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Well, it's definately not an excuse for them to say no. My dad really wants me to go to Japan, we looks at it as a huge opportunity. I know that for sure
Well then, ask if they can be more specific about just what they mean by "loose morals". That's really vague. And point out how seriously Japanese people take a responsibility like looking after a child who has been entrusted to live with them. Japan is not a wild, hedonistic country, far from it! It has some cultural differences from the US, but then, so does every foreign country. That's the whole point of going... if it were identical to your home country, why go? Beyond that, without more precise info on what the objection is, I'm not sure what to say.


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Alright, for the few face-palmers and such, I really see no reason whatsoever as to why you would facepalm this? So, please explain yourself.

To everyone else that has commented with information that I was actually looking for....So, Japan is a place where, there is plenty of sexual...'stuff' (whatever you want to call it) but only if your looking for it? I mean in America, there are plenty of strip clubs and stuff out and about, but it's obvious that you aren't being forced to walk in and participate. So, in Japan, there is clubs/love hotels, and whatever else, but it's confined (not sure if that's the right word to use)? What I'm trying to ask is, it's easily avoided/neglected right? It's not like if I was just walking to the store there'd be naked women/pornography/whatever else everywhere?

Please, seriously, I'm not trying to say/assume that Japan is a horrible place, I just want to make sure I have things straight, especially since I want to move there (the reason for posting in Living in Japan). What MMM said about my reason for posting is pretty much exactly right
You know Darks, I think all in all, you will know once you arrive, and like everywhere else on this planet of our's, evrybody, in every town in every country in every area is so different.

Cultures are just dying so fast and populations and governments are always leaning towards new scenarios.

As you say, you may very well get caught up in Japan with a partner that will accost you and takre you away to a local love hotel, In Australia the beach, maybe not, you may meet an old man that tells you something you are doing wrong, etc.

It's just all so different.

My last job in Japan was at a Japanese cram school.

We had different schools in different areas of Kyoto and Shiga. It's often said that local Kyoto people are very difficult. I think this mainly relates to their Kyoto proudness of culture, and following it to a T.

The mother's of the students at each school were so different.

I was based at the most difficult head school. Believe me, it was VERY difficult as the Mother's would pour on the heat like you would not believe.

My experience with Japanese girls is so varied that I couldn't even start to come to a determination about morals with them.

I found many JP guys to be fairly quite, although after a few drinks, the sky would be the limit!

Strip clubs.. A group of us went to one in Nara led by a good Japanese friend, forget it! The most boring thing i've seen. No entertainment whatsoever.

All in all, sex, studies, romance, education, fun, whatever, Japan has it, all varies by choice, chance and people and at the end of the day, forget it, once in Japan, you will learn.

Hope my opinion made some sort of sense


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@Ozkai, I'm asking this, so that I can go to Japan. I can't just find out when I get there, because my parents wouldn't let me go, if they didn't know about the country
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@Ozkai, I'm asking this, so that I can go to Japan. I can't just find out when I get there, because my parents wouldn't let me go, if they didn't know about the country

I just realized that now..

So the answer is definitely no and yes.. It's a difficult call as their are so many topics to discuss.

If their is one country in the world where you can feel safe, Japan would have to rank 1st in my books so you rest your parents on that.

Japanese people will help you out.

Just don't do anything illegal, for example, smoking Marijuana as it's higly illegal in Japan and the prison system within would not be a pleasant experience..

Not saying you would but many foreigners take the risk..


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@Ozkai, I'm asking this, so that I can go to Japan. I can't just find out when I get there, because my parents wouldn't let me go, if they didn't know about the country
Like I said, try to find out something more specific than "loose morals". What exactly are their fears and beliefs about Japan that supposedly makes it so "loose"? Loose is one of the last words I'd ever use to describe Japan... not to be mean, but "uptight" and "conservative" are far more appropriate descriptors of the country as a whole, as are "honorable" and "responsible".


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Like I said, try to find out something more specific than "loose morals". What exactly are their fears and beliefs about Japan that supposedly makes it so "loose"? Loose is one of the last words I'd ever use to describe Japan... not to be mean, but "uptight" and "conservative" are far more appropriate descriptors of the country as a whole, as are "honorable" and "responsible".
Americans often use the word "immoral" to describe the differences between them and other cultures.


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Americans often use the word "immoral" to describe the differences between them and other cultures.
Really? I must live in an immoral part of the country. Never hear that one.
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Americans often use the word "immoral" to describe the differences between them and other cultures.
There are certainly some times and some countries where it's appropriate. IMO, Japan isn't one of them, for the most part.


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Really? I must live in an immoral part of the country. Never hear that one.
Try dropping the word "U-15 Idol" around Americans...


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Try dropping the word "U-15 Idol" around Americans...
Classic Tenchu. Most Japanese find U-15 idolization a bit sick as well.
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