Japanese guy likes me or not?
 

Hi there everyone!! I am new to this forum...I have been chatting to this jp guy for like past two years...We are good friends and I like him lol I am just plainly confused about his feeling though....Can anyone tell me how to know if a jp guy is interested in you?? I am not in Japan and we have never met...but have seen each other's pics and cam...any clues?? Help me !! lol

Hate to break it to you, but men are men. If he's interested in you then you'll know the exact same way that you would with a guy of any other nationality.

oh...he has been asking me when I am going to go to Japan? Where? for how long? for past one year..and now he is saying that he would like to meet me for a tea?? and he introduced me to his younger sister on chat...I just wanted to know what are the ways in which jp guys hint that they like someone? :confused:

I agree with Robin its the same in across the board guys are guys. If you think he likes you test the waters and hint here and there or just ask him outright. Don't keep guessing. If he's showing you to his family he at least trusts you on some level and asking about if you are coming and inviting you places shows hes interested at least a little or is entertaining the idea at least.


edit: I would like to add though that chatting alone is not enough to determine anything REAL about someone. Meeting should be safe and definitely careful especially if you are going to another country.

yeah...I will meet him in a public place with another friend of mine I guess...As you said I want to check water here and there but don't know how to do it! Could you give me some hints? I dunno much about jp guys(I know about the culture though and can speak Japanese fluently and we chat in Japanese language)

Well I would suggest just light flirting. Find out if he likes you test the waters compliment him hint at scenarios of you guys being together. Just do it lightly so as not to come across as too much. You want to let him know you are interested beyond a doubt but you dont want to "scare him away" so to speak. This should all be after you meet him IMO. Could be messy if you meet him and hes not as charming in real life after you have already told him your are interested you know?

If that's true, you should know more about Japanese culturte and Japanese guys than those who have replied and will reply to you here.

(And I would personally hate to be referred to as "jp guy". Your jp guy would probably feel the same way, to be frank.)

Eyeah, "jp" kinda grates on me as well. Regarding knowledge of culture and language, I believe the OP is more nervous about general guy behaviour.

To a certain extent I agree but I do not think her intention is to be disrespectful in any way. I think she is inadvertently referring to guy behavior in general but does not know if that differs in the Japanese culture. Her intent may be poorly worded but I am doubtful if it is derogatory.

I am really sorry if I hurt anyone by saying jp guys...I didn't mean that in a wrong way...I just meant Japanese boys can be really shy sometimes...so to specify that I am talking only about them,I used the term...I know about culture and language but never really lived in Japan so I have no personal experience on interacting with them face to face...and I needed to talk about this...so I would really appreciate other people's comments too! We guys flirt sometimes,and he is a real cool person,we never cross the line of decent flirting though...I think I have given some hints to him that he is an important person to me...I really like him but I don't want to confess before I know what he feels about me...so that's why I wanted some hints on how to know if he likes me?

Well someone is going to have to breach the line that says I LIKE YOU. Otherwise it will always be a possibility that its just a good friends thing. Either test further and further till you are more sure or take a chance and just ask. Either way I think you will do fine. It all up to your own timing.

ask him. if this has already been said than it needs to be said again.

if you're worried about ruining a friendship then it wasn't that great of a friendship to begin with.

Are you male?

Either way, I don't think there's any harm in telling him that you LIKE him. Unless of course you happen to be under 16 in which case we can forgive you. :)

I am a girl lol...and no I am not under 16 :) Will TRY to say what I feel next time we talk but....it's still necessary for me to know his feelings (at least a bit)before I say anything to him...

Just ask him! Or tell him about your feelings!

It's impossible to know what anyone thinks/feels unless they tell you, and he won't likely tell you unless you ask. Everyone else's advice is pretty sound: tell the guy. If he doesn't feel the same and you're good friends then you'll still be good friends, and if he does feel the same you'll be able to start a relationship. Like someone else said though be very careful, this is all via online after all and if you one day meet it'll be in a foriegn country - make sure you stay safe.

I am (half) Japanese, and I don't feel offended.

I remember once, being in love with an Albanian girl, and asking a similiar question on another site about Albanian girls... what they like, how to possibly win their hearts, etc. I didn't mean to be offensive, either. Just was desperately in love!

:)

I agree and good luck! Let us know how it goes!

It's not much of an update but just wanted to share...
He apologized for being too busy nowadays in an offline message..and whenever he comes online he talks about only one thing....he just asks me if I am already in Japan? when I am going there? and to contact him when I get there...I dunno but he talks only about that....so, in short, I did not get any chance to say anything about my feelings...lol

Do you actually talk, or do you just exchange messages?

I would just say it outright. If he wants you to come to Japan, he feels SOMETHING toward you, at least.

:)

Oh lately we have just exchanged messages...

We guys talked over skype for like 2 hours.He seemed really happy to talk to me and ofcourse I was happy too...He asked me many questions about my country and finally asked me if I had a boyfriend...(actually he knows that I don't) and then asked me many questions about myself...we really talked on different topics like educational system,job hunting,food etc. He was telling me how Japan and my country have been friends for years and years...and was praising my country....I have a feeling that he likes me....any opinions??

It feels like you're running around in circles chasing your own tail. You like this guy and want to know if he likes you too, but you're too scared to say it clearly in case you get rejected.

When you do pick up the courage to ask him I hope you get the answer you're looking for.

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The only thing I can really say is a persons action(s) always speak louder than their word(s).Good luck

ok.......
 

2 years.....2 years.....-____-...if he's still talking to you after 2 years of playing ring around the desktop im pretty sure he's into you....people can only wait for so long......so if your over 18.....give him a shot and meet up with him in a public area.....saftey first :cool: