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Originally Posted by sarah22 (Post 621168)

How I know this is to do with him being asian is that she told me, "I don't mind you being with him but as long as you don't marry him or anything. I don't want asian grandchildren." And I do apologise if that has offended anyone, as I was deeply offended myself when I heard those words.
I love my mum because she is my mum. I don't like to be put in that situation but eventually I will be old enough to stand on my own two feet. Until then I can only hold on and if he really does love me the way I love him then his patience with me will not fade. BTW, from what I heard his mum wasn't exactly jumping for joy when she found out I was white either but that doesn't really worry me much.
You would think that this kind of thing would'nt be a problem in Australia but my mum's side of the family is, I guess you could say a little judgement. But if I'm the person to teach them something about life then so be it. In which case I will not only be holding on for my love for him but the sake of widening the perspective those close to me.
thank you all who took the time to assist me in thinking this over as you have great help and it is deeply appreciated.
Sarah:p

Guess what. Your mom's a bit racist. Take was she says with a grain of salt, because she's most likely talking through a microphone connected to a racism amplifier.

My advice:

Keep your vagina closed, and pass your school.
This world has enough pricks.

I personally, would like to see Aussies coming over to London to work not drink and chat shit.

Become one of the leaders!

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Originally Posted by Bureda (Post 626314)

oddly...... that actually seems odd....
"?bureda?" actually suggesting a female keep her thing shut?
>.>'''

and for non-nefarious purposes no less...
>.>''

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Originally Posted by yuujirou (Post 626341)

oddly...... that actually seems odd....
"?bureda?" actually suggesting a female keep her thing shut?
>.>'''

and for non-nefarious purposes no less...
>.>''

I am too kind sometimes.

Bureda@ I'm sending you hearts
<33
Tee hee~

Anyway girl, u needa stand up for ur guy.
My mom is like that, mostly just for fun, but you have to fight racism!!
- for the sake of our grandchildren, our future generations in general. FOR THE WORLD.

lolz

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Originally Posted by NanteNa (Post 626356)

I give you my love too.
:rheart:

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Originally Posted by Bureda (Post 620574)

What I don't get is you're Aussies, living in a land that time forgot and is one of the most diversified countries out there. Lots of Asians.

How did you come to the conclusion that she's racist and not just over protective of you. :rolleyes:

What I don't get is how you think that there aren't racists in Australia just because its got lots of Asians :rolleyes:

Your life, your boyfriend, your choise but still, she might have some bad experience and might see something in him that she thinks you don't etc.
Well just listen to what she's got to say, if she's not reasonable or have some werid opinion :confused: just be stubborn (I bet your boyfriend will like it :mtongue:)

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Originally Posted by NightMikado (Post 620423)

Agreed with yoru

I never listened to anything anybody ever tells me and ive achieved very much on my own. The moral of my story do what you want not what others want no matter who it is.

This is not good advice.

Firstly, you need to put the things you need ahead of the things you want. You should listen very carefully to what others think and do, a wise person learns as much (hopefully more) from other's mistakes as they learn from their own.

As much as you may be in love, you are only 16, and are not yet mature enough to make objective judgments. Even if you are wise for your age (and many people are), you need to think of your situation without being too emotional about it.

That said, you shouldn't worry too much about your mom's opinion of your boyfriend. I think it has less to do with him being Vietnamese than him just being a boy. No doubt she's remembering her own experiences (good and bad) at your age and worrying about how you will do. Before long she'll get used to the idea, and she'll probably offer some advice, which will hopefully be useful.

my Girlfriends parents still hate me, and i think they always will. and my parents hate her. i think its partly because they are so selfish that they want all their child's love for them. i was friends with her brother for a very long time and was also in a way 'friends' with her parents, then we started dating and instantly they hated me-.-