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That was just an example in reaction to the "true love knows no boundaries" comment, don't worry :D

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Originally Posted by Yggdrazzil (Post 177538)

Well I just..wonder how you are able to love someone only based on voice (phone) and errr text messages? Isn't there a big chance that the lack of physical contact (not just sex, but being able to feel, smell and taste the other. Being able to hold hands and walk in the park, etc.) becomes an obstacle. Something a local person can supply? Isn't the chance of 'cheating' really big? Is it realistic to expect someone to not seek something more physical? after one year? five? ten?

According to your statement 2 yr old can fall in love? I think there is a certain level of self-awareness necessary to even realise that it's love you are experiencing and I think it requires a certain level of personal development to be able to sustain a love relationship. Both self awareness and personal development take time to grow...And I think it's at least questionable wether or not, say a 12 year old, meets both requirements...

*applause*

Those could have been my words. I agree with you on every single point. ;)

I think that if your with someone through a computer or by phone they could be wat older and could be trying to hurt you!

There's always the case of 'grooming' children.
But those people can only get to the gullible.

As for that 'relationships never last, and marriages are fake versions of love' comment, my parents have been married 26 years and are still in love.

Long distance relationships for me mean waiting a long time to see someone and even then it may not happen.
I don't know about you, but I'd actually want to see my girlfriend on the regular, not that I have one mind you.
I want to be able to hear their voice and talk to them face to face.
I want to be able to go for walks with them at like 4am, cos it's ace.

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Originally Posted by Maku (Post 177712)

I see what your saying with that, but I still have to agree with others. Even though you may not ever get to see that person, and it stays long distance, if you actually love them, then you should be fine. Cheating, yes there's a possibility, yet.. unlike most people, I believe in 'love'. And whether it is long distance, or right down the street, love is love. Long distance relationships take effort, and in turn that effort shows how much you care for that particular person.

Let me start off by saying I'm actually in a long-distance relationship right now and am very happy.

I think it truly depends on the person and if you two truly plan on meeting. If you care for someone enough, I don't think it matters how far away you are unless you never meet (for once or ever again). But I can say this: whoever does a long distance relationship must be careful. In the end it truly might be a person just toying with you or some 40-year-old pervert. Don't truly put your heart into it unless you can hear their voice and/or see them on webcam.

I never said that love couldn't exist in a long distance relationship, I was just expressing what I want from a relationship.
The closest I have to one is, hmm, how to put it...an arranged relationship.
A girl I've been talking to for a very long time lives in Japan, and I will be staying with her when I go over next year.
We said that if we were both single when I go over there, we'd be together. Yes, I have seen her via webcam and yes I have spoken to her on th'phone, which played havoc with my phone bill.
A friend of mine said that to someone he knew.
They've now been together for 2 years and are engaged, and she's over here for 3 more weeks helping him pack his stuff so they can go over there and live together.

Ahh, sorry then, I must have misinterpreted that. Good luck then. ^_^

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Originally Posted by Acidreptile (Post 177541)

Well relationships in general never last,not?

I wouldn't say that. But it's hard enough to make it work when people are around. What makes people believe that they can make it work from far away? *sigh* Congrats to those who can make it work though. I just don't believe in it to last.