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Jo_Kittie 01-12-2009 10:09 PM

Words' meanings?
 
If a guy says "I want you" what does it really mean? That he wants her to be with him, he wants to have sex with her, or that he wants her to be his? Maybe all of those? :x

I'm just in a bit of a do-not-know-what-the-hell-to-think-situation. So help me out here, will ya? .__.

Keaton421 01-12-2009 10:12 PM

Depends on the situation when he said it

1) I wanna f*ck you
2) I want you to be my girl

I'm betting your guy meant the first one.

Jo_Kittie 01-12-2009 10:18 PM

Thanks.

He says it all the time. Mostly all random. XD

Miyavifan 01-17-2009 02:51 AM

I had the same problem with the word mine.

it would be said to me during intimate times, and not intimate times. I still don't know what it could have meant, what he could have meant.

Keaton421 01-17-2009 02:54 AM

"Mine"? What about it?

Miyavifan 01-17-2009 02:58 AM

oh, sorry. I meant in the sense of calling me his... one instance is he would put his arms around my legs, when we were sitting together, and say "mine".

Keaton421 01-17-2009 03:05 AM

Hmm... some guys get a bit, what's the word... possessive. It can be a good or a bad thing. My girl and I say we belong to each other, but it's not like I own her or something. I think saying "You're mine" is a bit sweet if they mean it that way

Salvanas 01-17-2009 03:06 AM

Sounds like some fucked up shit.

When a man says "I want you" He means he wants you. There is no set meaning to it.

NishiHime 01-17-2009 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Jo_Kittie (Post 662950)
If a guy says "I want you" what does it really mean? That he wants her to be with him, he wants to have sex with her, or that he wants her to be his? Maybe all of those? :x

I'm just in a bit of a do-not-know-what-the-hell-to-think-situation. So help me out here, will ya? .__.

Depends on the context - does he tell you he wants you as he's grabbing you or in a tender verbal way while you're having a meaningful talk? The former is obvious, the latter less so. No way to know for sure which is why it's not a good idea to give in to him until you're 100% sure of his motivations. Guys can easily let their desires get the better of them and even convince themselves they want you but in the end find out (unfortunately) it was only physical. If you pride yourself & your body, and want to avoid getting hurt - make the boy work for it and prove that his desires last much beyond the physical - that takes time - but your heart and self-respect are worth it!

- Nishi

Miyavifan 01-17-2009 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Keaton421 (Post 665267)
Hmm... some guys get a bit, what's the word... possessive. It can be a good or a bad thing. My girl and I say we belong to each other, but it's not like I own her or something. I think saying "You're mine" is a bit sweet if they mean it that way

Oh, ok. well, I only know at the time it felt sweet. But now things are not at all how I want them to be, so now I just don't know.

TalnSG 01-17-2009 05:40 PM

ahhhh, two of several words that are emotional land mines - and very related to each other.

About the only clues to what someone means when they say the "want" you or that they regard you as "mine", is:

Consider the situation at the moment;
Listen to your heart and gut's response when it is said (not your mind's);
Ask them to explain.

None are foolproof and none can be relied upon beyond the moment. Want someone wants at a givien moment is always subject to change.

I would suggest that bearing in mind that this may very well be a passing thought for the other person, what is to be gained or lost by simply accepting it and living in the moment. Sometimes the risk is low and its time to just enjoy, other times the risk is high and you need more input before using what information you have.

"Mine" is the one that worries me more. Depending on the person's emotinal state, that can be a very sweet and welcome sentiment. But if the person tend to be overly dependent or possessive, be careful about encouraging it, or even accepting it.

Miyavifan 01-17-2009 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by TalnSG (Post 665490)

"Mine" is the one that worries me more. Depending on the person's emotinal state, that can be a very sweet and welcome sentiment. But if the person tend to be overly dependent or possessive, be careful about encouraging it, or even accepting it.

I don't yet know him well enough to know if he's dependent or possessive. Though I'm inclined to think he isn't.

Unfortunately I don't know if matters right now, if he is or isn't.


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