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superheel 12-09-2008 12:28 AM

Theres really nothing wrong with it, until you said that you both have sexual intentions with each other. She is a 16 year old, do you think she's mature enough? Kids these days doesnt know what they are doing, so you, as an adult should teach her how to wait. You can continue your relationship, but wait for her. I'm telling you, if you have sex, your love for each other will never be the same as before.

Arikado 12-09-2008 12:45 AM

I just can't see anything wrong with it, besides the sex, which you really should wait for. I think I've said before that love defies all barriers, physical, mental or societal. If they truly love each other, then leave them alone and stop attempting to undermine their relationship with close-minded talk (to those of you who seem like you're trying doing this).

Salvanas 12-09-2008 01:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Arikado (Post 641293)
I just can't see anything wrong with it, besides the sex, which you really should wait for. I think I've said before that love defies all barriers, physical, mental or societal. If they truly love each other, then leave them alone and stop attempting to undermine their relationship with close-minded talk (to those of you who seem like you're trying doing this).

The hell does a 16 year old know about love?

The man came onto a forum and asked a question, which was not only personal, but disgusted me.

I don't know about you, but even at my age which is 18, I've never think of dating or having sex with a 15/16 year old girl. It's just not right.

"Love has no boundaries". Yes, you're right. It doesn't. AFTER you've matured. And to me, a 16 year old is still at the age of thinking of what to do with her life. It's an infatuation. The young mind leads people into believing that an infatuation is infact "love".

Levi 12-09-2008 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Arikado (Post 641293)
I just can't see anything wrong with it, besides the sex, which you really should wait for. I think I've said before that love defies all barriers, physical, mental or societal. If they truly love each other, then leave them alone and stop attempting to undermine their relationship with close-minded talk (to those of you who seem like you're trying doing this).

Very well said.

To the original poster:
If you two are truly in love, do what feels right. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. Know that you truly love this person and having sex will bring you closer to them, not just give you pleasure one night and end up tossing them aside. Hell, I've never been in love. But from what I've heard love transcends anything.

Arikado 12-09-2008 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Salvanas (Post 641310)
The hell does a 16 year old know about love?

The man came onto a forum and asked a question, which was not only personal, but disgusted me.

I don't know about you, but even at my age which is 18, I've never think of dating or having sex with a 15/16 year old girl. It's just not right.

"Love has no boundaries". Yes, you're right. It doesn't. AFTER you've matured. And to me, a 16 year old is still at the age of thinking of what to do with her life. It's an infatuation. The young mind leads people into believing that an infatuation is infact "love".

You can't be too sure yourself. She really may know what she's doing, and that love may actually be true love, even if we have nothing to prove or disprove it. The only reason I see for a 16 year old girl to be infatuated by a guy that's 24 years old is if he was some sort of popular celebrity or rock star.

But I agree with you about the part of this being a sensitive and personal subject, not to mention wrong in the sex aspect.

superheel 12-09-2008 01:24 AM

You know that most teenagers today get pregnant because they thought that they love their partner so much and that they thought that that guy will love them forever. It's stupid but it's true. This 16 year old is no different. This is not love if theres sex metioned.

Arikado 12-09-2008 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by superheel (Post 641338)
You know that most teenagers today get pregnant because they thought that they love their partner so much and that they thought that that guy will love them forever. It's stupid but it's true. This 16 year old is no different. This is not love if theres sex metioned.

Now now, sex is a form of love. It doesn't necessarily mean that they just want to have sex either. However, she is too young at the moment, that's for sure.

Salvanas 12-09-2008 01:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Arikado (Post 641315)
You can't be too sure yourself. She really may know what she's doing, and that love may actually be true love, even if we have nothing to prove or disprove it. The only reason I see for a 16 year old girl to be infatuated by a guy that's 24 years old is if he was some sort of popular celebrity or rock star.

But I agree with you about the part of this being a sensitive and personal subject, not to mention wrong in the sex aspect.


Have you not ever heard of the girls who have older BF's all the time?

They're ALL in love! It's always the same thing.

I don't believe on word of it. And I refuse to believe this guy "loves" a 16 old either. Either he's playing her for sex, or he really is just infatuated with a 16 year old.

Edit: And about sex. I disagree. Sex is sex. Sex stopped being about love and reproduction when we introduced contraception.

All sex is, is pleasure.

Arikado 12-09-2008 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Salvanas (Post 641356)

Have you not ever heard of the girls who have older BF's all the time?

They're ALL in love! It's always the same thing.

I don't believe on word of it. And I refuse to believe this guy "loves" a 16 old either. Either he's playing her for sex, or he really is just infatuated with a 16 year old.

Edit: And about sex. I disagree. Sex is sex. Sex stopped being about love and reproduction when we introduced contraception.

All sex is, is pleasure.

Ok, I was off about the first thing, but think about this. If this guy was just using her for the sex, he'd have NOT taken the time to ask this question, and most likely would have already done it. Atleast he's somewhat valiant and mature enough to ask first ;]

allie2590 12-09-2008 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Arikado (Post 641342)
Now now, sex is a form of love. It doesn't necessarily mean that they just want to have sex either. However, she is too young at the moment, that's for sure.

Not always. For many people, sex is just a form of fun which is fueled by the body's desire to reproduce. Don't go thinking that's it's all about love, because it's not.


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