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Suki 12-17-2010 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by shu (Post 842085)
I know what whore means im just saying she also.I also take back what i said about women being whores,alot of em are but not all.i waz just talkin about cheating on bf etc.

You are 15 and you already think all women are whores...?!

The teenagers of today... *shakes head in dissapointment*

dogsbody70 12-17-2010 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by shu (Post 842085)
I know what whore means im just saying she also.I also take back what i said about women being whores,alot of em are but not all.i waz just talkin about cheating on bf etc.


What a statement to say many women are whores. what does that make the men that use them?

What do you call a man who sleeps around?

Maybe your mother needed friendship?

dogsbody70 12-17-2010 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by MissMisa (Post 841796)
There are no advantages or disadvantages it's just a preference, I can't think of any advantages for them to be taller either. It's just a preference.

I'd say its who a person IS-- that is more important than outward physical appearance.

shu 12-17-2010 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by dogsbody70 (Post 842180)
What a statement to say many women are whores. what does that make the men that use them?

What do you call a man who sleeps around?

Maybe your mother needed friendship?

yes men are pricks too im just saying i think that if you have a bf/gf you shouldnt cheat on em. my mom was married and cheating so im sure that makes her a whore. im not saying all women are whores. like let use my cousin gf as a example,the first time she met him she gave him a bj and she had a bf,and she's having sex with other people yet he stays with her he's a idiot.and she's 13 and he's 14 so she a whore.once again im not saying all women are whores.and yes a lot of guys are whores too.and i in no way mean to insult anybody.

Ryzorian 12-18-2010 05:31 AM

Personally, I think being 13 or 14 is too young to be involved in that tye of behavior to begin with. Neither party is emtionally mature enough to be involved in such activity or to fully realize the ramifications of thier actions.

MissMisa 12-18-2010 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dogsbody70 (Post 842181)
I'd say its who a person IS-- that is more important than outward physical appearance.

I don't know what you are trying to say, but physical appearance is very low on the priority scale for me, if you are trying to suggest otherwise.

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Originally Posted by Ryzorian (Post 842304)
Personally, I think being 13 or 14 is too young to be involved in that tye of behavior to begin with. Neither party is emtionally mature enough to be involved in such activity or to fully realize the ramifications of thier actions.


I disagree, the maturity depends entirely on the individual and not on their age.

dogsbody70 12-18-2010 05:17 PM

it is illegal to have sex with someone under the age of 16.

Too many children are being born to teenage schoolgirls.

who picks up the tab and responsibility?

dogsbody70 12-18-2010 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by dogsbody70 (Post 842181)
I'd say its who a person IS-- that is more important than outward physical appearance.

well if some people are concerned whether a person is taller or shorter than themselves-- its physical isn't it?

Looks are not everything.

MissMisa 12-18-2010 05:37 PM

Uhm, all my boyfriends have actually been taller than me, except for one. So obviously I'm able to ignore my physical attractions for the sake of personality.

The height of someone makes such a little difference I frankly don't care in the grand scheme of things, but if I had the opportunity to make a perfect human male, I'd make him shorter than me, that's all I'm sayin'.

peterv20 12-18-2010 06:17 PM

o.k here's another.i'm not saying guys don't do it,say your'e out with a girl and all she can do is check-out the other guys.:D

Ryzorian 12-21-2010 05:24 AM

While there may be some truth to the idea that maturity isn't a matter of age, experiance is. Folks between 13 and 14 have alot of emotional instability because of hormonal changes they are undergoing. Not to mention they have barely started life and lack enough experiance to navigate such emotional situations.

I will agree that there can be exceptions to this, but those are exceptions, not the rule.

Snailteaser 01-01-2011 04:39 PM

what do girls think about compliments
 
I'm wondering what Japanese girls do think about men walking up to them and start making compliments.
e.g. "your eyese are beautiful" and other dull things. Aren't these actually boring?

Also I would like to know J-girls opinion about making eye contact. I heard girls in Japan are shy. Hence there is no real eye contact so men would never know the "trigger" if a J-girls is fancying them...

Also, do girls think weird if men walk up to them on an e.g. underground train or library etc. Here majority of girls are only "accepting" men's approach in clubs/bars... during the routine of everyday life they would regard any men walking up to them as weird. How is this with J-girls?

happy new year to all of you! :)

MissMisa 01-01-2011 04:57 PM

Japanese girls are all different, some of them will think it's weird, others won't. They are individuals and they will all have different opinions.

'Girls in Japan are shy' - lol no. Some girls may be shy, and it's traditional to be humble about yourself but that doesn't mean that all Japanese girls are the same and will react in the same way.

I would personally find it weird if some randomer came up to me and told me I had 'beautiful eyes,' as would most of the girls I know. I'd find that weird in any setting, but that's just my individual taste.

Snailteaser 01-01-2011 06:56 PM

no offense here, but are you actually japanese? :)

MissMisa 01-01-2011 08:51 PM

No.

If you are interested in what Japanese girls have to say, the answer will be as open and varied as if you asked all the females on JF their opinions on it, Japanese or not.

princessmarisa 01-02-2011 12:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844424)
I'm wondering what Japanese girls do think about men walking up to them and start making compliments.
e.g. "your eyese are beautiful" and other dull things. Aren't these actually boring?

Also I would like to know J-girls opinion about making eye contact. I heard girls in Japan are shy. Hence there is no real eye contact so men would never know the "trigger" if a J-girls is fancying them...

Also, do girls think weird if men walk up to them on an e.g. underground train or library etc. Here majority of girls are only "accepting" men's approach in clubs/bars... during the routine of everyday life they would regard any men walking up to them as weird. How is this with J-girls?

happy new year to all of you! :)


In England, Japan, America or I'd guess most places in the modern world if you told a random girl "your eyes are beautiful" or held eye contact for more than a fleeting second with someone other than your other half in a serious moment then you are a creep.

Watch people around you, try hold eye contact with someone for more than 2seconds, they will look away and look a little freaked.

Harsh but true. Social situations are tricky but there are certain things that you obviously never do.

NanteNa 01-02-2011 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844443)
no offense here, but are you actually japanese? :)

Check out just a few threads on here, and you will realize that majority of the members are NOT Japanese. I reckon that you won't find many Japanese people on this forum due to the mere fact that people are rarely fascinated by what they're used to. As a Dane, I can't seem to figure out why they'd open a University in China to study H.C. Andersen's fairy tales in Danish.

Theory: As a Japanese born and raised girl, I'd probably be a bit weirded out to know that people actually find themselves 'fascinated' by my country, my mere Japanese-ness and general stereotypical 'Japanese' things like anime, manga and kanji. AND I'd be even more scared if I were to find out that guys actually ask random girls.. on a forum called JapanForum.. about how to pick up Japanese girls in ways most efficient.

No offense here, of course :)

Snailteaser 01-02-2011 01:24 AM

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Originally Posted by NanteNa (Post 844490)
Check out just a few threads on here, and you will realize that majority of the members are NOT Japanese. I reckon that you won't find many Japanese people on this forum due to the mere fact that people are rarely fascinated by what they're used to.

Hahha, fair enough :)

Okay, another question to the ladies here... :-)
Imagine you're at a party.. there is a guy who is desperately trying to be the center of the party, loud, making jokes, getting the attention. Do you think is this attractive to ladies? Or is it pathetic?

JohnBraden 01-02-2011 02:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844495)
Hahha, fair enough :)

Okay, another question to the ladies here... :-)
Imagine you're at a party.. there is a guy who is desperately trying to be the center of the party, loud, making jokes, getting the attention. Do you think is this attractive to ladies? Or is it pathetic?

One doesn't have to be a girl to answer this one: the word that screams out here is "desperately" as in 'desperately trying to be the center of attention'.... desperation in this instance is pathetic....

Ryzorian 01-02-2011 07:21 PM

Guess that means no more parties for me. :D

Snailteaser 01-03-2011 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Ryzorian (Post 844641)
Guess that means no more parties for me. :D

Hahha, don't worry. The reason I asked because normally everybody would agree this is pathetic. Yet I see examples on the contrary in almost every party I go.

MissMisa 01-03-2011 12:34 AM

Maybe you just go to lame parties with weirdos? xD

Hah I jest. Does sound a bit weird though. Depends how you are putting it, you say the guy is desperate for the attention, maybe that's just your view and he's actually just an outgoing guy. *shrug*

princessmarisa 01-03-2011 05:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844689)
Hahha, don't worry. The reason I asked because normally everybody would agree this is pathetic. Yet I see examples on the contrary in almost every party I go.

I guess it depends how it is done, it shows confidence and a lot of girls really like that. Also it is often easier to get talking to and to know someone who is too loud, than someone who is too quiet.
Obvious attention seeking is bad however it is done, but these days it seems to be the sulky, overly emotional, "help my tortured sole I am so depressed" types who come across as more pathetic to me.
Loud b$'ers are annoying their own way, but at least you can have fun running circles around their flawed announcements until they fluster about with petty insults and show their pathetic side nice and clearly :mtongue:

I think all is good in moderation at a party, talk to a few people, be a tiny bit loud occasionally, seem confident in your self, and join in on things you know about, and ask interesting questions about things you don't.

If someone was just a little loud, making a few jokes, especially if he had a few drinks down him I think this is pretty normal.

NanteNa 01-04-2011 01:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844495)
Hahha, fair enough :)

Okay, another question to the ladies here... :-)
Imagine you're at a party.. there is a guy who is desperately trying to be the center of the party, loud, making jokes, getting the attention. Do you think is this attractive to ladies? Or is it pathetic?

If it's a ''desperate'' try, then it's pathetic. Being center of attention is only attractive if it comes naturally AND if it doesn't seem to feed the guy's ego.

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Originally Posted by Snailteaser (Post 844689)
Hahha, don't worry. The reason I asked because normally everybody would agree this is pathetic. Yet I see examples on the contrary in almost every party I go.

Because at parties - people are drunk or high. On JF.. people are just weird or creepy, but rarely drunk. I guess a few members would go under the suspicion of being high tho..

Ryzorian 01-05-2011 05:52 AM

I doubt anyone could feed my ego, I allready feel like I'm God's gift to the planet. ;)

Kobby 01-07-2011 05:20 PM

Hi Beauty!
 
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Originally Posted by Suki (Post 841287)
True. Hair is my favorite body feature and so guys with shoulder-length hair are A++ to me. However... Jason Statham... wouldn't turn him down.

Hi Beauty, it's been nice meeting you. Can you be my friend?

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by missprincess (Post 839865)
Hi guys i found this idea on another forum and it worked really well there, its basically for all the guys to ask the girls any questions/ queries they have about women, relationships etc that they’ve always wanted to know - since alot say that they dont know what women want, here’s a chance to ask them...
Btw I think one of the guys should start one for the girls to ask the guys questions :)
Peace!

Two great ideas miss!!! Look for props in the "Ask the guys" thread.

(I just hope no-one else started it, but I couldn't find one)

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 08:23 PM

Nice to hear form all the JF Girls. Now I have a question: Why do some girls go for effeminate men? What is the appeal?

In my skinny boy, eyeliner days I gots way more attention than I did in my less effeminate incarnation.

:p

RobinMask 03-06-2011 08:47 PM

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ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by RobinMask (Post 854667)
Maybe it's because they're easier to approach? Some overly-masculine men come across as rather intimidating, and there's a stereotype of them being only after one thing or rather crass and the like, but if a man's 'effeminate' then there's the assumption he'll be softer and easier to talk to, more sensitive and gentle. Or at least that's my take on it, lol.

lol no that's a good take on it. I often wondered because I'd heard girls sqeeing over bodybuilder types. The girls in question often said I was more approachable and easy to talk to. hmmm

junicorn 03-06-2011 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ryuhebi13 (Post 854663)
Nice to hear form all the JF Girls. Now I have a question: Why do some girls go for effeminate men? What is the appeal?

In my skinny boy, eyeliner days I gots way more attention than I did in my less effeminate incarnation.

:p

I really don't understand this. I like my men to be masculine men. I like long hair and short hair on guys, but not makeup. It can be cute from far away. but I would not actually date a guy if he is effeminate. In my opinion, I think girls have kind of messed things up for themselves. Now boys don't know what to be and they are taking on more passive roles. At least here in Japan where I am living. I think girls like girly boys because they feel like they have some kind of power over the guy if they portray themselves as the "weaker" sex...

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by junicorn (Post 854685)
I really don't understand this. I like my men to be masculine men. I like long hair and short hair on guys, but not makeup. It can be cute from far away. but I would not actually date a guy if he is effeminate. In my opinion, I think girls have kind of messed things up for themselves. Now boys don't know what to be and they are taking on more passive roles. At least here in Japan where I am living. I think girls like girly boys because they feel like they have some kind of power over the guy if they portray themselves as the "weaker" sex...

Go figure. That's just the sort of thing I heard girls say. They liked big tough masculine men who could protect them. I had a mix of girls I dated. Some confident and some shy but both wanted to be able to talk to me and they liked the confidence that I had to dress how I wanted. Imo there is no "weaker sex", girls can do 99% of what a guy can do. I've seen girls beat guys up and they where very feminine. Not butch.

ryuurui 03-06-2011 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by junicorn (Post 854685)
I really don't understand this. I like my men to be masculine men.

Oh thank you Buddha, we have normal girls in Japan. I though all of them run after skinny metro-kids equipped with narrow steel hanger-like shoulders, who run around carrying bags that were clearly designed for women, or check their hair in the window reflection of the JR door.

tokusatsufan 03-06-2011 10:55 PM

Until I was about 14,I never thought "I am a boy",I just viewed myself as an individual. I never once or at least rarely thought about my gender. The biggest problem society has,and I thought this was a West-only problem,is that men and women are still seperate. The opposite sex has maybe different interests,different hair,different body but that's all.

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 10:59 PM

Exactly. The girls knew I was a boy, they weren't looking for a girl to date. I just had some strange seperate quality that attracted them :D

ryuurui 03-06-2011 10:59 PM

Your simplification is as erroneuous as Hitler's statement that Jews were responsible for economical issues in pre WWII Germany.

You have got some serious reading or hands-on-experience activities to do.

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ryuurui (Post 854692)
Your simplification is as erroneuous as Hitler's statement that Jews were responsible for economical issues in pre WWII Germany.

You have got some serious reading or hands-on-experience activities to do.

Was that to me?

ryuurui 03-06-2011 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by ryuhebi13 (Post 854694)
Was that to me?

nah man, tokusatsufan

ryuhebi13 03-06-2011 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ryuurui (Post 854695)
nah man, tokusatsufan

Cool bro. Wasn't sure :D

RobinMask 03-06-2011 11:26 PM

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