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I wonder if everyone that is saying "yeah, as long as you love eachother its ok" actually mean it??

Personally, I don't agree with this kind of age gap. But that doesn't mean I will intrude on your personal life. When I say I don't agree with it, I mean that I could NEVER (:rolleyes: sig) do that. To me, its just wrong. Thats the kind of age difference a child and their parents have. Plus comes the fact taht the older partner is more likely to die earlier and leave the younger one alone (so, happily ever after just doesn't exist).

So, Gackt, good luck to ya, but by the sounds of your posts, you kinda seem too young (mentally), to be with someone that age. But if you're happy, then I welcome you to say F*** off to anyone that says otherwise (including me)

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Originally Posted by kokunin (Post 430858)

uuuh another question is , are you angry?

laughin at these fools " in love" over MYSPACE.... damn it i mean " i dropped out of school 2 be with him" hehehhahaha:D now looka this.... she is 22 and stuff and 66 old man uses viagra probally and the sex life must be the bomb!!!:rolleyes: but wait... the old dude must! be rich! r has a value caz no way in hell A SMART !!! woman would drop out of skool 2 be wid no man this int romeo and juliet times girlll....... wake up and dont waste ur lil old life4 a moment of passion ...geez even my dog wont leave a house that feeds it 2 be a witha stray dog..." unless its really a bumb dog":cool:

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Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 431165)

Well, for me it is the age gap of me and my granparents, but still...

I saw a couple before, my moms X friend, he had is arm around a 16 year old girl, he was about 45. I thought she was his daughter and was eyeing her off and smiling... Turns out the man and his wife had taken the young girl in and were helping her through some tough times. She most likely developed a dependancy on their attention due to that she needed help, and she went too far with it, the man left his wife and exploited the girls fragility. I am wondering, does Gackt have social or emotional problems, and has had the same thing happen. It is not uncommon people like that to be on the net looking for friends. I asked, but she did not reply.

... I still find it hard to think on what level the two could click, though. I mean, was she talking about what that he was interested in? And was she interested in his old antique furniture collection for real, like? Makes me assume he has provided her with some sort of support which is the level they clicked at, and her isolation has led her to develop attraction... Or something like that. I dunno...

yes tenchu..they must have a value im saying the same thing..... reality show it

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Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 430945)

Did he help you with any emotional problems or social problems you had?

He has helped me out considerably with my emotional and social problems. A lot of old wounds come up sometimes but now I am able to fight the wounds. My parents are still a wound and sometimes get me in the mind set that I should care what other people think.

looks at the girl *throws a box of viagra..* " i had enough she can do wtf pleases her " and does a walk away like sasuke.... :cool:

Why is this controversial? *sings* Love is in the air *sings*

The same happened to me.

But I'm through my bad times, and SHE IS OLDER THAN ME, SO I UNDERSTAND YOUR SITUATION.

She is one day older than me!!!!!

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Originally Posted by tifa (Post 431169)

there are some pretty stupid dogs out there...one of my dogs hung itself on its chain while we were asleep...so...but to quit school for a dude in todays time...sounds liek your parents and/or culture can have that. American's won't understand this, for every person must get his own bread, and if there isn't enough bread, then take someone elses (which in the corporate world happens quite a bit)...but in japan, I hear, being a house wife is common. So you know...if its somethign the parents from old country have mad eup I understand. Under YOUR own uptakeing I don't...but that's just me.

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Originally Posted by Tenchu (Post 431285)

Yeah, theres your problem. Told you she was fragile...

Gackt, you should not entirly care what other people think, not unless what they are thinking is pretty true, and pretty, how should I say, pathetic... I dunno. I will tell you outright, I can pretty much guess your situation. He is too old for you. And you are not healthy. In 99% of cases where I think someone is fucked up, i will tell them NOT to go see a counsellor. But I am going to recomend that you go see one, just once, and just tell them a friend said you should go, and tell them why. I think if you don't understand this kind of thing it is going to absorb into the rest of your life, and you will always have emotional and social problems, and any kids you have will be dumb, too... I seriously would go...

And go to the counsellor ALONE.

actually the kids might sore off this kindof thing...as the mom is pathetic the kids won't trust her, so they'll make their own way...although in America that sounds all good and all, but those type of people sometimes float, but many times disappear into the millions. They might not be dumb, but YOU as a mother will be a hindrance, not a step up...

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Originally Posted by Slykaz1 (Post 431368)

Why is this controversial? *sings* Love is in the air *sings*

Dude, we're over love, we're into reasoning now...we want reasons, why LOVE is possible in this situation...that's why its controversial. if you love someone, YOU should at least know WHY, right. I "love" my girlfriend, and would marry her already had i had my own house, career and all that jazz. The reasons why i love her: She's cute when she's angry, annoying when shes not, she's distrubingly demented but i like that because its kinda liek the dominatrix thing, she hates tomatoes (which i don't understand), she can speak good english, has a long neck, has a NICE A$$, can pick me and throw me around the room, isn't stronger than (that would totatlly hurt my pride, liek when i found out that every girl fakes it sometime in their life),thinks about me, and actually cares about me, actually wants this relationship, can be trusted with just about anything, besides, "I think i just killed someone" or"I want to die."She has the coolest hair, its like closer to "snap-back- naps" but not so close to naps...its kinda in the middle, but closer to naps than straight hair, Her eyes are a LIGHT brown which is cool and spooky, the way she walks tells you she's naive, and she is naive, she loves to play basketball, but hates to do anything, she knows how to relax, she laughs whenevr a guy gets hit in the nuts, has the attitude of a highschooler, she hates when I don't give her nay sympathy because she's on her period (like i should care, you want someone to care ask God, because he gave you the "issue of blood" lol), loves to tease me (I DESPISE THIS ATTRIBUTE OF THIS CHICK!!!), hates when i tease her...women, etc., etc....