What makes you think people in Kyoto have more morals and honor than other parts of Japan?

it's not that they have more honor and morals then other parts of Japan, but I like the old (fudel era) type of thinking, and Kyoto is more "old" type Japan, like the Fudel era is it not?

Kyoto was the capitol city of Japan before Edo (Tokyo) became the capitol 150 years ago.

What is a "feudal era type of thinking"? In many ways these were violent and brutal times. I think you are transposing a storybook image of the honorable samurai to the way the modern Kyoto-ite thinks and acts.

Kyoto is a city with a lot of history and a lot of historically significant sites, but it is also a very modern city what is certainly the most interesting train station in the country.

Ah yes, Kyoto. Where the feudal system is alive and well under the city council. Modernized of course; civil servants are now allotted buildings instead of fiefs and they must 'farm' wages, with circular rotation of departments annually. Military service, as Japan's army is reduced to a defense force, has been replaced by obligatory periods of staring at anyone of foreign or lower status and tutting a lot. Of course, it's no longer acceptable to chop people's heads off or be openly rude to butchers and street cleaners, so instead every thursday is kancho thursday, where civil servants may get some pay back if said individuals seem to be getting uppity.

*blinks*

Should my sarcasm detector be lit now?

Like the Eddystone lighthouse.

Yeah
 

Your my favorite person here.

I don't think this anger is necessary. I think they only mean to say that they find Japanese men more attractive physically, I know I do, but that doesn't mean I don't find other individuals attractive, how could you get angry because someone is turned on by a certain look? like guys with Asian girls.. thats fairly common, some people are attracted more to Brazilians then others, I only read up to page 15 or something but I didn't read any post saying that they'll ONLY date Japanese guys and what I did read seemed like a poor expression of the fact that they find their looks more appealing then others.

If I didn't make it clear enough with all the 'i thinks' this is only my opinion so.. please don't bite my head off.

Only if they look like Bou (An Cafe) or Rame (Vidoll) :p hehe. Else, Japanese girlfriend for me. lol

I'd like to have a foreign girlfriend as Japanese ;p

My Japanese girlfriend says "find your job before cheat on"..

Hum... dunno honestly, wouldn't mind I guess, I've already had a japanese guy interested in me on dating sites. Dunno how my parents will take it though.

YES YES AND YES... problem is ..i am to lazy to learn japanese ..especially writing kanji -.-... man korean writing is easier for me..

but i think that's why japanese girl are interesting...their culture/looks/race..

sadly ..this rarely to see japs ..peeps in here ..*sigh*

hmm I'm sure it's different, but is it wrong?

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Who cares what nationality he is? Isn't that classed as racist only going after 1 type of nationality.

But in all honesty it wouldn't bother me. :)

It is absolutely fine to want your life partner to be of a certain ethnicity. It's a big decision.
Everyone is turned on by different things.

If on the other hand you're just thinking it'll be a novelty and you think he'll just be one in a long line of boyfriends that you've fallen out with then that's stupid. You should have the intent of spending your life with this person. Which is why I think the much-maligned idea of ''The One'' is actually alright. Because you can't just settle for someone you feel sorry for. It's all about having someone you can tolerate and when you're old you won't drive each other mad.

I think everyone who labels having nationality/race preferences in relationships as racist are pushing things a bit far. The UN defines racial discrimination as "any distinction, exclusion, restriction, or preference based on race, color, descent, or national or ethnic origin that has the purpose or effect of nullifying or impairing the recognition, enjoyment or exercise, on an equal footing, of human rights and fundamental freedoms in the political, economic, social, cultural or any other field of public life" Preferences in choice of dating or life partner are part of private life and either way do not limit anyone's human rights or fundamental freedoms as far as I'm aware. I doubt any of the people expressing a preference for Japanese guys or girls look down on or denigrate other races. It's simply a question of traits or ideas we find more attractive. I know there's a lot of debate on sensitive issues like racism, but I think that, just as we shouldn't let discrimination get out of hand, we can't try to enforce absolutes in people's tastes...we're human and are inevitably going to have some racial/nationality/physical bias...the question is what we do about it and how open-minded we are about things that lie outside the bias.

But to answer the thread, I've never met or interacted with a Japanese guy, so I can only base my opinion on Japanese men I've seen in videos. I used to want to date a Japanese guy because of being into anime, jpop, dramas and so on. All the guys shown in these domains are very delicate, beautiful, charismatic, etc. But right now I'm wondering if I'm really attracted to that image and wondering what regular Japanese guys are like. I'm aware that few of them will be like the strong, good-looking tsunderes from the shoujos I've read, or the talented, eccentric v-kei artists whose videos I've watched. Of course I would like to go out with, say, Miyavi, or Yoh from Koukou Debut. But I'm more realistic now, and I don't know what to expect....I'm afraid the cultural gap and different social and gender expectations will be too much of a challenge if I do meet a Japanese guy I like.

I just want to say that if you limit yourself like this, you could be missing out on the perfect man/woman for you.

I know this from experience. I used to be pretty narrow minded in who I wanted to date. I wanted to find a Japanese girl.

But then I met someone completely different. And I told myself, maybe I should just give it a shot. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.

There's nothing wrong with having preferences. But don't let your preferences make you miss out on something amazing. Trust me when I say, you can fall for the most unexpected people. And when you do, you'll be amazed that you ever thought you wanted something else.

I think starskysea and RKitagawa both have good points. I try and have a girl from every country that I like! I do have a failing in that I can't see myself being in Japan and being satisfied with not marrying a Japanese girl. I know that might change. I might go out with a Korean,or a Taiwanese,or even another white person but say,from Canada and end up marrying them.

One of the biggest problems I have with saying you want to be with a specific nationality is that it puts too much weight on something that cannot possibly support a relationship alone.

Japanese people are people... Who just happen to be Japanese. The same variety is there, just with "Japanese" in place of whatever other nationality.

Way too many people look at "Japanese" as if it is going to have a huge effect on all those other traits that people normally look at in a love interest. "If he/she is Japanese, they will have these traits that I want!" sort of thing. It is stereotyping and leads to a lot of bad endings to relationships. I can't even begin to count the number of times I have seen or heard about people who wanted to date someone Japanese, so jumped at the first chance they got... Only to find out that the image they had formed of a Japanese man or woman was absolutely nothing like the individual they were dating. And sometimes this realization came too late after they jumped to get married or had a baby.

It really shouldn't be given any more weight than hair or eye color, really. No one would dream of thinking that every girl with green eyes is going to be devoted and submissive... Nor that every guy with blonde hair is going to be a great outdoorsman, etc. It is just as silly as thinking that every Japanese person is going to adhere to some stereotypical view that has been formed based on whatever is the popular image at the time in the west.
The only thing that you can be pretty safe assuming about someone Japanese is that their natural hair color is most likely black, and their natural eye color brown.

I know a white, Canadian guy very bitter after some bad relationships with women, who, encouraged by stories of friends working in Japan and marrying beautiful Japanese women, arranged a transfer to Japan via his company. He has been there for a few months now and on his Facebook/blog, constantly posts about how beautiful and slender and feminine Japanese women are and so polite and smart and will do anything for you, JUST because they're Japanese, etc. He doesn't yet have a Japanese girlfriend but seems to think that one will fall into his lap any day now. We're not friends but I feel sorry for him because a lot of bad things have happened to him in his life, but I really hope he gets over this phase of the "culture shock" before he faces another serious disappointment ... and, if possible, before a woman gets involved

I have had a Japanese boyfriend and would be open to having a relationship with another, but I don't think you can pin down "good" or "bad" qualities to just one race or nationality of people

There was a girl I read on here who lives in Japan now who wrote:

"That pretty much started my dream to go to Japan - It seemed like somewhere that I could be me and find happiness."

Now if this girl who lived in another country dreamed of going to Japan so she could be herself in a country that is 99.9% Japanese and find happiness why is it such a shock that another girl in another country feels that she has a natural affinity to a specific culture like the Japanese culture?

Also, in America the divorce rate is near 50%. People have ideas on what a relationship is going to be and for whatever reason it doesn't work out. It might be different cultural ideas in some cases like those you listed but in America where most likely both are Americans it's going to be a different reason.

The point is there is always a reason but that in itself is not enough to form an all-encompassing argument as to why someone cannot feel a natural inclination towards a specific culture and country and want to immerse themselves in it including a relationship with one of it's occupants.

Well, it's one thing to say that you are attracted to certain look, because it happens. But because they were born in a different culture? Wouldn't that make it more difficult for a relationship?

I mean, it always depends on the people involved, but me and my boyfriend share some similar values and ways of thinking. Even then though, we have lapses where we get frustrated by the cultural/religious differences.

It sounds like when people imagine someone they have a crush on...they don't necessarily know that person, but in one's own mind they make their crushes seem way more wonderful and compatible to themselves. With someone of a different culture/language it may take longer to figure out the person's flaws and issues because of barriers.

I dated two Japanese guys and both failed! Let me tell you my dating experience with them.

The first time I had a Japanese boyfriend, I was a high school sophomore. We would always argue about communication. He didn't like phone calls as much as I did. Plus he didn't like saying "I love you" very much. He was more non-verbal in showing affections. Unfortunately, I'm both verbal and non-verbal so honestly I expect my partner to be the same. Also he would always cry everytime I failed to appreciate his efforts. It really turned me off. It was a melodramatic break up but I managed to tell him all of my thoughts so now we're very good friends.

Then I dated this Japanese guy in college for like three months because he was very consistent. Then all of a sudden out of the blue he broke up with me telling "I don't like you anymore. You're not Japanese." (No exaggeration) As if it's a secret that I am non-Japanese. Then two weeks after our alleged break-up he dated another girl, a Japanese one. And he wasn't done breaking my heart yet he posted some hate notes on mixi about me just because I opened my feelings to my friends. Well I thought all of them were really my friends, some turned out to be his allies! Anyways, we're still on bad terms and it got me depressed for months.

So, if you're going to ask me whether to date a Japanese guy, hmmm for now NO!

Additional info: Seeing my parents divorce (Japanese dad and non-Japanese mom) it's convincing not to prefer a Japanese person! That's all. Apologies for the negativity.

Would you like to have a japanese boyfriend? Why?
 

I had a friend from Japan, we met through a forum and we started talking about all sorts of things especially hobbies.Two days later I swapped address the forum not to mention things that had nothing in common with New Posts.:D I don't know how he managed to call me there, in Japan, but I found myself talking to someone in English and I had no idea who he is because I don't have many American or British friends in phone.:confused: Then he told me his name and I realized with who I was talking.I liked talking to him. Every time we talk ,he said:Come to Japan, I know you want :eek: ... and he still teasing me with this beacause he knows that my parents would not let me. Maybe I'll go there with my future 'career':rheart: .........who knows?...................:mtongue:

Love Is Pain In The Ass -_-

that's my opinion so don't let it bother you

thank's for support:p ......well I concluded that the love it's somehow a stupid think ,I really don't believe in it anymore:D

Japan boyfriend
 

I think many foreign women find it difficult to find a Japanese boyfriend because they find they are too shy. Or is it really because most Japanese men prefer Japanese women? I think ultimately it boils down to individual preferences and love and attraction is something we can't control.

I like japanese women
 

Japanese girl are tend to be nicer. What i know they are good to their husband since the past. I am not sure this apply to this 21th century. And yes, i love their japanese food, music and anime

friends
 

Yes, I have friends in Japan. We belong to different cultures and live in different countries but share the same interests.

Yes, but only if he's a good man. I don't care too much for looks, just respect,maturity,docility, and humor. Cultural similarities would be a must as well, but it's not like I'll ONLY date Japanese or Russian [I'm half of each] guys. Korean, Chinese, Taiwanese, Polish, Ukrainian, even some others. But there's gotta be SOME things we've in common. Enough to be comfortable with.