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Suki 12-13-2010 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by MMM
If a man is self-confident, generally they come to him.

Totally. Confidence is the quality I value the most in men.

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Originally Posted by MMM
Arrogance and self-confidence are two different things.

Men who are gorgeous can have two left feet, and still get girls. That's not what I am talking about.

I am talking about men who are not traditionally handsome, but have an air of confidence. Don't tell me you have never seen a rather plain or pudgy dude with a drop-dead beautiful gal. You don't see the opposite as often.

I know many not-so-good-looking guys who have never had trouble getting a girl and it had to do with that air of confidence MMM talks about.

A little arrogance can be good. I like cynic, cold and mindful... serial killer, anyone?

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Originally Posted by RealJames (Post 841358)
LOL Awesome I made it into the Suki's-Weekly-Quotes-Hall-of-Fame!

Ain't you a lucky one! :cool:

RealJames 12-13-2010 12:12 PM

I conclude that:

It depends on the chick, and how she feels that day.

Yeah?

How about confident chicks? (for the men) does that do anything for you? (for the women) What do you think of them?

I like em, assuming they have something to be confident about aside from the confidence it self lol

Suki 12-13-2010 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by RealJames (Post 841503)

How about confident chicks? (for the men) does that do anything for you? (for the women) What do you think of them?

I guess they get respect without having to prove they're worthy of it. That's why I think there's a very thin line separating confidence from cocky arrogance. No wonder why some people don't like me much :cool: ;)

RealJames 12-13-2010 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Suki (Post 841507)
I guess they get respect without having to prove they're worthy of it. That's why I think there's a very thin line separating confidence from cocky arrogance. No wonder why some people don't like me much :cool: ;)

do they think they're worthy of it themselves though ;)

protheus 12-13-2010 01:15 PM

I grew up on a street where I was the only boy around. It was fun, I had about 30 girl friends (not gf kind) with which my teenage years passed playing, hanging out and so on. Now after many of them are already married, I found out from them that they liked me very much. Even the stunning beauty, neighbor next door, Alice (such a cliche isn't it?) told me that, one year after getting married.


Question of the day:

Why didn't they just say something then, but get the confidence to tell me that now, after getting married?

It was an intimidation by the "group thinking"?




LE: Ugh, i guess it was better to ask this in the Ask the girls thread.

Suki 12-13-2010 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by RealJames (Post 841509)
do they think they're worthy of it themselves though ;)

They don't care. Thay just pull that attitude naturally, so people think they are hardcore and don't mess with them. That alone is worthy of some respect, like they don't need to rely on anyone in order to feel confident.

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Originally Posted by protheus
Why didn't they just say something then, but get the confidence to tell me that now, after getting married?

Maybe they think it's ok to say it now cause supposedly you've both gotten over it so there'll be no further consequences.

missprincess 12-13-2010 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by protheus (Post 841510)
I grew up on a street where I was the only boy around. It was fun, I had about 30 girl friends (not gf kind) with which my teenage years passed playing, hanging out and so on. Now after many of them are already married, I found out from them that they liked me very much. Even the stunning beauty, neighbor next door, Alice (such a cliche isn't it?) told me that, one year after getting married.


Question of the day:

Why didn't they just say something then, but get the confidence to tell me that now, after getting married?

It was an intimidation by the "group thinking"?




LE: Ugh, i guess it was better to ask this in the Ask the girls thread.


hmm if they liked you im guessing they prob wouldnt have told u since women hardly ever tell men they like them first (its like an unwritten rule) u never ask the guy out first, he shud ALWAYS ask you - coz its worse getting shot down as a girl, IMO thats prob what stopped her, and now shes married i think shes more ok with telling u coz she knows it wont go anywhere and she cant get shot down

thats my take on it

protheus 12-13-2010 02:59 PM

Ok, I got it now, well kinda. Thank you for you're responses.

StonerPenguin 12-13-2010 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by missprincess (Post 841517)
hmm if they liked you im guessing they prob wouldnt have told u since women hardly ever tell men they like them first (its like an unwritten rule) u never ask the guy out first, he shud ALWAYS ask you - coz its worse getting shot down as a girl, IMO thats prob what stopped her, and now shes married i think shes more ok with telling u coz she knows it wont go anywhere and she cant get shot down

Ugh, why do women suck so fucking bad? Seriously, that's a retarded rule. And " its worse getting shot down as a girl", have you recently sprouted a penis and been shot down as a man? Then how the hell would you know? It's a horrible experience for a guy to get shot down-- It's just that most women are cowardly sacks of shit who expect and merely wait men to do everything for them :mad:

Yesterday was my parents' 29th anniversary! And it wouldn't have happened if my mother hadn't been brave and walked straight up to my dad and told 'im he was cute :D And I was the one to ask my current boyfriend out. Guys LIKE to be asked out, it takes the pressure of them. My boyfriend is way too shy, I knew he liked me (he follow me around like a puppy dog, always tried to sit next to me, stuff like that which is so cute :D ) but I knew he was never going to work up the courage to ask me out so I asked him. He had this glowy look of relief and happiness about him when I asked :rheart: So ladies, GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS, stop being whiny cowards. I've been shot down before, it sucks ass (regardless of gender!) but I got over it. It pays to be brave ;)

NanteNa 12-13-2010 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by StonerPenguin (Post 841544)
Ugh, why do women suck so fucking bad? Seriously, that's a retarded rule. And " its worse getting shot down as a girl", have you recently sprouted a penis and been shot down as a man? Then how the hell would you know? It's a horrible experience for a guy to get shot down-- It's just that most women are cowardly sacks of shit who expect and merely wait men to do everything for them :mad:

Yesterday was my parents' 29th anniversary! And it wouldn't have happened if my mother hadn't been brave and walked straight up to my dad and told 'im he was cute :D And I was the one to ask my current boyfriend out. Guys LIKE to be asked out, it takes the pressure of them. My boyfriend is way too shy, I knew he liked me (he follow me around like a puppy dog, always tried to sit next to me, stuff like that which is so cute :D ) but I knew he was never going to work up the courage to ask me out so I asked him. He had this glowy look of relief and happiness about him when I asked :rheart: So ladies, GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS, stop being whiny cowards. I've been shot down before, it sucks ass (regardless of gender!) but I got over it. It pays to be brave ;)

I've never been 'shot down', lol. But I'd probably agree that it sucks regardless of gender if I'd tried it..

That being said - please don't use such harsh words on here. Nobody put down a 'rule' as to how girls or guys should act. These are all personal preferences. You need to take a chill-pill hunnie. Being rude only breeds rude replies and then it's gonna go down into a bad spiral. You can't just generally say that all girls are 'whiny cowards' (or worse) - cause obviously.. you don't know all girls.


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