regarding love

[Miyavifan]

That's ok. That's what I thought, I just wasn't sure.

Thank you.

[emiluvsjmusic]

Yeah, I think that's plenty of time

[Salvanas]

No. Personally, to be truly in love, you'll need a longer period of time.

[Nyororin]

To add - as long as you`re not going to do anything silly like leap into getting married, or decide you`re going to have his kids, etc - I see no problems with feeling the way you do.
It`s obviously completely possible to feel that you`re in love with someone in just hours - but it will take time to figure out whether that`s just the initial rush or whether it will wear off after some time.

I once felt very much like I was in love with someone. He also liked me, and it seemed like it could sprout into something amazing.
Then we went on a trip together... And I realized somewhere along the line that it wasn`t love, just deep interest and strong friendship, and the cloud of uncertainty and potential passion simply dissipated.
There was no horrific "Road trip!" nightmares, or really anything bad at all - it was a great trip and we had tons of fun. But it was friendly fun, and I think we both realized that it wasn`t something that would last if it progressed any further. We`re still friends now.

With my husband, I knew he was the one, and he wasn`t even interested in me (had a huge crush on a girl he worked with, and was trying to get closer to her). We went out a few times, got along really well, had some fun... And then he made the choice to continue pursuing the girl at work. And we went our separate ways. I went home, and that night he called me, said he`d given it a lot of thought, and had come to the conclusion that the safety and happiness he felt with me was truly love - while what he felt about her was nothing more than a crush that would likely be gone if they were together... And he wanted to choose love.
We ended up moving in together a month or so later, and have never looked back.

[Thunda]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

You act as if I am incapable of loving people unconditionally, as if I am shallow.

Being a moderator doesn't mean you should go paranoid over posts.

[Uriko]

don't get pregnant, just practice

[derflinger]

Originally Posted by Uriko

don't get pregnant, just practice

hehe you put it in very delicate way

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by Thunda

Being a moderator doesn't mean you should go paranoid over posts.

I don't at all see where you're coming from with this. As I am not paranoid at all over the posts. I am only annoyed by people mixing up love and being in love. I never said I was, or even think I am, in love.

and my being annoyed also has nothing to do with being a moderator. Your thinking that really boggles the mind.

Originally Posted by Uriko

don't get pregnant, just practice

There's no chance of that happening, so no worries.

Originally Posted by Salvanas

No. Personally, to be truly in love, you'll need a longer period of time.

exactly. Which is why I do not say or even think I'm in love. That takes a very long time to know. (I only said it feels like I love him. Nowhere did I mention being in love. I also think It's not possible to be in love, unless he loves me too)

Originally Posted by Nyororin

To add - as long as you`re not going to do anything silly like leap into getting married, or decide you`re going to have his kids, etc - I see no problems with feeling the way you do.
It`s obviously completely possible to feel that you`re in love with someone in just hours - but it will take time to figure out whether that`s just the initial rush or whether it will wear off after some time.

I will reply to this in a PM, as it's a very long thing to reply to. Thank you for responding.

[ThirdSight]

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

You act as if I am incapable of loving people unconditionally, as if I am shallow.

Originally Posted by Miyavifan

Is it possible to love someone after only about 3 weeks?
Cause I think I do.
and it's not just because of sex.

Having to say that it's not the sex makes people think that that was your initial thought, or simply put, that if you have to think about it enough to differentiate between lust and love that you don't mean it. We're just going with what you give.

Anyway, yeah, it's possible. No, don't voice it out explicitly so soon, I can give people quite a scare.

Simple stuff.

[Miyavifan]

Originally Posted by ThirdSight

Having to say that it's not the sex makes people think that that was your initial thought, or simply put, that if you have to think about it enough to differentiate between lust and love that you don't mean it. We're just going with what you give.

Anyway, yeah, it's possible. No, don't voice it out explicitly so soon, I can give people quite a scare.

Simple stuff.

I can see how it would make people think that, I merely wanted to clarify, cause I had thought people would think that.

I only asked cause love is a tricky thing for me, what with past messed up relationships. I wasn't asking if it's love or lust, but only if it's possible to love someone in a short period of time. I know the difference between love and lust. If it were lust, I'd be over him already.

Yeah, I have no plans to tell him right now. I feel it would be better to wait, maybe even til he says it first.