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Just so you know. Taln is a lady. Not a man. So, I'm pretty sure she's got a different view to you, although, just as viable. And also: I talked to the OP ages ago. Gave him advice, I don't think he even frequents this thread anymore. Stop flaming each other. |
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I have stuck to the rules (for the most part :D *evil grimace) My point though i that you have no right to tell me to stop posting because you think my advise is stupid or insane. It's as you say, my opinion and I have every right to be myself or as you so eloquently put it "creepy".....anyway, i'm done defending myself in this thread and derailing it so, maybe op should dress up in a suit and bring flowers over to her house and say a cheesy line as she opens the door... it would show that he recognizes how ridiculous it is to go through those lengths and yet would retain some of the formality by the fact that he is wearing a suit. or better yet he should propose to her when she comes out.. it would be a funny story for the future |
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i dunno it says something to me that when i say don't give up the good fight, thats percieved as pester, act needy and generally hound the person into submission. its called "Game" in response to Kira, that can actually work. and the principles there are actually quite sound. (bring forth the magixs that is simply holding hands - true A game - if your doing it right - always win ;) ) |
I think you got a point Salv. >_>'' The founder of the thread def. aint coming back. I assume the unseriousness of the replies made him search elsewhere for help.
There's a difference between showing 'game' and being plain annoying. |
The problem is, my friends, is that there are certain situations happening alongside this problem. Yes, if there was no other problems, and implications, then you COULD do what you said (although, there is a huge risk of losing the girl even more by seeming needy.) but there are things happening that would make shit worse if you did what you did.
I wouldn't do what you say to do, because it's below me to grovel, and harass someone for their love, when they're not giving it. You call it a game. I call it desperation. (This is aimed at Kira, Daffy. Not at you.) Being there, is a much better option. Being there, acting calm, act charming. Lot's of smiling, and if you love a girl enough, you can make it work in the long run. It's all about acting as if you don't need them, acting independent, but you show that you still want to be with them. Always has worked with me, because in the end, they want to be with you. There are ways to show you are the "alpha male" without using force, or pushing yourself onto someone repeatedly. |
Love is an incredibly strong word, you can't make someone love you.
you can either a) Show her whats he/she's missing- as Tai said, be independant, do your thangg and show him/her that you are a great catch if he/she does get you. Its all about the confidence. b) Move on. There's not just that ONE person out there. |
There is sometimes a delayed and welcome side effect to walking away when the other person doesn't share your affection.
Depending on the circumstances, the person you opened up to but had to give up on may look back on things later and realize they shouldn't have passed up someone like you. When that happens they have been known to come back; though it may or may not be the right time for you. If you hang around making them uncomfortable that will never happen. |
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Serious relations happen naturally when both feel the same way about each other. |
Loving someone and not beign loved back is horrible, sadly there is not much you can do about it except beign sincere.
Speak with that important person, put apart your lack of trust on yourself, often you think that the other person does not love you, maybe is true, but love is not something that fall from sky, it has to be built up from the base. Speaking with the person you love and make him understand that you want a chance to prove that he "May" love you too is the easier way to try, you never know who is "the person only for you" (nda Chobits help :P) until you end up finding him/her. Obviously, no one can say if it will work or not, but if you really like someone, you must risk and try for it, otherwise you will spend all your time blaming yourself for not have tryed when you had a chance. Andrea. |
I hope you all found merit in my first post on the thread!
C'ya all and keep enjoying the TRASH! |
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