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I think alot of people that do it really do need help, but some do it because they think it makes them look cool. I really hate talking about this, but when I was 13 I started cutting myself. I have scars all over my arms, and they are very ugly. I was very sad all the time, and when I cut myself it made all of my stress go away. Then I started to get addicted to it, and I did it almost every day. I ended up going to a mental hospital when I was 14, and I was diagnosed with major depression and ADHD. I still did it after I got out. I stopped taking my medicine, too. I still have a hard time with it, but it is better than it was. I used to do it almost every day, but now I do it once every few months... I know I am not doing it as much, and that makes me believe that one day I will completely stop. I can't wait! I never want to do it again.

I think that the famous people that do it on stage are trying to say they need help. They do it because someone will see them and offer to help them. But, the fans that see it probably think they should copy it just to be like their favorite singer. I think anyone that does it needs to get help.

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Originally Posted by superheel (Post 645788)

I'm not looking down at them. What i'm trying to say is the idea of inflicting pain to self is stupid. And I'm right, they just easily give up, instead of doing something.I don't know if you misinterpret me, but I'm not looking down at them, or that's what I'm trying to say atleast.

They do it because it fulfills a certain desire. So if without understanding that, you call it stupid, isn't that looking down on those people?

Hm.

Anyway, its much like you'd never understand the pain of a woman in labour or someone who has been through something which you haven't been through.
Therefore to think you're right based off your own guess work isnt too enlightened.

I personally do not see the point of it. my body has scars from a car accident i was in at age 4. i instantly went into shock & remember a few things (the blood, the car that hit me & my foot...yes i do remember).
i did recover eventually but the scars (on my foot, thigh-from where i had skin graft for my foot, & stitch scars) is a reminder that i can survive & go on with my life. I hope that does that do cut themselves will feel that way & cease someday as well. more power to you!

Ah, i remember having a few threads like that before. i let them go last time too, but it got out of hand eventually with users bashing other users and the general civilized conduct getting out of hand. HINT HINT.

:) Keep it clean please.
Consider this your warning to everyone. any user bashings will result in a one week ban from this point on. I've told the other mods to do so as well.

on topic:
Musical artists who do such things on stage while performing... I think is in distaste. but, on a technical level.. art is art. and in that point, i approve of it.
Blood splatter paintings anyone?
human organ sculptures? (taking dead bodies and sculpting them for display)

I mean... dont get all emotional and lose to it while on stage... but aside from that. a performer will do what carries them from song to song... but it's also their responsibility i think, to let the ppl know it's not ok to do. and to not take their actions as means to say, "its ok" or "it's alright to do".

But for those who cut themselves out of emotional means having nothign to do with music and the such... don't call them retarded or anything.
cutting yourself isn't something ppl do for fun (no matter how much they may try to say so).
for most ppl... it's the beginning of the road to tempation to get rid of their seemingly never ending problems. now some of you may think, having to resolve to such ways is silly and looking for a quick route.
but have any of you ever come to that door that you just can't open? surrounded by one issue after another pilling up and up? imagine every problem and issue in your life is a shadow that follows you jeering and jabing at you every second. sound like someone you know in school? jus want to tell them off after a while dont you? now imagine someone like that for every problem you have... school, home, work, etc... parents not giving you room... nagging abuot things. teachers giving you a hard time, peer pressure from your friends and those not quite your friends.
you start sleeping less because you're always thinking about it... if you ever seem to resolve one problem, two pop up in its place.
but suddenly you find this door labeled escape. woudn't you want to take a peek in it? to get away from all those shadows hounding on you at this point? anything would seem utopian from the depression (or near it) that you entered.

you hear ppl talking about it b4, and even made fun of it b4. but.. does it... work?
u start reaching at threads... u jus want some peace. even if its for a little while.

u're ashamed of it.. u roll up your sleeves. i mean, no one will know if its higher up. jus to try it once.
and then you do it...

they're not idiots. they're not stupid. they're your friends. don't pity them. don't sympathize with them. jus be friends with them. give them that ear or shoulder they want. the human psyche is a ridiculously fragile thing guys... that is, our mind.
anyone whos like that, wants attention. yeah, so what? give it to them. they dont want to be alone, so they do that. sometimes creating unneccesary drama. jus see through it and be there for them. but never out of pity, and only from friendship.

it's always a last resort, never a first.
talk to anyone who's done it b4... they're shamed to show their arms years later. wishing they had found some other way to vent off their desperations. and when they look back, they can't believe how stupid the reasons were for them to do such things. but... at the time, it seemed like it was the biggest problems ever. and thats how it will always seem at the time.

./end rant(vent)

There have already been user bashings. I mentioned it in my PM reply.

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Originally Posted by Miyavifan (Post 645815)

There have already been user bashings. I mentioned it in my PM reply.

yeah i know, thats why i said this is the public warning about it. from now on... mods have the right to ban users for a week. but mods arent allowed to ban users who they're interacting with. it must be a mod who's partial (i.e., third party) who thinks it's deemed banning.

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Originally Posted by kudo (Post 645838)

1)yeah i know, thats why i said this is the public warning about it. from now on... mods have the right to ban users for a week. but 2)mobs arent allowed to ban users who they're interacting with. it must be a mod who's partial (i.e., third party) who thinks it's deemed banning.

1)Oh, ok.

2)That's what I figured, that's why I also PM'd MMM about it, to see what he thought.
he gave a warning.

What do you guys think about being emo and cutting yourself....I personally haven't tried it after a botched attempt but I have friends who do it all the time and it kind of seems to me that they just do it so they can 'show it off' or something later....but it's not really the kind of thing you would show off....

A few years ago I did some cutting due to a feel of helplessness because of a sleepingproblem (which I still have) and I wish I'd never done it, though at the time I wasn't thinking straight because of being sleep deprived.
I've regretted ever since, because the scars that i have leeds to so many embarassing situations and questions.

If anyone's considering doing it to themself, please don't, it's so not worth it and you will regret it.

Cutting yourself is clearly a cry for attention and has become increasingly "fashionable" because of this damned "emo" scene.