my dream to live in japan
 

hello everyone my name is jason, i am 23 years old and for roughly 7 years now i have dreamed of living in japan oneday, im currently engaged to a really nice girl and i have a mortgage in lincoln uk. ive come to the end of my comptia networking + course and i am preparing to do my exam. After this i will start studying cisco networking. to cut to the chase. i plan to in the future break up with my fiancee and leave my country for japan. all she wants is marriage and kids and i want so much more than that. i know i would not be happy if i got married to this woman and had kids with her .. I would feel empty and numb with it all i think.
Since i was a kid i was fascinated with everything japanese. It started of with the usual suspects japanese manga anime and then japanese films documenaries history programs etc. i crave the big city lifestyle and all the hustle and bustle. the fact i think japan is responsible for the most beautiful women in the world, is only a small factor in my decision to oneday move to japan
From what i gather and have seen on tv and in books japan is a beautiful country with so many varried landscapes incredible skiing and hot beaches. i really want to start learning japanese and if it wasnt for meeting my current fiancee. i would have gone to japan already, i had planned to travel to the kichijoji language school in tokyo .. alass i took a different route in my life.

Im sure japan has its flaws and im sure i have overhyped japan in my own mind. but to me personally. japan seams a whole world away from the rest of the demomcratic countries

im also obsessed with the underground racing scenes in japan aswell.. i would part with my own mother for a nissam skyline r34 GTR with 50k to put under the hood.

i would love to hear from anyone who has made the move to japan and anyone living in japan tell me your stories of inspiration. i would trade everything i have here for a 1 bed apartment in tokyo with a nice networking job with a little cash in my pocket

thanks for reading

If you crave hot beaches with beautiful water, go to Jamaica :D

Ditching everything you have and hitting the road is a dream many men have.

If you don't speak Japanese, you'll have difficulty living in Japan or getting a tech job. Do you have a college degree? My advice would be to try out the JET program first. It would give you a good opportunity to pick up some much-needed Japanese, and you might even find you dislike being in Japan more than your engagement ;)

i think your off your rocker if your gonna throw away and engagement for moving to japan?

Well he did say he's not currently happy with his. And I'm assuming that if he's a real man, he's talked about this with his fiancee, worked his hands to the bone to make things better, and if it's unfixable, he should be prepared to break off the engagement in a mature, gentlemanly way.

If all that's true, can't blame the guy for wanting a lady with a Japanese face

im too tired to comment.. cant think of anything funny to say.

Gonna agree with Keat on this one. If he's that determined, and he's seriously serious about breaking off his engagement due to his unhappy outlook on the relationship, fine. Just don't go taking a sledgehammer to her heart. Although...willing to part with your own mother for a car? D: Damn...

thanks for your comments firstly. i do love my fiancee but i know deep down i will make her unhappy in the future i feel i cannot miss up a chance to do something like this.. also my fiancees father was a cats whisker away from moving to canada before he got with his wife and even though he loves his kids and family when he thinks about what could have been it depresses him . my fiancee wants a nice quiet life with a couple of kids in a small house she has no desires or ambitions of her own.. to be honest she was the first person i fell in love with. when i think what could have been b4 i met her.. moving to tokyo to study japanese i get desperatly sad. i do love her and i know leaving her would be cruel but she has told me before if any of us are not happy we shouldnt go any further. i would also never leave her in the lurch i would finacially support her and let her have everything i only need a few coins and the drive and determination to go on.

i believe in life
you get the people who DO and the people who DON'T

i want a life which wasnt expected of me i want so much more and i know i won't get that from my fiancee.. she wouldnt even consider moving to london for me as its too far from her parents (160 miles )

im also not a child anymore im 23 and life is moving to fast i don't wanna be 30 with this still being a pipe dream i want to act as soon as possible. it would be aweful of me to marry my fiancee and then fall out of love with her a few months after due to my needs

im sure i come across as a crazy pychopath :D but this is my dream and i really REALLY want to do something about it

i would rather do it and fail than not do it and not know at all

anyway i would still lvoe to hear stories of people who have successfully migrated to japan :)

if you wanna do it that much then why do you need us to say its ok?

if you were all for living life etc you'd have buggered off yonks ago.

lol yea if it was that simple im not asking permission i want to know other peoples stories and what not, meet other ppl like me who want to make the move, thats it simple as :)

follow your dream but you should probably break it off now instead of waiting and saying, "oh yeah by the way I wanna go to Japan so it's over"

Well Jason I can actually understand where you are coming from with this one. First I should tell you a little about myself. I'm 22, I went straight into a demanding career right after I graduated from college, and the last real relationship I've been in was roughly 3 years ago. Now with that said I should also tell you that I am very happy with my life right now. Dude you're only 23, you gotta get out of this relationship. Now usually I give people who "dream of moving to Japan" a hard time, but your situation is a little different. But not much different don't be a chump you really just don't want to be where you are. "From skiing to beaches?" bro you really just want to go anywhere. As a rule I would probably say visit Japan first, and honestly try to get as much information on the culture and customs there as possible, but you have to think if Japan is really going to be a right fit for you, or if you're just throwing darts at a map. But you have to decide what YOU want out of life. Success is going to require some sacrifice at some point, and believe me it's easier to just get it out of the way at the beginning. If you don't want to begin your life with a family you gotta break that off. Listen there are literally BILLIONS of women in this world, with a new one turning legal everyday, so women aren't going anywhere, but you only get one life.

So here's your game plan; Sit down and think long and hard about what you want (not wanting to be in a relationship doesn't mean that you should move to Japan), Now if you somehow still believe that you want to visit Japan gather a lot more information on Japan, reading more manga doesn't count, I mean actual research (the customs, culture, people, weather, ideology) find a good Japanese instructor, take a look into the JET program (or if your Japanese is good enough by then apply for an office job), then run like Forest Gump, and if you share a computer with her DELETE THE HISTORY (you'd be surprised at how often women go through the history). The real beauty in this plan is that it's not going to happen over night, so that gives you time to really see what is most important to you. Just don't let her see it coming, or it might back fire.

Have you ever actually been to Japan before? Sorry if I'm coming across as rude.

disfunkd,

I can see where you're coming from. I dumped my last girlfriend of 3 years so that I could move across the country to live amongst the mountains. In retrospect, it was a great decision. I may be single but I'm probably the happiest single guy around. ;)

However, in my case, I did a ton of research instead of following my heart. I visited my future town twice and even spent a month living there as I talked to many of the locals and transients.

You're still young and I encourage you to do what's best for you. Don't settle down if you're not ready to do so. But at the same time, do your research! Japan is a mystical country which attracts a lot of people for various reasons but it does have its share of negatives as well! Going to Japan because of your interest in anime, cars, music, etc. is like chasing a girl for the tattoo's on her back.

Check out some other forums as well - gaijinpot.com is the central hub for foreigners living in Japan. You can check out that site but be prepared. Those guys are a lot less forgiving than the users on this site.

Since I am probably older than most of you, a bit of wisdom. You only regret what you DON'T DO.
I have done many crazy things and if I died today I couldn't never say my life was boring. But looking back on the things I didn't do, either because I was afraid, nervous, or because I thought I might disappoint someone else, are the things I look back on and regret.
Dump your woman, quit your job and move to Japan. Even if it doesn't work out you still will sleep better at night knowing you tried. Good luck.

Seems to me you want to break off your relationship so you can bone Japanese women based on your comments about wanting to move there because you think they are the most beautiful women. Hate to tell you this but you aren't going to get any AV type girls there. There are lots of ugly Japanese girls too.

Have I mentioned yet in another one of your posts that you're a flaming imbecile?

'Cause you are.

OP,
You're a natural Jack Kerouac aren't ya'? I respect that a lot. I try to do the same thing myself, seeking the next thrill in life that it has to offer. Can't exactly say much about your situation, but it happens: I've known lots of people who wake up, roll over and look at the person they've loved and slept with in the same bed, and not feel a thing for them anymore.

Like someone else suggested, I'd looking into learning a spot of Japanese before you even think twice about heading over there; you'll need the basics, bare minimum, to survive over there.

Salute.