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Kayci 05-09-2009 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Bureda (Post 626314)
My advice:

Keep your vagina closed, and pass your school.
This world has enough pricks.

I personally, would like to see Aussies coming over to London to work not drink and chat shit.

Become one of the leaders!

Yeah, but not all aussies are like that. :/ what does THAT have to do with it?
And having a "closed" vagina has nothing to do with it, I don't think.
Her mother and her are thinking long-term, maybe, but doesn't mean anything.
She's obviously being more mature about the situation than most her age would be. She's just trying to figure out how to handle a mother is who ignorant enough to try and say what she doesn't want, when it's not her choice in the end in most societies.

nobora 05-09-2009 11:20 PM

I think you should stay with him if you love him that much.
It'll show your mom that you really do care and that its really serious and not
some everyday teen love that dosnt last very long.

ozkai 05-10-2009 02:36 AM

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Originally Posted by sarah22 (Post 619551)
I'v been with my boyfriend for at least 5 or 6 months now. Of course I'm 16 and its only natural for a mum to worry. But its to the point were she doesn't want me any were near him and even in the beginning she refused to meet him unless it was serious enough. I get the feeling... its more of a knowing, that she has a problem with him being vietnamese. It might sound silly but I think were in love and breaking up over this just isn't an option.

sarah

Hi Sarah:

It's good to see a fellow Aussie here and even better in NSW:)

My true feelings are that deep down inside, your parents do have a problem with your BF's culture.

I guess Vietnamese cop the raw end of the stick in NSW due to all the negative news and happenings coming from the Cabramatta area of Western Sydney relating to drugs and crime, refugee status, etc.

I guess in reality, it only applies to each individual involved, but hey, racism and discrimination are a fact of life, and unless one is a full on Feral living of the land in the Daintree Rainforest (And they are their), I don't think it will ever die, and admit it or not, it affects us all, although some are to worried to admit that.

Many countries around the globe have turbulent history's relating to discrmination, racism coming later.

Asia is well and truly affected both internally and externally, as is Australia, Europe and the US, no doubt South America to so It's definitely not a secret.

I have to say that when I first fell in love with a JP national, my Mother was not amused either, although at 41, she doesn't have the control over me that she once did.

It's a difficult one, maybe sit down with your parents, have an adult chat regarding the real issues, hopefully you will have a chance to air your side of the story, and take it from their..

Good luck either way and say G'day to NSW for me:) (I miss her dearly)

tarobubbles 05-17-2009 02:36 AM

In a way I understand what you're going through .
My boyfriend is Korean, and I am white .
We've been going out for just about 6 months .
And today , my father went up to me ( jokingly but it still offended me today )
"We're an endangered species us white folks "
Of course it wasn't completely random, we had some conversation that led up to that.

I'm sure you're mom wants you to be happy , and yes you are still young ( I'm about your age myself, but I'm aware I'm young xD )
But maybe when you grow up to be like 25 or something, if you're still with him, she'll understand you truly are in love ,and that him being viet has no right to stop you guys from being in love.

( I hope that made some sense , it kind all splurged out xD )


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