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Can my penpal Become My GirlFriend? -
11-02-2009, 01:38 AM
Hello all i'm new.
Well i've been penpaling with this Japanese woman for about 1 year. Our relationship is awesome. And she sends me alot of postcards, sometimes gifts, sometimes photos. I've started to feel like she's really nice and special Plus she's so pretty and attractive. She's single. Theonly thing is that well for one, she lives in japan. Moreover, she's outgoing, travels alot and is probably talkative and lively. I'm shy and quiet. Also, since she goes out alot and is the type that sometimes goes to bars and stuff like that I'm sure she meets guys and she probably will meet her guy that way and wants a japaneses man. Well in the letter response i sent to her yesterday, i just threw it all out there and told her how i feel. I told her how she's special to me. I fear she might think i'm weird and stupid and maybe she'll even end our rpenpal relationship. I'm kinda scared of what can happen. should i? i'm in my late 20's, she in her mid 20's 
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11-02-2009, 01:48 AM
Nah, don't be scared...who knows? If she's the type that travels then maybe, if she feels the same way, she'll come and see you! Who knows? Life is too short to not tell people how you really feel. It's good that you told her, and even if she doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't mean your friendship relationship has to stop!
Hope it helps... ~HonoraryJapaneseGirl~ ~...Why must the different be cast away, be cast into a deep, dark pit of loneliness, being mocked and scorned as the the enemy...and eventually...become it...?~ ~HonoraryJapaneseGirl~ ~.::{Akatsuki Clan Member--Leader of California}::.~ ~.::{Michiko Manami}::.~ 
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11-02-2009, 04:28 PM
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Don't fret over it. Being honest may make her hesitant, or even turn her away, but whether it works out or not, you will have less to worry about. And if she is interested, the disclosure will be very welcome.  Only an open mind and open heart can be filled with life. ********************* Find your voice; silence will not protect you.
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11-17-2009, 04:38 PM
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11-17-2009, 05:19 PM
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I am not sure where you are from, but I think you are non-Japanese guy. I think Japanese people are quite traditional at some points. Maybe it's a sort of challenge to them to accept international relationship or marriage (Maybe I am wrong, sorry ahead). Who knows actually she likes you but she has her worry? Anyway, I think you got a start, it was better than nothing. Otherwise, you guys might just keep in touch with the way you were. Well done, man, no matter how the result is, you were a brave ice breaker. I wish you all the best! 
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11-21-2009, 06:45 PM
It's definitely possible but as Belyvis mentioned, you should probably meet in person before you make any decisions on your part. Besides, this is a penpal, not someone you met on a singles site. (As least that's my assumption.)
I met two Japanese girls through an (email) penpal site. The first one went really well. We were sending emails on a daily basis and eventually started talking on the phone. After a year, I suggested that she visit me in Toronto, and she did. She stayed at my place for a week and after she went back, she sent me an email asking me if I could be her boyfriend if she came over to Canada on a 1yr student visa. The second one ended up becoming a stalker and actually flew over to Canada after I started ignoring her. I came home from work to find her sitting on my front steps. :eek
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