My friend.
 

Well, there's this girl i really really like, and we've been friends for a few years now. Atm, she's single, she's not seeing anyone.. well..

The fact i'm really good friends with her is actually the main issue.. I feel like to her i'm 'only' a shoulder to cry on.. but i don't want that anymore, because ever since i met her, i loved her.

She's really the popular type of girl.. good-looking, popular, always people around her etc..

I know i'm really in love with her because, everytime when some other guys around, 'nd talks to her or anything, i get a strange jealous feeling.. and since she's popular i sometimes freak out at school, or when going out..

Another problem is she likes popular guys.. i'm not that kindda type. i'm not like some fugly nerd who gets owned by classmates all the time, i'm more like a normal person.. it's just i don't think i stand out enough.. also, i watch anime, game a lot etc.. you know, things most girls would think is 'geeky' or 'nerd'.. i don't think she'd like that.. but thing is, i don't wanna change myself for noone.

Please give me some advice .. ?

I think you should tell her how you feel about her and ask her how she feels about you. If you get rejected at least you know where you stand and you don't have to worry about it anymore.

And you shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone. She either likes you or she doesn't. And if she doesn't, at least you still have a friend.

Its one of those make or break situations. Leave it how it is and be forever thinking of what MIGHT be or tell her how you feel and see how it goes. You might be rocks deep by the end of the night!

I don't normally take to people so quickly, but, best of luck :)

I think that you think to much about this girl, and need to find some new friends that you can relate too more. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this girl, but all this jealously makes me think you are a bit obessed.

But its like Shadow said, its a make or break.

Its not obsession.. its natural if you like someone. I could understand obsession if this girl didnt even talk to him and he was collecting things like strands of her hair for some sort of wierd shrine to her or something. But this is what they call the real world. survival at of the fittest and hes jelous because he thinks he has competition..

Jealousy doesn't mean you're obsessed o.O i think jealousy is a part of having feelings for someone.

But anyway...good luck and I hope it works out :)

you're in the friend zone already.
its so hard to get out of that.
in terms of her feelings i mean.

I didn't mean it as in obsessed as in collecting her hair, I think he's obsessed with his feelings for her that he's actually afraid of doing anything else because he doesn't feel like he fits her standards..

That actually does make sense.

I don't think there's anything to be afraid of with that though. Worst case scenario is that she tells him all she thinks of him as is a friend. That's it.

So go for it!

lol @ some replies :D ..

it's not like i've never thought about confessing to her.. i did it over 'nd over again in my daydreams.. haha :o .

but i don't think i've got the confidence to tell her about it. i'm afraid i'll be stuck with this for a long long time.. it's just soooo hard to confess..

i know what you mean man....its either you do it or not...you need to choose.

How about not being so fast, stay around more with her, be friends, go be more close to her and confess when you think she knows enough of you.

If she already does, go ahead...

Uh, I don't know I mean everyone I've been with is like.. once they are friend material, that's it, no chance, lol. When it's been boyfriends I know that we might end up that way so it's more of a bf/gf thing before rather than a friend thing.

Bugger.

Just kiddin' Sal :p

That's exactly what I've been thinking most of the time.. Still it feels like a slap in the face when someone else says it, because this reduces my chances even more..

I think I'll confess to her soon.. It's either that or feel like this for a few months.. Even if she rejects me, I'll at least know how she feels about me..

But I know, that when I'm alone with her, the chance I'd have the guts to confess, are close to 0%.. sigh.

If shes as much of a friend as you say she is, she will still like you even if you confess and she doesnt feel the same. Stop being a wuss and get on with it.

ah, but dude, people are fickle! if hanging round me hasnt taught you that Ash lol. i completely see your point, ive been in this situation a few times, its never really worked out for me, but you sorta really have to decide whats best for you. If theres the slight possibility of it ruining your friendship, then really think long and hard about it before acting. Ultimately, there are always other girls out there, as people keep pointing out to me lol.

I don't care if she'll still like me afterwords, I think she will. It's just I'm to scared to get rejected.

then you shall be sitting on the fence forever..

This is true, I've seen this happen to friends. Sad but true.

Damn, and I thought you were refering to Sweeney Todd...

Anyway, about your friend. Tell this person how you feel-- not suddenly and not too discreetly or else this person will get the wrong idea.

What would make a cute scenario I can imagine from a film... One day she gets really upset and you somehow sweep her off her feet and make life a trillion times better... awwh ♥

I'm afraid you've been in that friendship phase for too long. If you confess your feelings to her, you're only going to create a rift between you and her.

Whenever I meet a girl who I'm really attracted to, I'll usually make a move within the first 3 dates. Otherwise, I risk entering that friendship zone. This is especially true when dealing with Japanese girls. They rarely reveal their cards so it's up to you to take that initiative.