Personality/Looks?
 

in the long run, of course personality would stand out more than the looks. ^^ but i think first impression is equally important too, so perhaps, both? ^^ that's just my thoughts and may differ from yours ^^

Generally looks play the intial step that attracts a person's first response. Everything else after that is up to different preference.

Definately personality ^.^ Actually, the more I like someones personality the prettier I think they are, so peoples personality affect my opinion of their looks ^.^
For example, I can think that a person looks a bit odd, but after I've gotten to know them, they can be the most beautiful person in the world :rheart:

Easy and simple? Personality. Why?

This video summarizes my point of view about the 'OMG SO HAWT' girls:

YouTube - Miss Teen USA 2007 - South Carolina answers a question

Unfortunately, this occurs many times; I wish it didn't, but what can I do?

hands down personality ^_^

Not all attractive women are stupid. It's a ridiculous assumption.

I could not agree more. I will add that if woman is hot yet has no imagination and some spunk, having a relationship with her would be like eating 3 years old McDonald's shitburger in a fancy restaurant with marbel floors and golden cutlery.

Yeah, this is still old. Just because you can't get "8s, 9s, or 10s" doesn't mean they're all automatically stupid. I know it's a defense mechanism to make yourself feel more confident but it's sad. I've been with quite a few very attractive women with great personalities to boot, otherwise I wouldn't have bothered. It's not fair to say they're dumb for no reason just because you can't get them.

That and fact that some really intelligent women can be utterly boring. Intelligence is not enouhg, you need some fire to come along with it.

Fire or common grounds/points of view. Has the same effect, and on the long run, the fire can run off of fuel, but what things you've got in common...not really.

i was referring to imagination.

Personality! and common interest. Looks do come into to it a certain degree but if they've got a horrible personality it spoils any looks they may have. Looks alone can't win through. Thankfully I gots looks, shared interests and personality with my Wife.

Awww.

please forgive said wife for barfing :mtongue:

I do agree with hubby though (I am perfect :eek: lol) looks help but if you are ugly on the inside it really does show on the outside. For me the big winner is being able to laugh at yourself

Truly. I do it all the time. I have so much material to work with :mtongue:

hahaha that's a good one lol. ability of laughing at our selves is a base for acceptance by others and, as Ryuhebi said, a mine of jokes on its own lol.

on a side note, some icons in the post menu have become unclickable, perhaps of of the admins could have a look at it.

Thanks :D It's true though isn't it. I find if someone pokes fun at themselves I can warm to them. Funny how that works.

Yep, I've noticed that too.

Yes, it also builds immediate trust as one can deduce that if you are truly honest with self you will do the same with others. That is a foundation of any solid relationship.

For me personality goes a long way. To me looks are essential solely as a plus (and it does help), but how far does it really get? I don't know. I've met my share of pretty girls who very rarely had anything interesting to say (or maybe shared no common ground with) and I always feel like I really have to have "the right and only thing to say" state of mind at all times in order to carry out a decent conversation, which I find off putting and almost as a punishment. So if a girl is generally cool, easy to get along with that very much does it for me. If the girl happens to be real pretty that can only make it better, but usually girls that are really cool and are real pretty at the same time always happen to have boyfriends in their lives so I guess you have to work with what you get either way.

That's an excellent way of saying it.

Both, because 1, personality and looks (the way a person looks like, not so called: good looks) are intertwined, hence both personality and looks are individual and differ as well as evolve. 2, personality is an expression of everything put together (mind, soul, body and heart) and brought forth visible (sound/visual).

2 a degree at 1st glance u wud either be attracted to someone or not, here is where personality plays a bigger role, cos its no use you looking extremely gorgeous but cant hold a conversation or ur head cant fit in the door way lol. I think ppl today remember u not so much by the way u look, but rather ur personality.

Age stomps beauty dead...Personality means more to people. Women look for a man that will give them security. That is a big thing I see as the first things women are looking for. We want to feel safe in our environment.

That's a good point. When I notice someone for their looks, it's not necessarily on a scale of attractiveness. It's their general appearance - the image they are trying to project and how it seems to fit them.

Sometimes you will discover once you meet them that the image was a complete misdirection, but not often.

And when someone approaches me, I can often tell just how observant they were by the first impression they seem to have of me.

That's true isn't it? Personality endures and sees couples through. I agree there has to be a certain attraction to begin with but if there's no personality and only looks...

I've heard this many times before and I agree. Women want safety and security and a guy who give that. There may be some exceptions and I can't speak on behalf of women (not being one) but it does seem that way to me.

I guess we forget another important factor? money? hahahaha.. look, personality or rich?

Some ppl choose to go with the rich even if he/she is ugly, the personality is ugly... but he/she is definitely rich.

But if compared with personality or look. I definitely judge by the personality. A handsome guy can make me go awe, but not all handsome can turn me on. Anyway, a good looking person with a poor personality or has an evil heart is definitely not a beautiful person. =)

i want looks AND personality =p maybe im just picky

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Same. It doesn't make sense why you should have to choose. It's like saying you can be thrown up on then have a cake,or you can go to a party and it's a bad party,it's just a random,bizarre choice.

Lets put it this way.
I could not date even britney spears (Hot and rich) If she acted like one of those girls from that jersey shore show or a thuggish rapper.

But I have a standard also. I'm a little picky when it comes to looks. X_x,
I cant help it.

everyone says personality but we all know it's looks.
that's why all the hot people are together and the rest of us are here on this message board.

you can see how someone looking for personality before aesthetics is a noble thing, but then, if u tell ur significant other that they have a nice personality but you find other people more physically attractive, its ten times worse.

looking for physical attraction isnt selfish.

There is difference between appreciating someone's good looks and seeking out those with good looks.


I think myk just gave us a good example of visualkeito's comment.

Personality !! looks is just ONE factor(since you always can make-over it, c'mon never see ugly betty turn in beautiful butterfly?) also i don't mind on minor changing, like what Hollywood does. Ya know what i'm talking about (plastic).

Asian peoples are picky when come to looks even you *DONE IT* yourself, because they care about how their baby would look... Yea like they whining about skin color,big nose,no eyes lids...that kind of stuff lol..

So yea summary Personality is what you can't change it in a day, but Looks can be Change rapidly.

Well... why do i want a super sexy guy if he has a horrible personality?? no thnx... i would prefer a man that has a brain please!!! XD
Like rio says... looks is just one factor, ok... we have to be atracted to a person so u can start liking eachother but when a guy has a ban personality he loses his appeal... ¬,¬

you can't honestly say that people mainly care about personality. however, people do tend to be realistic about who they can get. for example, a dude who's a 5 is going to try and get a girl who's a 5 too. maybe a 6. those kinds of people DO tend to have better personality traits. they definitely aren't stuck up like hot people are, and they're usually more empathetic and kind. those things are important to me, just like they are to you, but i think it's misleading to tell everyone in this thread that a great personality is all it really takes.

i guess the point is if you're really good looking, then looks are going to be very important to you. i'm not saying that personality won't help you out, but chances are that 10 is gonna find another 10 who's smart, funny, etc etc.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder.


what appeals to one person may not to another.

looks are only skin deep anyway. behaviour is another factor.


if you have someone who is really ha\ndsome or gorgeous--others may get jealous--so better to have someone who has a happy character--not full of themselves. looks are meaningless really--its the person beneath the skin that really matters.

that is so not true. you can see good looking japanese girls with some male genetic malfunctions (cash is power)

Anyway, personality is what you will be left with when looks are gone. For me thats a huge factor. However, first is looks. If my head doesnt turn and i can't see myself in bed with the girl, i am not interested. On the other hand, if she looks stunning yet is boring as a oil paint can's lid, i am running away. So, for me, it has to be the full package. Some could say it is difficult to find. True, but if you know what you want, you are half way there.

Both are important.

Actually yes, I can say that about many people. Not everyone - as you definitely are not among them.

Believe that if you want, but watch out because there are many exceptions to that premise and they can be rather unsettling. And this does not take into account that one's looks change over time - sometimes drastically. Some people look better with age, others do not; so basing preferences on the looks of someone in the 20's is really a crap shoot.

No one said it was all it takes, but I think we were rather clear that it is first, foremost and overrides all other considerations.