girl on a non-Nihonjin boy ne.


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Originally Posted by tokusatsufan (Post 876474)
I'd continue looking,but don't throw your life away. I'd still see people if I were you.


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Originally Posted by tokusatsufan (Post 876490)
That's quite a patronising thing to say.

lol...to ME they are both patronizing. A gentleman posts his first post on Japan forums asking for help on a nagging thought he's had for years. What does he get? Comments on how long ago it was (I'm sure since HE realizes how long ago it was since he said "(Yes, 1967!)") or "advice" on how he shouldn't waste his life.

He most likely wanted to connect with her again and see how she was. See how her life ended up. See if they can share that memory together.

What does he hear in the end? "Hey dumb ass, it was a long time ago stop living in the past and don't waste your life by not dating anyone."

I know you didn't mean it like that most likely but sweet Nyororin is the only one who addressed the man's issue.

Can the man get some help!? If not, I'm sure a man in his 60s doesn't want 20 and 30 year olds "advising" him on how to live his life. lol

MMM 08-20-2011 06:18 PM

I agree. Help him or don't. You don't think he knows he is taking a random stab in the dark?

If you have nothing positive to add to help him, please keep it to yourself.

dogsbody70 08-21-2011 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by OHayou (Post 876748)
lol...to ME they are both patronizing. A gentleman posts his first post on Japan forums asking for help on a nagging thought he's had for years. What does he get? Comments on how long ago it was (I'm sure since HE realizes how long ago it was since he said "(Yes, 1967!)") or "advice" on how he shouldn't waste his life.

He most likely wanted to connect with her again and see how she was. See how her life ended up. See if they can share that memory together.

What does he hear in the end? "Hey dumb ass, it was a long time ago stop living in the past and don't waste your life by not dating anyone."

I know you didn't mean it like that most likely but sweet Nyororin is the only one who addressed the man's issue.

Can the man get some help!? If not, I'm sure a man in his 60s doesn't want 20 and 30 year olds "advising" him on how to live his life. lol

I wonder if there is a friends reunited branch in Japan?

Gokiburi 08-22-2011 01:23 AM

Talk about lasting impressions and looking for the proverbial needle...

Can't find her for you - but others could,

Localized websites, local newspapers, buy adspace if you have to. Publish your mugshot from that date - tell your tale...

If its meant to happen, it will...

Nevermind the naysayers, they may be right but unless you try you will keep carrying that 'what if...' with you for another 40 years.

Good Luck


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