[Paul11]

Of course love exists. But it's not always the roller-coaster to the moon feeling. that super romantic part often subsides into something more subtle, genuine, and mature. If you're looking for the thing that zaps you and sends you hurttling through space, you might not recognize the real subtle love when it hits you. that stuff is often in movies and t.v. In real life, that jet-pack love is really passion expressed in a physical sense.

Some people also say, "Love and relationships take a lot of work." well, only if you're with the wrong person. People are poor at finding a mate. If you're with the right person, it's very easy. You just like to be together and forgive the human element in a person. Love, relationships, marriage all need mucgh deeper consideration than "am I attracted to the person" and "is there passion?" Can you see yourself with that person at 70 years old, sitting in a rocker together and enjoying each other's company? Is your relationship appropriate for the community (it's not just about you, but your families and people around you), is the person going to spend all your money and keep the house a mess? Will there be clashes over philisophical or religeous points of view?

when you're young, love is a passionate stirring to procreate and becomes an unrelenting force capable of making or breaking people. that's why your folks tell you to slow down. Take the long view.