[Tyrien]

You're missing the point entirely. Everyone is always selfish in some way or another. Every action we take is to benefit ourself - whether or not we choose to acknowledge that.

Every situation can be interpreted as "selfish", but the problem you seem to have with accepting that is the stigma behind the word. We hear the word tossed around so often with negative connotations its become extremely difficult to accept that describing one as selfish can be anything but a negative trait to their character.

The question was if Love was selfish or not, and it is. We love because it makes us happy, because we all have a deep seeded fear of loss. As humans we hate to lose things, we hate to have things taken away from us, we hate to break social connections.

We fight for love, or desire love because it makes us happy. There's nothing wrong with that, but the fact remains that we choose to take actions that benefit the ones we love because our loved one's happiness and continued attachment translates into our own happiness. It cycles back to our own gain; mental self preservation.

Love is selfish in the literal sense.

This isn't consciously selfish though. This is a human survival instinct. Since we can safely agree that the extreme majority of us, as humans, instinctively all desire companionship or fear loss, then we can exempt this behavior when asking if love is selfish in practice.