how to woo a j-boy?
 

how to woo a j-boy?

context: j-boy mid 30's and german girl mid 20's in japan

we've seen us almost daily since a few weeks, we know each other through friends. and well, i have a crush on him. we've already figured out to have same hobbies.

what can i do?
what mistakes should i avoid?
what are j-boys susceptible to?

i don't want to be pushy! i'm also very shy.

thanks in advance

umm....i would say to talk to a friend that is both friends with you and him and get her to tell him how you feel(if ur too shy to do it yourself)

No thats cowardice, he'll note that and won't respect it.
You have to gather the courage to talk with him.
If he asks you for your name, give it to him and then ask for his.
That should pretty much send him the message.
If he likes you back, then good for you, if not, then look for someone else. The world is a big place, theres always more men out there.

well i would say we pretty much became something you could call friends yet. me and my friends doing a long time stay here in japan (since one of my friends has family here). mostly we met at the evenig in a bar or in one of our hotel rooms, talk, drink a little, playing ps or wii. there also friends of him, too. well i would say that he has no idea about my feelings at all since i'm shy i also always tend to think about my feelings for while before doing something. what i would like to know is how i can approach him? you know i could judge the situation much better if he where german!

I really think your approaching this completely the wrong way.
Its good that you want to get to know the guy and good, do that, but don't over think things.
There is no particular angle on how to approach this.
Just be nice and courteous.
Don't let the fear choke your desire. Be strong.
Hang in there and just talk, like if it was nothing.
If you both feel comfortable with each other, the easier it is

Same way as any other guy, show him your boobs.

Context? who needs context when theres boobs?

The man has a fucking good point.

however.. my 2 cents is.

chances are he already likes you and knows you quite well if you have met him every evening for a week or 2.

so just ask him.

or both get drunk THEN ask him.


but thats probrably the student way of thinking.. sorry :P

|Seth

Ignore everything the last two previous posters posted.

OK, First of all, Don't know you.

Second of all, who are you to decide whos opinion counts? This is the INTERNET after all.

...it's serious business.

TakedaFanBoy, it's one thing to disagree. It's another to determine for someone else what they can and can't read, dependent solely on someone else's say so. Because actually, if they do, they wouldn't be listening to you in the first place.

Shad0w, hilariously pointless as it is, your advice had me almost inhaling a coffee granola bar. Great job. :P