But what if you know it's love yet you're mind refuses to accept it? Then what? -has this problem- Because my boyfriend says all these things to me, and I know in my heart that he means them and I want to say then back to him so much...but it's just like a mental block. My mind still sees that friendship we shared.

Then you aren't in love with him.

maybe I am...maybe I ain't. Maybe it's all cus of my brother...who knows. I just know that it's confusing

I don't think you're in love.

I just don't know....I've always had a mental block on anything past friendship. Really long story. But I'm pretty sure it's normal to have that mental block for this...
feel free to message me if you need further explanation on why I have this block.

These are issues that younger people struggle with more, and it is the whole point of this thread.

Don't take this the wrong way but But what if you know it's love yet you're mind refuses to accept it? isn't a question an adult would ask herself. It is all part of the growing and learning process.

Boys say lots of things, and it sounds like he might be trying to convince you that you love him. Most of the time when boys say this they are really trying to convince you of something else, and I will leave it at that.

I know he is different and he isn't like the other boys.

None of them are.

Yeah...I know that.

It's more like he's trying to convince me he doesn't want to lose me...

Actually, I disagree....he isn't different. That might be my problem...

Then it sounds like you know the answer to your question.

I know it, yet I still can't figure it out. This is why I hate relationships...they confuse me way to much.

I won't say they get easier, but they will never be more confusing.

You are 14...you have your whole life to deal with boys...

true...but right now, it seems like my whole life ain't that long.

but either way, at least I'll have at least a bit experience and not be all o.O in any other relationships

I believe young people (including myself) can love. Experience seems to be almost more important than maturity in my opinion. You can say that you love someone, but would you still love them if *insert situation here* happens? That's what I want to know. Without that knowledge, you really can't truly say that you love someone. True love in my opinion lasts forever, enduring the worst of times and savoring the best of times. In order to truly love someone, you must be with them forever, trying different things, fully understanding your boyfriend/girlfriend/lover/spouse/husband/wife possibly better than they can understand themselves.

Hmm this has turned into a really interesting thread.

I can only speak for myself really. I have experienced love, and I've probably experienced a lot more in such a short space of time than a lot of people would do in their lifetime. I don't want to discuss that, because my friends visit this forum and I don't particularly want to share those things on the internet. So in that respect, I know it is possible for a teenager to be experienced in different situations, it isn't just about how long you've been on the planet, it's how many experiences you have been through and managed well.

Anyway I think I have had enough relationships to last me a lifetime :D Haha.

I think that if you are unsure about being in love then you probably aren't in love. I don't know how to describe it, but I feel when you know, you know, there is rarely uncertainty about it.

i am sure it is possible, i am 17 and my girlfriend was 14 when we started dating.
after 4 years we are still in love with each other.
our relationship is hard to break since we have already survive many hardships.
like my ex, my first love and my 2 best friend as my rival.
and of course her family is against it. i really hate meeting the parents

I think everyone is a little intimidated or afraid when they meet the parents of their significant other.

of course its possible.
young love is especially sweet.

there are all kinds of love, its a pretty wide topic?
But if you're talking marriage love, then yes, but it depends on your maturity. I wouldn't find a young marriage my cup of tea, i don't think they've lived life yet to actually say they want to be with each other despite all odds.

Haha, the first time I hung w/ Ty when we started dating I met almost his whole family...his brother/his girlfriend, his cousin[who is freakin tall!], his dad, his mom, his grandma, his nephew....yeah...needless to say, we left when we could. XD
But now I gotta deal w/ them plus more at Christmas...I'm so happy. I know what he got me but shhhhh...he don't know that.

But the situation surrounding your marriage is a little different, wouldn't you say? You didn't get married just because you were in love with her.

It really depends on the person. Some teenagers are mature for there age. A lot of people think that if a teenager or someone in there early twenties even, are just going through puppy love. However I think sometimes someone can find there true love at a young age. If you are in love you will know. Do not try to anaylize it, just enjoy it. :)

I'm sorry I forgot it was your ex. Bad memory :rolleyes: If you are in love, maybe you should tell your ex if possible. If there is no chance with your ex, there is nothing you can do but move on with your life. Speaking from experience unrequited love is very painful. Find out if your ex is in love with you, if that is the case try again.