In my younger days, the women I tried to make love me never did and the ones I didn't want to love me always did. So I learned to not try with the ones you want. I even went as far as doing things that would normally get them mad. Worked like a charm!
I got my wife by teasing her about her English pronunciation (I was joking and made it obvious, she speaks very well for a Japanese) . This made her angry at first, but she was mine after she stopped laughing.