But if nobody straight is called gay,that automatically makes it better than,or at least as good as,the West. That is all. That's the biggest reason why I'm going there. It is possible to,like,live?

you're right it's not an insult here,

but,

It's considered different and strange and people tend to hide it, stay in the closet, because being different in japan is .... the nail that sticks out gets hammered down...

there is little desire to be unique

Isn't that true practically everywhere in the world?

Western Europe.

yes, it is.

I meant more so than other developed countries, enough so that it was an easily noticeable observation to me,

but it also seems to be getting better faster than other places,

as best i can tell, the stigma is with being different, not being gay.... does that make sense?

Well that does make sense but then again they won't say anything will they?

If someone feels you're strange and is uneasy associating with you, I imagine you'd prefer for them to fess up and say it to your face, rather than feeding you likes through their teeth (sorry not lies, tatemae) saying they'd love to hang out with you etc etc while thinking they don't expect to see you again

Depends on all the circumstances and everything.

There is virtually no situation where you'll get an honest opinion about something which is in any way confrontational from a Japanese person...
Even the majority of "good friends" here don't do that.

that's going slightly off topic though,

what I mean is that you won't know how people feel about you,
and sometimes it's better to know that, even if it's in a direct and hurtful way

Sometimes but I'd rather have a quiet life.